Is that easy to forgive and forget?

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  1. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image62
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 10 years ago

    Is that easy to forgive and forget?

  2. flashmakeit profile image60
    flashmakeitposted 10 years ago

    Yes, it is very easy for me to forget because I have a short memory.

  3. lone77star profile image78
    lone77starposted 10 years ago

    It can be.

    I wrote a book called, "The Art of Forgiveness," Rod Martin, Jr., available on Amazon. I'm selling it for the minimum Amazon would allow for me to retain the copyright.

    I'll give you the highlights.

    Without ego, you are no longer vulnerable and it becomes effortless to forgive. In fact, it becomes effortless to turn the other cheek as Christ taught us.

    When someone says that they forgive but cannot forget, then they are holding onto the ball-and-chain of resentment and what they think of as "forgiving" is merely empty lip service.

    Four ingredients create a solid foundation for forgiveness:
    (1) Love
    (2) Responsibility
    (3) Faith (perfect confidence)
    (4) Humility

    I discuss these in detail in the book, but I'll add one remarkable fact:

    When one takes 100% responsibility, there's no room for blame. With that, you're taking the divine viewpoint that allows for unconditional love.

    1. Faith Reaper profile image84
      Faith Reaperposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, lone77star, this is an amazing answer to glorify our Lord.  God Bless.
      In His Love, Faith Reaper  I was going to answer, but I will just say ditto on your answer, if I may do so.

  4. violetheaven profile image59
    violetheavenposted 10 years ago

    To forgive is easy to forget is hard, sometimes it takes some assistance from a secretary to file the memory away.

    1. faisalb87 profile image37
      faisalb87posted 10 years agoin reply to this


    2. Mazzy Bolero profile image68
      Mazzy Boleroposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think you should forget. You have to learn from whatever happened. Remembering doesn't mean you have to wallow in it or hold a grudge.

    3. violetheaven profile image59
      violetheavenposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      thats why its still kept on file.

  5. faisalb87 profile image37
    faisalb87posted 10 years ago

    There is not an easy way to forgive or forget somethings........

  6. dghbrh profile image79
    dghbrhposted 10 years ago

    It up to you how you handle the issue. If one thinks that it is easy then it works like that. If for one its tough so it thus. Actually if one tries to forget something very hard then one remembers the issue more so taking things easy and simple is the most effective way at least for me. I try to divert my mind to some more positive things then to ponder on one issue that i may try to forget or forgive, Forget and forgive is very good for own heart to breathe easy and enjoy life simple way.
    Thanks for the nice question.

  7. raquelpier profile image67
    raquelpierposted 10 years ago

    I don't know if 'easy' is the word I would use...just know that is absolutely possible! Forgiving and forgetting is for us not for them, cliche I know, but very true, which is probably why it is cliche! smile If you are struggling with being able to forgive and forget, just keep trying, it will come. I truly believe we are all capable of forgiving and forgetting and that we are worthy of being forgiven. Unfortunately, sometimes there will be those that will be unable to forgive and forget however, and that is perhaps the most difficult of all-especially, if you are the one seeking forgiveness. Forgiving yourself when others are unable or unwilling to forgive you can sometime leave you feeling unworthy...forget that! smile We are all flawed and we all make and have made mistakes and we cannot undo what has been done, all we can do is ask or seek forgiveness-they can either accept it or they won't.

  8. Escobana profile image74
    Escobanaposted 10 years ago

    It's easier to create troubles, misunderstandings, fights and break-ups.

    To forgive is not easy when it comes to certain issues. To forget can be easier in order to move on.

    Sometimes I find it easier to talk about certain problems with a friend, forgive, forget and go our seperate ways. That's where a friend becomes an ex-friend.

    That's where I can move on and the other one has no choice but to do the same.

  9. samnashy profile image75
    samnashyposted 10 years ago

    Easy or not it's something we must do in order to keep growing as individuals.  If we carry resentment and anger we only damage our own precious being.  We have to let go and move on, and as Ione77star says 'take responsibility' for our actions or lack of them.
    I know easy to talk the talk, but just being a bit more mindful and self aware does help.

  10. Seeker7 profile image82
    Seeker7posted 10 years ago

    I think for most things it would be if we try hard enough. But just before reading your question, I was reading about a little Welsh schoolgirl who has gone missing - now believed murdered. If I was that wee soul's Mum, I don't think I would ever forget what happened to her and I certainly don't think I would ever forgive the evil ********  who had taken her life and put my wee one through such terror and pain.

    I think there are just some things in life too traumatic and painful to forget or forgive.

    1. faisalb87 profile image37
      faisalb87posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes dear as I said we can't forget something’s and can’t forgive someone due to many reasons.

  11. MG Singh profile image73
    MG Singhposted 10 years ago

    Yes it is easy if you have imbibed the Gita and Guru Nanak

  12. unvrso profile image85
    unvrsoposted 10 years ago

    Yes, when you place your thoughts in more important matters other than regret and hatred, and any other kind of human negative thoughts.

  13. Ann1Az2 profile image62
    Ann1Az2posted 10 years ago

    Forgiveness is liberating for the person doing the forgiving. Holding grudges causes unrest, strife, even health problems. Forgiveness is key in any marriage because no one is perfect. If you love someone enough, forgiveness is easy. Forgetting is harder, but time makes things fade.


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