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If a woman earns more money than her Husband, could it create problems between t

  1. Lady_E profile image75
    Lady_Eposted 4 years ago

    If a woman earns more money than her Husband, could it create problems between them?

    or could it actually be a good thing?

  2. jdw7979 profile image79
    jdw7979posted 4 years ago

    My gal earns more than I do, and has since her and I have been together. I am ok with it as is she. We take care of our boy and work hard to keep up with expenses.. though, tough at times, to us it does not matter who is the bread winner in the house. Nobody should be bothered by this.

    I credit my gal for all she has accomplished to earn what she does, and no matter who works harder or claims too(LOL) the big picture is family and happiness.. With the economy the way it is, who cares which makes more- the man or woman? Let it go folks!

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Lovely.

  3. suzettenaples profile image91
    suzettenaplesposted 4 years ago

    Only if they allow it to create problems.  What difference does it make who makes more money?

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly, What difference....   Thanks.

  4. Silva Hayes profile image91
    Silva Hayesposted 4 years ago

    It "could" create problems; then again, it might not.  It's impossible to generalize on a question like this, since it depends on the personalities of the two people involved in the relationship.  It can also create problems when the husband earns more than the wife.  In either case, a flawed personality could use this as another opportunity to control or belittle their partner.  If the marriage is between two sensible, mature adults, then it won't be an issue, since they will be working toward a common goal.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks.

  5. ienjoythis profile image85
    ienjoythisposted 4 years ago

    This boils down to two critical factors: does the husband have inferiority issues? Does the wife boast about her earnings, directly or indirectly communicating to her husband that he is not bringing home adequate income? If either or both of these factors are present, then yes, there will be problems between them.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks. :-)

  6. resspenser profile image81
    resspenserposted 4 years ago

    For me, it's a good thing. I'm retired and enjoy spending her hard earned money!!

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Lucky you. :-)

  7. d.william profile image73
    d.williamposted 4 years ago

    It does in greater than 50% of relationships where both spouses work.  It is a put down for most men when they are not able to earn equal pay to their spouses.  And it certainly does affect their personal relationships.  When a man feels inadequate in other areas of a relationship it carries over to the personal/physical relationships as well.  It is just human nature.
    And the majority of those situations end up in separation when you couple the sense of inadequacy in the male with the air of superiority of the woman who earns more $$ than her partner.
    Whether it is perceived or real, the damages are the same.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      True but hopefully if the woman downplays it like pstraubie48 noted above, it shouldn't lead to separation. Thanks.

  8. jandee profile image56
    jandeeposted 4 years ago

    If it does then there is already a problem, isn't there ?

  9. pstraubie48 profile image87
    pstraubie48posted 4 years ago

    Yes in some cases it can. It happened to me. There was jealousy and friction even though I tried to downplay the significance of it. Perhaps there was a basic insecurity on his part...I certainly never alluded to the fact that i 'made more'. It just wasn't important to me. What was important to me was that I had a loving  husband who was a great father to my daughter.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's lovely and the way it should be. I like the way you handled it.

  10. jstfishinman profile image60
    jstfishinmanposted 4 years ago

    It depends on how much a man is comfortable in his own skin. An example would be a man, with self esteem issues, already feels bad about himself, and the wife being the bread winner will take him even lower in his self esteem issues.
    It also depends on how it is handled by both parties. An example is this is my money and that is your money, where in reality it is the households money. this kind of thinking will hurt any marriage but when the wife is the breadwinner it gets amplified. Men need to have their egos stroked by the woman they love. If you can keep a man's ego charged, very little else matters for most men. The real problem develops when the wife is working long hours and another woman starts stroking his ego. That is the first step to adultery, it always starts in the mind.
    Be looking out for the pitfalls  that can happen in any marriage, they get amplified with damaged egos. Communication as always, is the key to success.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Good points raised. Thanks.

  11. Galadriel Arwen profile image78
    Galadriel Arwenposted 4 years ago

    That question is determined as to how the wife and husband's ego is constructed. Some men enjoy having a rich woman. Some women do not like to support a man. Some men do not want their wife to make more than they do or they feel they have not done their job. It is according to their mental state, how they were raised and what they believe their role in their relationship is.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks. Culture does matter a lot. In Africa, the woman would have a hard time because she earns more than her hubby. Well, most women.

  12. livelifeworryfree profile image80
    livelifeworryfreeposted 4 years ago

    It could if the man is not secure in his own skin. Likewise, house husbands are becoming more and more common.  A new era opens the door to new ways of living and earning money.  Those that run with the ball scores.  All honest work is honorable.  If a wife earns more it shouldn't matter because it leads to the same end: bills getting paid and dreams being realized.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      So true.

  13. prettynutjob30 profile image92
    prettynutjob30posted 4 years ago

    I believe if your partner loves you, it should not matter who makes more money. When we join our partners we are in love with who they are not how much money they make. If your partner loves you nothing as silly as the old stereotype about the man being the bread winner should get in the way. I know plenty of successful women today who make more money than their husbands.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You have a beautiful heart - just like your name.

  14. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    It would only cause problems if the couple's individual ego got in the way. A marriage is about (Us & We) and not (You & Me).
    The more progress our society makes with higher pay and better opportunities for women there is likely to be an increase in the number of women that earn more than their husbands.
    Nevertheless there are some women who still hold onto the fairytale of having a man who makes significantly more money than they do even if they themselves earn over $100k per year. On the other hand there are some men who would rather not date let alone be married to women that make more money than the do. Essentially they buy into the saying: "He who has the gold makes the rules". The majority of men see themselves as being head of the household in many cultures. For these men it's difficult feel like they are "in charge" when they earn less.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      So true about Ego. Good point.

  15. howtobeasuccess profile image70
    howtobeasuccessposted 4 years ago

    Yes, it might lead to problems since it would cause pressure to the husband. However, it taken on the positive side, its good for the family. It is better for couples not to think anymore about who earns more or less.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree.

    2. howtobeasuccess profile image70
      howtobeasuccessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      thank you Lady_E..

  16. tirelesstraveler profile image81
    tirelesstravelerposted 4 years ago

    It always irritated my mom.  She was nurse and dad had a degree from Cal Berkeley. 
    My daughter-in-law would love to be a stay at home mom, but she carries the insurance and pays most of the bills.

  17. JBeadle profile image83
    JBeadleposted 4 years ago

    It could I suppose, wouldn't for me and the wife.  I'd love it if she made more than I did.  I could get that friggin' laptop and new expensive bicycle I've been longing for.  We could order in without guilt.  It would make it easier to put my daughter through school and save her from coming out of it in debt.  It wouldn't be a problem for us at all.  But I imagine it would cause a problem for some, mainly the men who have some kind of ancient ideas about being the sole breadwinner.  My dad wouldn't have liked it.  When I was a kid and my mom got a job he said all it did was put him/them in a higher tax bracket.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Lol.  Yes, those ancient ideas of who wears the trousers. Thanks for sharing. Hope you get that laptop and posh bike.

  18. zanaworld profile image66
    zanaworldposted 4 years ago

    My view is that it should not create problems.  For me I would want my wife earn more than me, but this does not mean that she should earn MORE.

    I don't think it should create any problem.  And for sure, this is a good thing only.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Lovely. Thanks.

  19. Andy McGuire profile image78
    Andy McGuireposted 4 years ago

    Oh, your HAVE to read my article about gender roles in society!

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Please come back and post the Hub link. Cheers.

  20. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    My husband would have no problem if I earned more. During one particularly tough time in the early 80's, he could not find a job and I was able to. He stayed home with our baby. It worked out great and never caused problems, We are a team--what belongs to one, belongs to the other.

    1. Lady_E profile image75
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful. :-)

  21. WalterPoon profile image81
    WalterPoonposted 4 years ago

    It all depends on whether there is any real love between the two. If there's no love, a woman would still create problems, even if she earns much much less, LOL.

  22. LensMan999 profile image53
    LensMan999posted 4 years ago

    If the husband is an intelligent as well as lovable person there is no question of such a problem. What ever a husband and wife earn is considered to be their both. So if a wife earns more there is nothing to create a problem but instead it should be thought that their earnings would increase faster.
    Such problems usually arise among husbands who have ego problems. Men think that they are superior to women and in such a situation these problems are quite common.

 
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