Would you, or wouldn't you? No, I am not asking personally. This is an anthropological study... very anthropological.
What does anthropology have to do with adultery, if you don't mind me asking.
Interesting question. I will let you know as soon as I find out. Really, I am just curious if anyone else thinks about it. Thanks for busting me.
You've already done it, so tell us. You really want to get this off your chest, or you are evidentally thinking about doing it. It's easy to do if you don't know the people, but that may be your real pic. You could be caught easily, tread lightly.
I imagine the answer would have something to do with the fact that you either are or are not getting everything you need out of your current relationship. If you're content, no. If you feel that something is missing, then yeah a person probably would commit adultery.
I agree. If I were to think about it, I would probably ruin the whole thing by talking about it to my husband first. I think the secrecy is the fun part. I have cheated on boyfriends in the past, but it was because I resented them and didn't have the guts to tell them. It wasn't about the sex, it was about power. There's nothing like the power of a secret. I think the reason I brought up this topic is because, since having a baby, my own libido has gone down. My self esteem is working its way back up from the toilet. I really enjoy hearing intellegent people discuss topics they wouldn't normally discuss... and yes, I do hear you guys.
Well the big problem is that you have a husband. That's not something you should mess with lightly. At the very least try to give the poor guy a clue about what he's not doing for you. If it's the secrecy and danger behind an affair, well I think it'll end badly for everyone involved. Even then there might be some way to retrieve the situation. It might also be a temporary thing as you're recovering from childbirth, this can affect some women harder than others.
Wise words. I am not the type of person to hurt my family. I tend to talk more than act. I find that venting about things helps tremendously. I, actually, spoke to my husband about this thread. He is very understanding. I would like to have an affair with him. We need an adults only weekend.
OMG This forum is starting to look a little like sky tv, repeats, repeats and more repeats. This was posted last week. do a search before posting new posts so not to duplicate others.
Adultry...... Well the emotion that this word brings up is similar to my feelings on Micheal Jackson. So sick of having all the glory people are vomiting up about him. Yes, I agree, he was good in the music business but he had deep personal issues that money silenced. Too bad, now that his estate is in such debt, the real MJ will be exposed......
In reality, if you are deeply in love with one person, adultry is not something one would think about. Maybe I am wrong, but I am in love with my special person for the past seven years now and can honestly say I do not even stray my eyes.
I am still wondering what it has to do with anthropology.
Well sometimes people are just afraid to put something out there, so they need an "excuse" to do so. Haven't you ever told a white lie before?
Just to give this thread a different perspective.... No, I've never 'cheated' on anyone. I did have a relationship with a prof. who was still officially married at the time, however. lol I remember I was taking this philosophy class and so (besides obvious other reasons) really had the occasion to think this through.
So I'd say adultery in the common sense--and we see examples of those ethics in general here (we likely would see nothing else--who is going to admit they actually committed adultery?) is wrong. Would there be instances where it could be considered ethical, or maybe even a better choice than some alternatives? Yes, I think so.
Say, for instance, the marriage/relationship was of convenience, for the sake of children and kept in tact for financial reasons...although the partners hadn't had a real relationship and/or sex for years (and these marriages do exist, anthropologically speaking). Or, maybe a couple was together--still loved each other--but one party was chronically ill, so that they couldn't have intimate relations. What then?
Ethically speaking....well, that would be a tough one, . But I think considering your own health/happiness would probably be a good start.
are you sayin it would be a good start to start cheating? LOL
Maybe. Would anybody (if what you related is true) blame you, you think?
only kinda lol,
It has been documented by several anthropologists that the ratio of adulteries committed varies from one society to another. Ethnology, Sociology - Name it! I'm just bored, really.
...I saw. But yeah, it would bother me, too. I don't think some men would even 'think' about it. They'd blame the woman and feel it was their 'right' or something to find someone else or...whatever.
But I dunno. It gets messy, this whole thing. Clean break ups are better for everybody--if it is possible. That's what I came away thinking in my situation...
shameless self promotion. Unless you are cheating on yourself, in which case it would be a valid comment in this forum. LOL
Umm, so he appeared later then your kids? That's some extra piece to the puzzle. How long did it take him to lose the interest?
Yea hes 27 and I am 33. Never married my kids dad. Im not sure prolly after the first year or 2 maybe, although we have been together 5 except i did leave him for about a year. He called every other day promissing to change. Finally I took him back but the change lasted a few months maybe. lol
Adultery is a sin biblically, but it really comes down to your own morals. Many people are not Christians or of any religion and thus base their own moral standing on that of which they personally decide.
Me personally, would enjoy it for the time but would not enjoy the effects afterward, even if my significant other never found out. The guilt would kill me.
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