Yes, it is very easy for me to forget because I have a short memory.
It can be.
I wrote a book called, "The Art of Forgiveness," Rod Martin, Jr., available on Amazon. I'm selling it for the minimum Amazon would allow for me to retain the copyright.
I'll give you the highlights.
Without ego, you are no longer vulnerable and it becomes effortless to forgive. In fact, it becomes effortless to turn the other cheek as Christ taught us.
When someone says that they forgive but cannot forget, then they are holding onto the ball-and-chain of resentment and what they think of as "forgiving" is merely empty lip service.
Four ingredients create a solid foundation for forgiveness:
(3) Faith (perfect confidence)
I discuss these in detail in the book, but I'll add one remarkable fact:
When one takes 100% responsibility, there's no room for blame. With that, you're taking the divine viewpoint that allows for unconditional love.
To forgive is easy to forget is hard, sometimes it takes some assistance from a secretary to file the memory away.
I don't think you should forget. You have to learn from whatever happened. Remembering doesn't mean you have to wallow in it or hold a grudge.
There is not an easy way to forgive or forget somethings........
It up to you how you handle the issue. If one thinks that it is easy then it works like that. If for one its tough so it thus. Actually if one tries to forget something very hard then one remembers the issue more so taking things easy and simple is the most effective way at least for me. I try to divert my mind to some more positive things then to ponder on one issue that i may try to forget or forgive, Forget and forgive is very good for own heart to breathe easy and enjoy life simple way.
Thanks for the nice question.
I don't know if 'easy' is the word I would use...just know that is absolutely possible! Forgiving and forgetting is for us not for them, cliche I know, but very true, which is probably why it is cliche! If you are struggling with being able to forgive and forget, just keep trying, it will come. I truly believe we are all capable of forgiving and forgetting and that we are worthy of being forgiven. Unfortunately, sometimes there will be those that will be unable to forgive and forget however, and that is perhaps the most difficult of all-especially, if you are the one seeking forgiveness. Forgiving yourself when others are unable or unwilling to forgive you can sometime leave you feeling unworthy...forget that! We are all flawed and we all make and have made mistakes and we cannot undo what has been done, all we can do is ask or seek forgiveness-they can either accept it or they won't.
It's easier to create troubles, misunderstandings, fights and break-ups.
To forgive is not easy when it comes to certain issues. To forget can be easier in order to move on.
Sometimes I find it easier to talk about certain problems with a friend, forgive, forget and go our seperate ways. That's where a friend becomes an ex-friend.
That's where I can move on and the other one has no choice but to do the same.
Easy or not it's something we must do in order to keep growing as individuals. If we carry resentment and anger we only damage our own precious being. We have to let go and move on, and as Ione77star says 'take responsibility' for our actions or lack of them.
I know easy to talk the talk, but just being a bit more mindful and self aware does help.
I think for most things it would be if we try hard enough. But just before reading your question, I was reading about a little Welsh schoolgirl who has gone missing - now believed murdered. If I was that wee soul's Mum, I don't think I would ever forget what happened to her and I certainly don't think I would ever forgive the evil ******** who had taken her life and put my wee one through such terror and pain.
I think there are just some things in life too traumatic and painful to forget or forgive.
Yes, when you place your thoughts in more important matters other than regret and hatred, and any other kind of human negative thoughts.
Forgiveness is liberating for the person doing the forgiving. Holding grudges causes unrest, strife, even health problems. Forgiveness is key in any marriage because no one is perfect. If you love someone enough, forgiveness is easy. Forgetting is harder, but time makes things fade.
by Anan Celeste 6 years ago
Do you know how to forgive? Can you forget?It's rather easy to say I forgive you,but is it always so?
by Steven Escareno 7 years ago
In a relationship, we're all prone to making mistakes. Some mistakes are often bigger than others. however, i would like to ask all of you, what's the importance of forgiveness in a relationship?
by LaVieja 8 years ago
People often say forgive and forget, but is it true? Can you forgive someone despite not forgetting? Or does true forgiveness only come when it is forgotten?
by Smikle 7 years ago
how hard is it to truly forgive and forget what someone who you love hurts you? forgiveness iseasy,when we jus say am sorry without affection or meaning it, doing this the hurt still lingers and it becomes hard for you to move away from the hurt that youv'e been cause by that person. so how do we...
by funnydbzchick 7 years ago
Do you think revenge is bliss or is it better to forgive and forget if the situation is bad enough?
by H C Palting 6 years ago
What things could you never forgive?Whether or not you are religious, are you the type to always forgive anything, or do you have an idea of things that you doubt that you would forgive?
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