How to cope living with your boyfriend when he does not want to continue the rel

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   AnnaCiaposted 11 years ago

   How to cope living with your boyfriend when he does not want to continue the relationship?
   
   After five years living together and even build a house he promised was both, he says he needs time and space.  She deals with a disability and has to look for a place to move while having to stay in the same house.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   An emotionally secure person has a support system as well as a positive outlook on life. They are able to make adjustments and keep rolling when they are thrown off track. In order to obtain emotional security it’s important to maintain a well balanced life. This would entail having family, friends, and co-workers she can lean on for support during rough times. These are the people she needs to get in contact and spend time with.
   With regard to her boyfriend it's important to remember all relationships are "at will" and no one is "stuck" with anyone. The only person any of us has control over is ourself. Clearly he was not "the one". If he was he would still be planning a future together. The underlying definition of soul mates is two people that share the same values, want the same things, and have (mutual) feelings for one another. In order for him to be "the one" he would have to see her as being "the one". It makes no sense for her to want to be with someone who does not want to be with her. The following is a hub you may pass on to your friend regarding getting over a breakup. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … in-General

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      AnnaCiaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio, I appreciate your answer.  Great message.

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   stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

   She needs to find the courage to ask friends and family for support so she can get out of the house as soon as possible.  It's in her best interests to leave while he has these issues.  She would only be miserable so long as she has to continue to share the house with him.

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   VeronicaInspiresposted 11 years ago

   If he's expressed that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, she (or he) needs to find somewhere else to stay. Even if they're living together because of financial constraints, I'm sure either one can find somewhere else to go. What you expressed doesn't seem like a healthy situation. And as stricktlydating noted, I'm sure family and friends would be more than happy to support her decision. God ALWAYS provides a way out. When at peace about it, proceed. Best of luck.

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