What could your partner do to make you believe they were cheating?

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years ago

   What could your partner do to make you believe they were cheating?
   
   

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   Engeltaposted 9 years ago

   1. Become distant and cold with me would be the first reason. But, there are days in everyone's life when we are distant with everybody because we simply want to be alone, or we're not really into talking that day. However is he is distant for a long period, then I'd consider cheating.
   2. Nowadays girls and guys play it cool by acting even more romantic and lovely than they really are. This is the second fire sign for sure!
   3. He would begin staying in his phone/ email all the time, or his phone vibrates/ rings all the time. Who is he talking to, right?
   4. He would not write to me, or answer the phone any time I call, when he did answer before, or would write to me all the time, even when he was having coffee with friends. ... etc.
   To sum up: any change in attitude, behavior, or the way he takes care for himself, is something you should take into account as maybe he is cheating.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Zoenchi,
      It can come down to a simple change in attitude.
      Thank you,
      Lisa

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   A (major change in behavior) or treatment towards you is the key.
   Just as Zoenchi noted distance/spending less time together, secretive, less contact throughout the day, not returning calls in a timely manner or being less available, seldom initiating contact, dramatic drop in affection/sex, the absence of eye contact during meals and conversations,becoming easily irritated or angry over the slightest things, reacts defensively whenever you ask where they were by accusing you of being insecure or having trust issues while never answering the question, a sudden interest in working out and buying new clothes, showering you with gifts (after being absent) for stretches of time, rarely saying "I love you", and a general feeling that they are simply "going through the motions".
   Once again it really comes down to them no longer behaving like themselves. If something doesn't feel right to you then it's probably not right for you. Unless you have a history of paranoid and insecure then you should simply trust your instincts and move on.
   Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself
   Ignoring "red flags" can lead to both regret and heartache
   The bottom line is once you  (stop trusting your mate) the relationship is doomed whether you're right or wrong.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio,
      I agree that trust is the key in any relationship. If you have to resort to any of the methods to catch someone it's already too late.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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   Old-Empresarioposted 9 years ago

   - they keep their phone locked and close to them
   - always texting
   - has friends of the opposite sex
   - suddenly overly-preoccupied with appearance

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Old-Empresario,
      I guess it's pretty bad in the first place if you somehow know that they've got their phone locked.
      Thanks,
      Lisa

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Old-Empresario, Lisa makes a good point. How would one know their mate's phone is locked unless they were snooping? Some people also see nothing wrong with having opposite sex friends. It's (major changes) in behavior which raises suspicions.

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