What is a non-personal comment and why is it so bad?

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   Dean Traylorposted 6 years ago

   Hey, does anyone know what a non-personal comment is? Ever since I was accused of this I have racked my brain trying to figure out what it is and why it's so bad. Unfortunately, the accuser would rather engage in a Pee-Wee Hermin-type argument rather than give me a straight answer.
   

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   snakeslaneposted 6 years ago

   Dean, all I could find was 'impersonal' - not relating to or responsive to individual persons; "an impersonal corporation"; "an impersonal remark". Does that make any sense?
   
   Edit: also could he have meant ad hominem? But that would be personal rather than non personal, so maybe not.

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      Natalie Frankposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      It's possible they are referring to non-personal communication which means the person is being  inflexible, at least in the short-term, and don't adjust what they are saying to address questions or comments from the other person.  It's like they don't listen to what is being said or don't care about what is being said by the other person and only want to get their own point across without any input or feedback from others.  I'm not sure of the context but it's sort of an odd thing to say to someone.  Hope this helps.  Good luck!

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   psycheskinnerposted 6 years ago

   Without seeing a direct quote in context we can’t possibly know.

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   Venkatachari Mposted 6 years ago

   Hey, Dean. It's just like a robot commenting on your activity. No emotions or feelings. Harsh and indifferent. That's what impersonal is. I hope you understood.
   
   But, whoever told you like that himself might be uncourteous and a not-caring person, hurting your feelings like that with his comment.
   
   We should be kind and loving while interacting with others. That shows the personal attachment and basic humaneness.

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   MizBejabbersposted 6 years ago

   Not knowing the context, I'm assuming that since you are concerned, it was meant as an insult.  A personal comment would reflect on the person you are commenting on and could be either complimentary or uncomplimentary. "She looks great in that red dress." "That red dress makes her look fat."
   I think when people leave comments in which they disagree, they should not be personal. Things like calling people "stupid," "nasty," or "pig-headed" would be personal. But to say something like "I disagree with your statistics because your source has been known to be unreliable in the past" has no reflection on you as a person and is impersonal or in that person's incorrect vocabulary "nonpersonal."

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      Dean Traylorposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, it was supposed to be an insult. It came from a certain person who often makes spurious remarks toward anyone who challenges his questions (because he has a preconceived idea what the should be...affirming his opinion) He often states that those going against it are "not-fact based" or "you didn't answer the question" or whatever....I think this was one of those insult he threw out. Still, I found it perplexing because it was one of the most bizarre retorts I've heard from him.

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         MizBejabbersposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Dean, sounds like he doesn't know an antonym from the rear end of a horse. I would chalk it up to the source and not worry about it.
         
         Come to think of it, you might reply, "I'm just glad you didn't take it personally." because I think that's what he did.

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            Dean Traylorposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Lol...the funny part is that the person claimed to have spent a lot of money at law school. I was tempted to reply by saying he needs to get a refund...the other funny part is that he keeps getting  name of  the college attended wrong.

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   NateB11posted 6 years ago

   First thing that comes to mind is an impersonal comment is cold and maybe dismissive. You know, when someone acts like they are more objective and kind of looking down their nose. Not saying you were doing that, of course, it's just the interpretation that comes to me when I think "impersonal comment". It's like someone who wants to be the manager and boss instead of just a regular human being like you and me.

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      MizBejabbersposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Nate, could be, but only if he's using it as an adjective to mean "cold" or "unfriendly". But that still isn't a good way to put it. Sounds like his own reply was pretty "impersonal".

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   Jessie L Watsonposted 6 years ago

   "I love only what a man has written in his own blood" - Nietzsche

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   blueheronposted 6 years ago

   Sounds to me like English is his second language, and he doesn't have a first language. All too common these days.

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      Dean Traylorposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      English is his first language. In fact, he's expressed very strong anti-immigration views in the past.  He'll reiterate that if he saw it.

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