Sounds like a two part question. My response for part one: I think most religions try to help people cope and deal with fear. Some religions also seem to instill fear when they talk about our character defects and concept of "sin". In my Hub about Miracles, I talk about how we can overcome pain, suffering, trauma, and other adversity by embracing the power of the positive over all that is negative.
Part two: Some religious people are closed minded. They believe their religious path is the only "way". Others are more open-minded. I believe we can find our own spiritual connection and that there are many pathways to choose for healing, recovery, and transformation.
Peace and Light: Gary.