Am I the only bride...

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   StaceytheWandererposted 11 years ago

   Am I the only bride...
   
   that gets anxiety when I actually try to plan my wedding? Let's put aside the fact my fiance and I can't afford an ultra glamorous reception, I get anxiety looking at affordable options. How can I combat this? What have you done if you have had these feelings? I'd love to hear from a vet.

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   bridalletterposted 11 years ago

   Focus more attention and money on the things that mean the most to you. After your dress, if that is the cake, the food or the honeymoon; then you can cut a few things out that you value less. Eliminate the things you can truly do without. Do you have creative friends that can help you with making some things like your invitations, wedding favors, table numbers, escort cards? This can reduce your costs or allow you to put the funds on something else.
   
   Always take a step back when you feel that anxiety and do something that normally calms you down and makes you feel good. I have a craft I do, it works like therapy for me. If something in particular is stressing you out, can someone else handle that part of the planning for you?
   
   If you can't serve a lot of food for your reception, stay away from an evening event. You can serve a few very good foods or treats. The treat bars are a wonderful option and can serve as wedding favor gift for guests too.
   
   I am the Owner for Bridal Letter and I had a small gathering for my wedding in the early 90s. The cake was important to me, but I kept it smaller and very beautiful. I spent money on the bouquet because I love flowers and on the photographer. I rented my dress, had a very reasonable priced headpiece and had help with the food. Honeymoon was local, that allowed more money for the wedding.
   
   Just keep in mind what you value the most and then list the rest under that and it will guide you through your planning a little easier.
   
   Good Luck!

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   You are not under any obligation to plan some elaborate event to celebrate your union. You always have the option of getting married at an All Inclusive Resort. A sort of combination Wedding/Honeymoon. It's usually a nominal fee to have the ceremony done at these places. Some people have been known to  get married on cruise ships such as The Oasis or The Allure. Still others jet out to Las Vegas. Some people get married in their back yard or at a friend/family member's home. The most important thing to remember is the wedding is just (one day). Your marriage is for life. Don't sweat the small stuff! Best of luck!

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