Do you often fight or argue with your partner because of ego problems?

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   saideepaposted 13 years ago

   Often I argued only to realize that the more we fought, we drifted apart, so i gave in , forgot my ego and try to adjust for the better good of my family.

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   Cheeky Girlposted 13 years ago

   Ego issues suggests strong personalities to me. Why are you fighting and arguing? I have differences with others, doesn't mean I have to get into fights with them. People are allowed to have different opinions. People can disagree with me if they want to. Even I can be wrong too sometimes. But that goes for just about everyone, I guess. Not all relationships come with a guarantee of no conflict. Not everyone will side with us or agree on every big or small thing we say we want or insist on. We get by as long as we allow some give and take. We have to work hard to learn to express u=ourselves to partners so we don't hurt their feelings. Especially when we love our partners. Tip - "seperate the person from the problem". In short, divide the problem into 2 parts, the person, and the problem, and deal with the problem without hurting the person. Yes, it is hard to learn. But with practice, it works. I can say to my partner I have an issue with the words coming out of their mouth - but without putting my partner down or hurting feelings. It takes ego out of the picture. I hope this helps. Cheers.
   
   Cassy.

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   I've written a hub on Ego and How to see past it, if that helps.
   
   http://hubpages.com/hub/Character-Educa … ee-Past-It

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   ssaulposted 13 years ago

   oh yea, i tired of having the same argument all the time.

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   jimmy yangposted 13 years ago

   no,but occasionally !
   sometimes，I even made my mom agreed with me ans made her sad !
   I feel very sorry about that !Even now,when I think of my dear mom,I will feel sorrry about my actions ! Why could I make she sad ?Why should I show more respects to them ?
   If I have a child,how should I do to teach him/her to respect my parents?How should I do to let my child to respect his/her parents ?
   If we want to get something from our child,whydonot we give the same thing to our parents ?

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   Otherwise said, Cheeky is single.  I imagine in most relationships, someone decides to stow their pride and the other dominates to some extent.  In current society it is more correct for the woman to do so.  In a relationship of equals, it doesn't have to be a fight though sometimes it gets to that point but compromise usually follows a demonstration of who feels the most strongly about the issue.   Sometimes that takes a clash of the egos to figure out.  In such cases fights do happen every now and again.  However, this being said, if there is a fight, there must be a reconciliation and an increase of love afterward or the fight only puts a notch between you and your loved one that may cause more damage then the contest of wills itself might have.

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   Cheeky Girlposted 13 years ago

   In a relationship with two very strong personalities due to egos, there will be more conflict than in a relationship with one strong ego and one less strong ego. We learn to filter and to observe ourselves doing things and recognise the signs. There is give and take in every relationship. It takes work and patience and time. If we really have strong and loving feelings for that special person in our life, then it is worth making some sacrifices. We reap what we sow.

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   I will take that as a confirmation.

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