How can I get over being jealous/envious/upset by someone else getting a promotion instead of me?
So a former employee of mine is going to get a promotion that will put their title above mine. I have many more years invested, have worked hard, etc. But this person is getting ahead partially because of their brief military service, which naturally gives them preference even if they may not be the best candidate. The person acts a bit spoiled and entitled. So naturally I feel this person is undeserving of a promotion. I haven't been promoted in awhile and get myself upset at the thought of this person getting a better position than me. How can I let this go?
You said it in your last three words: let this go.
You cannot change it, can you? Try not to second guess the past...it is over and done. Do not waste one moment looking in the rearview mirror when you miss the wonders that right in front of you...
What you can do to feel better. You need to be his good friend to find out what is going on. It is possible; he is dishonest, or he deserves it. Ask him if he is a hero. He probably knows extra things that you do not know. He will be leaving soon to work somewhere else. Then you will be his hero by saving him with the things; you know, and he does not know. If he does not leave; at least, you will be friends.
Do not compete with others; only compete with yourself. Promotions are complex; simply take the higher road; that is, be accepting of it, continue to be highly professional and become of great value to both her and her supervisor. Speaking from experience, the more powerful Human Resources becomes in an organization the less likely the most experienced person will get the position. It seems "political correctness" permeates in.
I think this should act as a fuel for your burning desire to raise to even higher ranks. It happens in a corporate world many factor do play there role in positions and promotions apart from one's own abilities and skills. But that's fine if this atmosphere acts as a hindrance in our ambitions or upsetting in one the other way it means we lack something owing to which succumbing to the outside pressure. Move ahead there will not be any stopping if you are determined to scale high. May God help you David.
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