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How to Win in Office Conflicts

Updated on November 16, 2012

Here are some strategies to solve problems in office or workplace office:

How to win in office wars:

  1. Let bygones be bygones, we live and deal with current problems, living in the shadows of the past is the thing insane people does. Moreover we live with today and what tomorrow will bring is necessary above all.
  2. Reduction of confrontation and resolve problems one at a time.
  3. Utilize neutral location when you want to meet and discuss with your adversary to talk things over on an existing problems. Have some snacks or a cup of tea or coffee to lighten the atmosphere.
  4. Don’t interrupt each other while having a decent talk, value empathy very well; learn to be a good listener and speaker.
  5. Utilize the four A’s (Acknowledge, ask, align and add). Acknowledge - begin discussion with phrases like “I believe there may be a problem that hopefully can be ironed out if we will work together. Ask - Inquire about the person’s opinion about the situation, and then give time for concerns and feelings to come out spontaneously. Be concise, specific and have a discussion one at a time. Show utmost respect when doing so, and encourage your colleagues to follow suit. Aligning - is actually done by showing and giving importance to mutual desirable intent like saying “We might build more effective team or less stressful work place if we can work together as a formidable team.” Add – by highlighting what is common to the two of you and trying to resolve the issue, pounce on the similar positive attributes to come with solutions while using both of your strengths.

How to have the right attitude in the office:

- Always believe that all individuals are performing to the best of their abilities. At all times praise a job well done.

- Give your trust when needed. Communicate well and honestly with your co-workers.

- Assume that both of you have common goals such as growing as a person, extracting exciting satisfaction in your work, and having both confidence and high self-esteem

- Believe that others are capable of being one of the top performers and achievers as well.

- Share ideas with your colleagues and by being open to suggestions and feedback.

- Believe that others always wanted to have a meaningful work as they are trying their best to be competent.

- Others have knowledge, wisdom and necessary skills and they can make wise choice just trust them.

- Rather than getting jealous or involving oneself with rivalries think of goodwill in others.

- Remember that others wanted to be treated fair and square, recognized and truly appreciated.

Here are some ways to avoid conflict in office I hoped this help in a way.

My first Hub in the HubChallenge (third batch)


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      9 years ago

      be better of yourself and on the war with only one at the same time avoid adds a new one and be nice to others till you win the war

    • GeneralHowitzer profile imageAUTHOR

      Gener Geminiano 

      11 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      @kulsum -- yeah thanks for the lovely comment ma'm...

      @bingskee --- yeah you're right there Ma'm there are work that are toxic and its difficult to get along with this scenario when some of the people attitudes are also toxic. Thanks for dropping by and commenting...

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      11 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

      i tell you, some of these do not apply to impossible and difficult people!

    • Kulsum Mehmood profile image

      Dr Kulsum Mehmood 

      11 years ago from Nagpur, India

      Nice and useful suggestions to eliminate friction with co-workers at the office. Nice hub.

    • GeneralHowitzer profile imageAUTHOR

      Gener Geminiano 

      11 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      @prettydarkhorse --- wow that will be nice if you'll share this piece to her.

      @Duchess OBlunt --- Yeah I guess can be very useful though...

      @agusfanani --- hehehe yeah I hope it could be very useful to all those who will read this...

      @Charia Samher --- wow glad you dropped by... hehehe thank goodness you are behave girl whilst you didnt need this hehehe...

      @PegCole17 --- hehehe, wakikik = hehehe, yeah the old time habits which is always sincere and amiable is the key in preventing and easing out office wars...

      @kaloomba --- wow thanks for the great comments...

      @beth100 --- you can use them in the years ahead thank you for the generous commenting job, I really appreciate it beth...

      Thank you all for the visit, I appreciate it a lot...

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      Charia Samher 

      11 years ago

      I have not work for a while, but I'm planning to work again next year. Nice tips here, although I haven't been to arguments/war or something. I'm such a good girl you know LOL!

    • agusfanani profile image


      11 years ago from Indonesia

      thanks for those good ideas General, those can be chicken soup for work spirit in office.

    • Beth100 profile image


      11 years ago from Canada

      Excellent ideas General! Could have used them a few years ago! lol

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      Peg Cole 

      11 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      These sound like old time values to me. This philosophy would be nice to find in the workplace and in the outside world. Thanks for the discussion on how to resolve office conflict. It's about having respect for one another, forgiving, sharing and working together for mutual benefit. Win-Win.

      BTW, what does wakikik mean? Sorry I'm out of touch on terms.

    • kaloomba profile image


      11 years ago

      Good advice.. I used to work in an office regularly and use to wish things like this were allowed to be posted!

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      Duchess OBlunt 

      11 years ago

      Good advise. I do work in an office and these are good suggestions to always keep in mind.

    • prettydarkhorse profile image


      11 years ago from US

      good job here, I am not working in an office setting anymore, but these are nice advice! I will share it with my sister who is also an office girl and she works at human resources department.


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