I finished my 5th hub (I may be addicted I know ) called Having Sex vs. Making Love and would like to know what all of you think about it. It's about how to know the difference between the two. Thanks in advance for any feedback!
Update: I took some advice from my hubbers and added a personal story and went into a lot more detail.
The graphic you used to kick off your Hub is quite captivating. So is your first paragraph. After that, the Hub falls apart. You never develop the difference between having sex and making love except to say that there's a bonding in making love and that one feels empty when that person is not around. These are statements that don't make a Hub, because there is no substance behind them.
I was excited about your first paragraph, and also about your statement, "Women like sex just as much as men and possibly even more if you didn't know. I think as women we are just better at not showcasing how much we want it." But you never explain why. You could use 2,000 words to explain what you mean by that.
I am left with this question about your Hub in general, "So what?" You teased me with a great visual and an outstanding first paragraph. But you failed to make good on the promises you implied in them...tell me, what is the difference between having sex and making love?
I didn't want to turn it to a porno hub if I kept going so I think I backed off a little. I can definitely go in deeper though! I think the big difference is that a guy might be sexing you just cause he loves to have sex with you vs sexing you and being in love with you. Umm did that make any sense? lol
Of course that makes sense, karmen. And I think you can rewrite that Hub to make those points. There's nothing "porno" about what you are saying or what you think you could say.
You've got great insights into the difference between sex and making love...but you are not telling your readers the WHY of what you think, because you are not backing it up with either your own personal experience or research.
It's easy to put statements out there; it's difficult to back them up. That's why being a good writer also means that you work hard to the point where it's painful.
I found myself agreeing with Sally on a lot of points.
Just one thing to watch out for - the too-frequent use of that word sex. Adsense is a ridiculous prude, and even serious websites about sexual matters can be penalised for using "obscene" words. It's sad but it's true, and as their filter is automated, there isn't a darn thing we can do about it. If we want to earn income from them, we have to live by the rules.
I don't actually think you can completly seperate the two. Having sex releases a chemical in your brain that triggers feelings of love, and vice versa, even if you love someone that doesn't mean you can seriously want to get hot and wild for the sake of fun. Because sex is fun, even if you use love as an excuse to take validate it.
Say you're making love or say you're having sex, either way you are doing a little of both.
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