How would you cope with a much older husband?

  1. DDE profile image46
    DDEposted 10 years ago

    How would you cope with a much older husband?

    He is 19 years older than her she is 43 he is 62  he is constantly trying to pull the reins on his son who is 20 and wife of the above-mentioned age he has stopped living that is the actual problem in this case. He can sometimes be childish or behave like a child the woman is faced with such behavior and often arguments  about the son going out it is too much to cope with and is also getting frustrating she is fed up of trying to explain the simple things to her husband.

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  2. dashingscorpio profile image81
    dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

    It's funny how things we initially found attractive in a person we come to dislike. My guess is this man's "childish ways" were seen as youthful initially. If she disliked it she chose to (ignore) it then.
    "There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have."
    This woman has to decide if things don't change; Is this a deal breaker for her?
    The truth is no one gets married looking to have someone change them. Odds are 62 year old person is "comfortable" in their own skin.
    If she still loves and appreciates her husband for all the traits she fell in love with him than it's possible for her  to (choose) not to get involved with issues that deal with the son.
    Trying to get someone other than ourselves to change is a often a frustrating experience. If she can't accept him the way he (is) it probably means she made a mistake in marrying him.
    People don't get married to (change) each other. They get married because they are "in love" with a person the way they are!
    If it's a "deal breaker" get out!
    If it's not a "deal breaker" learn to do without.
    Only she knows how big of a deal this is for her and her marriage.

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    1. DDE profile image46
      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for taking part in this question you are so right

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