Do you think weddings are important? Why or why not?

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  1. KrystalD profile image66
    KrystalDposted 8 years ago

    Do you think weddings are important? Why or why not?

  2. sockii profile image69
    sockiiposted 8 years ago

    Are you talking about weddings being important, or marriage being important?

    I don't think weddings, as an excessive celebration, are important at all. To me they are truly just a silly waste of extreme amounts of money that could be better put to other uses (a down-payment on a house; beginning a college savings fund for children if a couple is planning on having any, etc.) I've been to some incredibly over-the-top weddings where all I could think of was that it was a way for the couple to show off, for the bride to have "her moment" in the spotlight...ugh. No thanks to me. I never was one of these girls who fantasized or dreamed about having some huge wedding one of these days.

    Marriage as an institution can be important for the legal protection it provides a couple that they don't have if not married. I've been with my partner for 10 years and we haven't bothered to get married yet, but this is really the only reason I think we should do so eventually.

    1. KrystalD profile image66
      KrystalDposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This is so true. Good for you for escaping the brainwashing.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    Not really.
    Weddings are about as important as having a birthday party. The marriage is far more important than the pomp and circumstance event thrown for the purpose of celebrating with friends and family.
    The wedding only lasts for (one) day. Ideally the marriage lasts a lifetime!
    In the U.S. the wedding business is a huge industry! Thousands of dollars are spent on a wedding dress, bridesmaids spend hundreds of dollars on their dresses, men rent tuxedos, a venue is rented, a DJ or band is hired, a photographer, a videographer, wedding bouquet, flowers, save the date notices, wedding invitations, catering staff, meals and alcohol are provided, along with a huge wedding cake and then there is a {separate cost} for the honeymoon trip!

    In a recent survey conducted by The Knot, it was revealed that the average wedding is now about $31,213 U.S. dollars.
    In a lot of places that's a down payment on a house!
    Truth be told in (many instances) the wedding is all about the bride living out her fantasy of being a "princess for a day". The groom is little more than a prop!
    A lot of guys would be content with eloping in Las Vegas, Cancun, or Jamaica. They'd rather avoid the stress leading up to the big day.
    Many women on the other hand see weddings as part of enacting the (fairytale happily ever ending) written in books and Hollywood movies.
    There's a TV show called "Bridezillas" but there is none called "Groomzillas". While most men are laid back quite a few women insist upon "perfection" for their day in the sun! smile

    1. sockii profile image69
      sockiiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There are plenty of us women who don't want the big wedding too, just keep that in mind. We aren't all bridezillas. I don't want to get married except for the legal protections and one day will probably just elope with my SO of 10 years in Italy.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image80
      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Nicole, I agree with you. This is why I didn't say (all) or even (most) women. Best wishes to you!

  4. word55 profile image71
    word55posted 8 years ago

    Yes, but not necessary. Weddings are important because they are suppose to illustrate by ceremony the forever bonding of a man and woman that God intended. Many brides and grooms want the world to witness the love and simply the person that they have chosen  to live with for the rest of their lives. Getting married entails bonding into oneness. It is a tradition to wed and celebrate it. It means so much too so many people but again, it isn't necessary to have an elaborate wedding.

    1. sockii profile image69
      sockiiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Weddings - not marriages - do not have to be about religion nor between a man and a woman. Even historically the "one man/one woman/all about love" idea that the conservative religious right wants to promote these days is historically inaccurate.

  5. connorj profile image70
    connorjposted 8 years ago

    My God, I wasn't going to provide my 2 cents worth yet after reading the answers and flipping a cent I just had to write why the Wedding Ceremony may indeed be the most important piece in the puzzle of a long and blissful marriage.
    In my faith, (keep in mind I am not trying to convert anyone) marriage is a Sacrament. This and other Sacraments were established by Christ to assist our journey through life and death. By entering into a union with my beloved before God we are making a significant commitment in front of God and we are soliciting His help to strengthen our union. We are asking for His assistance to maintain the union and eventually become one.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image80
      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "the Wedding Ceremony may indeed be the most important piece in the puzzle of a long and blissful marriage."
      More important than (whom) you marry? 
      Even if a ceremony is only done before the justice of the peace the marriage is just as sacred.

    2. connorj profile image70
      connorjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You really think that a marriage with a Justice of the Peace is just as sacred?

    3. KrystalD profile image66
      KrystalDposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I have some big questions about the fairy tale idea of a wedding versus the actual spiritual implications. It seems 30,000+ has very little to do with the faith and more to do with impressing others or pleasing ourselves.

  6. liesl5858 profile image82
    liesl5858posted 8 years ago

    I think weddings are as important as the marriage. It is the start of a new life for the bride and groom who vows to love each other for better or for worse. It seals the love of the groom and bride. The only thing is when things go wrong and the couple find that they don't love one another so they head for divorce which is really sad because after all their vows to each other, they change their minds after the wedding.

    1. KrystalD profile image66
      KrystalDposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I understand this concept too. It seems to be a personal choice. I am really not sure myself. Is it about the bride? The couple? The family? Or is it socially pushed upon us? It seems personal.

  7. Penny G profile image60
    Penny Gposted 8 years ago

    No, I feel that it should be private between a man and woman, so often weddings are a huge expense and are a display a hey look at us what we have and can spend, all for one day. What is more important is the life after the wedding.

  8. profile image50
    victorydesignsposted 8 years ago

    Follow (5)Do you think weddings are important? Why or why not?

    weddings are important  in SOUTH  INDIA.
    when we becomes old age  both these bride and groom support each others. AFTER 60, they must live their pension. nowadays  one buy one won house till his end he pays the EMI. . AFTER 60 he get pension , with his own house.  when he/she is young marriage is important and they make their life happy till their end.


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