Would you give your dog away to save your relationship?

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   alvairsposted 10 years ago

   Would you give your dog away to save your relationship?
   
   Supposed you have a dog and your fiance also have a dog, you decides to share a place together before you get get married, but your dogs don't get along, and resentment starts to put a strain on your relationship, what would you do?

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   Faceless39posted 10 years ago

   Relationships shouldn't take anything away from either person's life.  Perhaps you're just unaware of why the dogs are acting the way they are.
   
   You should consider perusing The Dog Whisperer's page here: www(dot)cesarsway(dot)com

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      alvairsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Good show, great ideas.

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      agilitymachposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Nooo!!!  Don't go the Cesar Milan route.  That will not help!!!
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buUHYM9ymc8

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   DrMark1961posted 10 years ago

   Get a new relationship. Check plentyoffish.com.

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      alvairsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      How about trying to resolve the issue, before you start thinking about taking the boat out

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      DrMark1961posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry for the snide answer, lots of bad things here today, but I am serious, you are the center of your dogs life and she will die soon. It is not always easy to work out dog-dog aggression cases, sometimes you just have to make a choice.

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   moonfairyposted 10 years ago

   I would try to figure out why the dogs don't get along....Faceless 39 gave great advice. I just don't think I'd be able to give up my beloved pet.

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      alvairsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It is hard  to choose

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   agilitymachposted 10 years ago

   Your best bet is to get a positive reinforcement behaviorist to come in and do an in-home visit.  Only a person who is there IN PERSON can determine what type of aggression you are dealing with.  Dogs give very, very subtle signals that show which type of aggression they are feeling, and what you do to help one type of aggression will feed the other.
   
   Look for a true animal behaviorist that has a Master's Degree.  Some people "claim" to be behaviorists but have no degree at all.  A very good professional trainer can be of help too.
   
   Avoid all punishment based trainers as that will only cause the dog to shut down and stuff the aggression.  With both dogs living in the same household, the aggression will then pop at some point - and violently.  You can see the video I posted of "punishment based" training. 
   
   There are some hubs here on aggression.  I recommend reading some of http://alexadry.hubpages.com/ hubs.  She has some good behavior hubs.  I bet Dr. Mark does too.
   
   But nothing - and I do mean nothing - is as important as face-to-face evaluation when it comes to aggression.  As a professional trainer myself, I would never consult on aggression on the internet or over the phone.  You have to see the family - furred and smooth - in action in the home environment.

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      alvairsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the recommendations, great stuff.

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   Rosana Modugnoposted 10 years ago

   If the dogs did not get along, I would suggest your fiancee gives up his dog, not you. lol  Or you can hire professional dog whisperer and take them both to obedience school together.  Dogs are dogs, and they can be trained.  It's all about the energy you put out in your home while you're around them.  They can very much sense if you are tense, so they get tense too.  Show them who's boss, stay level headed, both of you on the same playing field, same team, and demand respect from your pets.  No passivity allowed on that one.  They'll learn.

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      alvairsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I think trained by a professional is the best alternative.

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