Our lives are for the most part the end result of the (choices) and decisions (we) have made along the way. Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. There's no getting around this. Even if one is using online dating they are still responsible for the profiles they select over those they (chose) to overlook. You're the buyer!
"If it's on my plate I must have ordered it."
The first thing a person has to do is (own their choices) in life. Whenever we focus on things outside of us as the cause for our unhappiness it makes us feel hopeless. If you want something different (you) have to do something different!
"Perception is reality"
A person who has a negative mindset and constantly says things like; "It's them", "All the good ones are taken" or "They're are liars, cheaters, or emotionally unavailable and none of them want a commitment." is creating (their own) reality. The truth is over 2.3 Million weddings take place each year in the U.S. alone! That's over 6000 weddings per day.
No matter what you look like or what you do for living you are someone's "type". People blame their appearance for being alone.
Simply go for a walk, look around the grocery store, mall, parks, beaches, movie theatre, restaurants, or even churches and you will see people whom you feel are overweight, too skinny, have odd shaped physical features, bowlegged, missing teeth or whatever and you believe you are more attractive than they are....And yet you see them with a mate! They've got someone special they're holding hands with, laughing with, hugging, and kissing as they go through life.
One of the issues "good people" have is they're NOT attracted to other "good people"! In our youth both the "nice girls" and the "nice boys" get ignored by the cool or popular kids. Instead of the "nice girls" and "nice boys" coupling up they become determined to find a way to be (accepted) by the "in crowd". There's the old quote: "We ignore those who adore us and adore those who ignore us."
You could stick a woman in a room with five guys and have four of them on their knees extending their heart out towards her while the fifth guy sits in a corner sipping a cocktail acting as if she does not exist. That will be the guy she wants to get to know!
People say they want a nice,honest, open, loving mate; BUT they chase after those who are a "mystery" or a "challenge".
One place where we're sure to find "good people" are those we've placed in "The Friend Zone".