Are you unhappily married?

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   what part about your marriage would you change if you could?

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      Dave Barnettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Why, whatcha got in mind, sweetheart?LOL

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not married. So, first I would need to get married.

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      leebertteaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The part where you only get to have sex with the same person. That just ain't right!

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      wildorangeflowerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If I am married I will try to fit in to what my husband like me to be without compromising what I am.

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      cutelady60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I would of not married again if I knew my husband is a liar. He looks online for women talks to his ex wife on face book. Want out now

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      cutelady60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      not marry

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   cute Dave....lol

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   Precious Williamsposted 14 years ago

   In my dreams - my husband!  But in reality - nothing.  I married in sickness and in health...

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   mega1posted 14 years ago

   I was also very sick when I got married and I never got better. So the answer is __ NO, not now!

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      Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'd use the laughing faces but I don't know how to make those! I love that answer!!

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         you press :  then type lol  then press :
         

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   the clean lifeposted 14 years ago

   Heck no I am very happily married for 30 years a my wife is not only my wife, but my soul mate, my friend, my companion, and my lover

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      that's what I want-kudos

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      feisty womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely perfect.  So pleased for you both x

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   WryLiltposted 14 years ago

   If I could get a refund on any part of my marriage... it would be my mother in law

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      Baileybearposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ha ha!!

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      feisty womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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   habeeposted 14 years ago

   I have a wonderful husband! If I could change one thing, it would be his short temper. Other than that, he's almost perfect! He has a short fuse, but he gets over it quickly.

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      IsadoraPandoraposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is the only thing I'd change in my marriage too!

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      Rajab Nsubugaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      "He has a short fuse," Is it the only "short" thing about him?

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   Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years ago

   My husband (number two) is my knight in shining armour! He is a wonderful, wonderful man and I wouldn't change him.  Sure, he has his faults, so do I. He tolerates mine as I do his.  Life would be boring if we were too much alike!  In short, yes, I am happily married.
   Now there's this woman in town that clearly isn't. We had a guy come to see our shop on his way out of state and he told us how he came to the area to surprise the 'woman of his dreams' whom he met online.  The surprise was a huge one as it was her husband that answered the door! Talk about an oops! He didn't know she was married and her hubby didn't know what she was doing behind his back! This goes to show you that if you cheat, even if only emotionally, you will get caught sooner or later.

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      freespirit2000posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      My husband and I are totally opposites and in my opinion, its keeps the marriage alive.  I would never want to be married so someone just like me.  Ive been married only 5 years and you learn so much.  He is also the love of my life.

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   funny one chaotic chica, yes that internet stuff is going to get alot of marriages in trouble let alone dangerous.  some of the answers are so funny.  keep it going!

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      Home Girlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I am happily unmarried!

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         cutelady60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         why

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    jimmy.liaoposted 14 years ago

    I want marry .but it is very difficult for young in china ,the house is too dear to buy ，

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       IsadoraPandoraposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I'm sorry for that. Maybe soon you will find a way to marry!

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       alternate poetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Tell me about it !!!    and not just the young people, I am struggling with that on good Chinese wages !

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    kmackey32posted 14 years ago

    yup, thats why i filed for a divorce...

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    on the marriage, If I will be married, I don't want it to be boring, I want my man to have free time and for him to achieve his full potential, support him all the way! I see this things with my friends and my sister. Maybe it is better said than done, but still it is an ideal.

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    Sweetsusiegposted 14 years ago

    I thought I was happily married for almost 25 years.  I knew we had our differences, but with perseverance and determination on both our parts we could work through anything. 
    
    He decided to make a simplified confession earlier this year, I was not satisfied with this and did some digging.  Understand there had been questions over the years that had went unanswered or falsified.
    
    After I found out from what I had assumed to be a friend, he did a total confession which took 3 days to complete.  Now most of the memories that I had thought were happy are tainted by his confessions. 
    
    I think now, I would change the 'exchanging of the vows' part, and just forgo the relationship altogether.  I haven't decided to leave as of yet, and I am not even sure my mind is still in the marriage.

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    sandieganlizposted 14 years ago

    Some of these reasons are why I am scared to make the VOW!!! :-/

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    TerryGlposted 14 years ago

    I think support, I seem to be living by the addage of:
    
    Behind every successful man, there is a surprised woman.
    
    
    

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       lyjoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Absolutely, the things you find out after a few years?... quite surprising,all a learning curve, but oh so much fun! My husband & I drive each other crazy, on purpose, just to have some fun, we are each others very best friends, we are each others priority, and have been happily married for almost 8 years, and together a little over 10.....nothing amazing is ever easy!

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    Greek Oneposted 14 years ago

    my wife and I are very happily married..
    
    she is a very lucky woman

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       sofsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I wouldn't think of changing anything. I would like to change myself if there is a problem. All changes need to to made first from within.
       Yes I agree with greek one for once.......... I am happily married

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    wychicposted 14 years ago

    If I could change anything, it would be those factors that have led him to the only unsavory element in our marriage. If I could change it, I'm sure he wouldn't mind, they're things that make him miserable...he tries not to let me see so that it won't bother me, but he knows I know they're there. As far as him as a person goes...nope, I wouldn't change a thing either! Heck, I'd love it if he made about five times his current wage just so he could work only when he wanted to and we could spend more time together, but other than that .

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    SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

    ....love all my marriages....just the wedding(s) part....then the divorce parties start...they are lots of fun!!!!!!...married my divorce lawyer once...Bob...he was my dream guy, until he said "i do"....

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    tpletchposted 14 years ago

    I am for working on the relationships you are already in.  Any new ones you get into will have problems as well.

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       rosariosblogposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Sometimes, it's polite or respectful to just stay with a partner though you're bored to death

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    A.Choudhuryposted 14 years ago

    I think all mirrage have problems even if the person is perfect. One thing i would say is to those people who have arrange mirrage dont do it as you dont know what your getting. Its always nice at the begging but then they show who they really are.

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    Bill Manningposted 14 years ago

    I've been single so long I think I actually prefer it. I got my freedom, peace and quiet, do whatever I want, go anywhere anytime, cheap too!
    
    Only thing that sucks is the lack of sex, of course.

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       klarawieckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Oh, NO, BIll!!! Being able to snuggle with the one you love every night as you fall asleep, and staying in bed on Sunday mornings when you can sleep late? Ah! There is nothing like it! You must try it sometime.
       I am happily married to the most amazing man!

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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    her family

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    efeguyposted 14 years ago

    am happily married so cant change anytin

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    alternate poetposted 14 years ago

    I was married over 30 years to a woman so perfect, so intelligent, so desireable - her opinion not mine.

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    SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

    ...i see this thread is movin' again...
    
    ...i'll say it again...what would i change?...'i do'....

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    WryLiltposted 14 years ago

    ...the fact he's got too much in common with the stereotypical black man.

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    sofsposted 14 years ago

    Would like to shout it out again.... Very happily married...

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    ftclickposted 14 years ago

    I like intelligent poets' reply. classic

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    TiredWifeposted 14 years ago

    I am I just feel like a robot. I keep thinking is this what marriage is about. It really makes me so sad. I hate being sad everyday where is the happiness. Only thing that keeps me going is my kids. All I can do is pray maybe things will change but I doubt it. Everything I do is just programmed. Like I am about to go cook dinner do what I have to do w/the kids wait for him to get home serve dinner make sure kids are bathed read to watch a bit of T.V. and then bed.. REPEAT again tomorrow.. (& YES I have shared my feeling to my husband but nothing happens... so my Robot life cont.)

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    Diane Insideposted 14 years ago

    Marriage is hard, but worth it. I love my husband very much and he loves me. With the economy the way it is, money is an issue, but we are pretty frugal people anyway so we make it work.
    
    He works long hours, and is tired most of the time these days. But he is such a good sport about it all.
    
    That's why I make an extra effort to make it easier on him, by doing everything around the house, to alow him time to rest. I respect his need for down time since his hours are so long, sometimes 16 hour days.
    
    So am I happily married YES! Of course there are things that I wish I could make better. But that is just human nature to improve upon any situation we are in.

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    katiem2posted 14 years ago

    I'm not married and plan to keep it that way.
    
    But I am in a longterm committed relationship.
    
    I adore my bf and appreciate all that is him, but if I could change one thing...
    
    It would be...
    
    The thing he does when he suddenly doesn't get something very simple that I'm saying...when he normally get the most complex things... maybe that's the time for me to shut up and give him some peace and quiet.  Hummmm I think I may have solved my one thing.
    
    Great question Dawn, I'll watch to see what develops and what I can learn. 

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    khmohsinposted 14 years ago

    ... i am short listed to get married
    after that i will answer

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    dawnMposted 14 years ago

    Yes I think that staying married now a days takes work and if there is still great sex in the marriage, than that helps to keep the relationship going, not to mention it feels good...lol

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       Rajab Nsubugaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       what feels good? the sex or the marriage?

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       katiem2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       So true and what I find to be amazing is so many people truly aren't happy and just deal with it....
       
       I say no way BE HAPPY 

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    SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

    'unhappily married'.....no!

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    SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

    today...maybe....

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    dawnMposted 14 years ago

    well I would have to say both...lol

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    CYBERSUPEposted 14 years ago

    NO to the basic question.   Happily married to the very same girl for 52 years.

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       SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ...that's nice to hear Cybersupe...good for you!

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    SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

    ...btw....i'm into 'yes' now....
    
    ...opened the fridge today and this happened to me....i'm not happy.....
    
    

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       dawnMposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       lol   lol   lol

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       klarawieckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hahahaha... I love it!!!

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          SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          sheesh...i see this thread has started up again....don't get me started........
          
          ...jan. is divorce month in NA.....  ....wish i was a lawyer.....time to make some real money......

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    CYBERSUPEposted 14 years ago

    Thank You so much Somewayottahere. It has been an awesome ride, would do it all over asgain.

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    John Wiggensposted 14 years ago

    YEP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    lorlie6posted 14 years ago

    I'm very happily married, AND I love my mother-in-law!  How's that for bizarre?

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       SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ...glad to hear that Lorlie...and 'ma inlaw' too....wow...good for you....that's the way it's supposed to be, right?....but doesn't seem to work out that way for everyone....you go girl!

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    Paul Wingertposted 14 years ago

    "Are you unhappily married?"
    Answer: Yes I was.
    
    I fixed that by divorcing the psycho b***h"
    Now I'm happily single, but still looking for Mrs. Right.

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    brimancandyposted 14 years ago

    I'm not allowed to be married by law, but, I have had a partner for over 20 years. If I could change anything, I would certainly like to trade up for someone a little more studly and younger. I could also use a little less 3rd degree crap on everything I do.
    
    With that said, our relationship has various levels of happy. I do enjoy his company on occasion, and he tries not to be a total bitch all the time. But, I also have a level or respect for him, and I do care about him, but, it's no longer a sexual thing.
    
    But, if I thought I had a chance with Ryan Seacrest, I would trade up and marry him in a second. He's hot, and rich. Who could ask for more!

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    zthao89posted 14 years ago

    Yes, I am unhappily married. It's been this way for a while. Married since I was 15 so of course I was young & naive. Now I'm 21 and my husband hates me. He says I'm a burden on his life and he hates taking care of me, blah, blah, blah...Hates the way I look. "Why can't I just be skinny like other wives?" The list goes on and on. All my flaws -- he can't love me unconditionally. And I feel that I can't do the same for him either. I'm just so dicouraged that this marriage is ever gonna work. I want out, but it's easier said than done. He abuses me both physically and emotionally. This marriage is a mess. He just hasn't proposed divorce because he wants to save face. He doesn't wanna be known as the guy whose marriage failed.

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