how hard is it to truly forgive and forget what someone who you love hurts you?

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   Smikleposted 14 years ago

   how hard is it to truly forgive and forget what someone who you love hurts you? forgiveness is
   
   easy,when we jus say am sorry without affection or meaning it, doing this the hurt still lingers and it becomes hard for you to move away from the hurt that youv'e been cause by that person. so how do we truly forgive is to first acknowledge where we went wrong first even if you werent the one who started it, this creates a more comfortable setting so the other person will be able to point out their flaws just to show they are sorry and the emotions can flow freely. but the "forget issue" i think thats just a phrase thats added can't really be done, i feel you will always remember.  thanks.

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   MEjonesposted 14 years ago

   ... hard to do. When someone hurts me so bad, I can not forgive them no matter what. I think its just awkward or something.

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   A347Fposted 14 years ago

   Hi saw your quest. & I think thats some very insightful thinking!
   
   In fact that quest. is extremely hard to answer. You can either forgive or not and none would be wrong. You just have to feel content and happy as to whichever decision you choose.
   
   Regardless of the decision you must learn to let go & move on. To get rid of the bitter and or hate you have but yes of course you will always remember, forgive & forget is just a silly saying that they use so the pain simmers down.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   Especially if it's the other person who's done something wrong or hurt you, you can't expect the other person to admit it and say sorry, nor can you pressure them into seeing they were wrong and wanting to make it up to you. And when it's you that did something wrong, the  other person can't always be pressured into forgiving you.  It's your own decision if you want to forgive, apologise or just decide to move on. Some people aren't meant to stay in our lives for a reason.

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   duke57posted 13 years ago

   What is forgiveness? Forgiveness to to excuse a wrong and not to hold that to any account. Now the world says one can forgive but never forget. when we look at forgivness from God's point of view,he states in several passages:
   Colossians 1:13-14 For he has resued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kindom of the son he loves.in whom we have redemption the forgivness of sins.
   Colossians 3:13 Bear with one each other and forgive what ever greivences you have against one another , forgive as the Lord has forgiven you.
   Inforgiving one another, you do forgive and forget, you also forgive without expecting any responce in return.Forgivness is freely given and the slate wriped clean, the same as Christ did for us at the cross and did the moment you accepted him  as your Lord and
   Saviour.
   it is also veryimportant ti note that just because our ememy(Satan) brings to mind our past and he will and does, Because we already have an advocate with our Father who is Jesus Christ. We can choose to entertian Satan's thought or turn to our Saviour

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