In my opinion, it's THEIR issue to overcome, not yours. If someone is envious of your life, your family, your job, the way you look, your happiness, etc. then there's not a whole lot you can do to change that about them short of altering those things to appear less "appealing" to them. And who wants to do that? If you're happy in your life, then the people that truly matter are happy for you. Those who have issues of their own are envious.
Sometimes we aren't responsible for other people feelings or thoughts. If I hurt someone, I am, or if I am rude.
But We can't control jealous, anger, antipathy for us! As we also may feel it for others.
We can ignore, is the best way to overcome, we can avoid showing of our success or exhibit the jealousy cause.
As long as I act in accordance with my morals, values and respect that person there is nothing for me to overcome. I cannot overcome it for them and all the talking in the world cannot help. That person must see in his/her own heart that jealousy is an insecurity that they must come to peace with and conquer it personally. If I know someone is envious or jealous, I make a point not to flaunt whatever in front of them. That is all I can do except love them.
I don't think it's my problem when someone is jealous. It is their problem and it is characterological.
I have a problem relating to your stated problem
I am but a simple woman..........guided by values passed down from older generations..................pulled into the modern era by my own children.
There is no reason for my womanly counterpart to think that I am a threat to her.
Now, if it were my hubby who was the jealous one...............................long story short.......................stop worrying about how another man might treat me, and treat me with that same wellness and attention yourself.
Jealousy, is not a noteable character in my life....................but, not to say, that I have not met her!
I just keep being me. If your jealous of me and I'm not doing any harm towards anyone then I'm just going to keep being me, but much better.
It wouldn't be my issue to overcome, it would be the issue of the green eyed monster. Jealousy brings out the ugly in people. As long as a person is thankful for what they have, there could be peace and harmony. I'm not a jealous person, I never have been because I don't look good in green Good question Michelle!
Jealous people can be insecure, and they can treat you the way they feel inside. But when you are mistreated, you can use conflict resolutions to solve the matter. Read how to stop conflict. Some of the most rare situations have brought actual friendships! Or not!
My parents taught me that the best way in overcoming someone being jealous of me is:
1) if the person is too jealous and behave badly and openly, I ignore them and I continue to be myself.
2) if the person is ok and happens to be close to me and my parents but envious at times, kill him/her with kindness and thus the person will realize his/her mistake and try to reduce his/her enviousness to a great extent.
Believe it or not, both these worked quite well, though not in all cases!
Just don't buy into their attitude. Let them be how they will be and just continue to be yourself. In other words, don't take it personally, it's their issues and insecurities, not yours.
by Michelle Dee 6 years ago
Is jealousy a sign of bad character?Let's say something really good came your way, i.e. you were able to buy a new car, got a better job, nicer place to live, a nice significant other, etc. etc. and someone got jealous and weren't happy for you, is this a sign of bad character? Is this someone you...
by David Livermore 3 years ago
How can I get over being jealous/envious/upset by someone else getting a promotion instead of me?So a former employee of mine is going to get a promotion that will put their title above mine. I have many more years invested, have worked hard, etc. But this person is getting ahead...
by jrbprb2911 8 years ago
I have a 3 month old little girl and everytime I or my husband or anyone is holding her or playing with her he gets jealous and starts looking for attention whether it be good or bad. Can anyone give me some advice?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago
Why are there so many people hateful, envious, & jealous of those who have MORE whetherit is beauty, intelligence, education, fortuitous childhood/familial environments, opportunities, lifestyles, & socioeconomic wealth? What makes these same people always want to denigrate...
by Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago
Causes of parents being jealous of their children?
by Apostle Jack 9 years ago
How is jealous,covet,and an envious person defined in your book?Somethimes we can look so much at what others have untill we over look our own capabilities and short comings in life.You can't move ahead when you stop and just pout instead doing something worth while to bring something to pass.
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