Having Sex vs. Making Love

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  1. karmen88 profile image52
    karmen88posted 8 years ago

    I finished my 5th hub (I may be addicted I know smile ) called Having Sex vs. Making Love and would like to know what all of you think about it. It's about how to know the difference between the two. Thanks in advance for any feedback!

    Update: I took some advice from my hubbers and added a personal story and went into a lot more detail.

    1. Lady_E profile image66
      Lady_Eposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Nice one Karmen.

      I'm sure it will do really well. Will definitely read it.
      (One is Physical and one is Mechanical). lol.

    2. Sally's Trove profile image80
      Sally's Troveposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      The graphic you used to kick off your Hub is quite captivating.  So is your first paragraph.  After that, the Hub falls apart. You never develop the difference between having sex and making love except to say that there's a bonding in making love and that one feels empty when that person is not around.  These are statements that don't make a Hub, because there is no substance behind them.

      I was excited about your first paragraph, and also about your statement, "Women like sex just as much as men and possibly even more if you didn't know. I think as women we are just better at not showcasing how much we want it."  But you never explain why. You could use 2,000 words to explain what you mean by that.

      I am left with this question about your Hub in general, "So what?"  You teased me with a great visual and an outstanding first paragraph.  But you failed to make good on the promises you implied in them...tell me, what is the difference between having sex and making love?

      1. karmen88 profile image52
        karmen88posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I didn't want to turn it to a porno hub if I kept going so I think I backed off a little. I can definitely go in deeper though! big_smile I think the big difference is that a guy might be sexing you just cause he loves to have sex with you vs sexing you and being in love with you. Umm did that make any sense? lol

        1. Sally's Trove profile image80
          Sally's Troveposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Of course that makes sense, karmen.  And I think you can rewrite that Hub to make those points.  There's nothing "porno" about what you are saying or what you think you could say. 

          You've got great insights into the difference between sex and making love...but you are not telling your readers the WHY of what you think, because you are not backing it up with either your own personal experience or research.

          It's easy to put statements out there; it's difficult to back them up.  That's why being a good writer also means that you work hard to the point where it's painful.

          1. karmen88 profile image52
            karmen88posted 8 years agoin reply to this

            I appreciate the great advice Sally. I'll go back to it and elaborate more. I have a good story about a past relationship that I think would fit.

  2. starme77 profile image67
    starme77posted 8 years ago

    Both are good - just depends on the mood

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    BadCoposted 8 years ago

    The Captain only makes love, sex is for animals !

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      Louidam1posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      LMAO!!  big_smile

  4. starme77 profile image67
    starme77posted 8 years ago

    Sometimes being an animal can be quite entertaining

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      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Oh cheers for making me have those wild animal thoughts about you, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!!!!!!!!!!

    2. loveofnight profile image79
      loveofnightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I AGREE....BUTT NAKED FUN CAN BE A GOOD THING

  5. starme77 profile image67
    starme77posted 8 years ago

    LOL Your Funny - but whatever floats your boat Captain

  6. karmen88 profile image52
    karmen88posted 8 years ago

    I think it does depend on the mood starme77 but I also think it depends on the person.

    1. profile image42
      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Starme77 is my kind of person !

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    PirateGirlposted 8 years ago

    I just love wild sex !

    1. karmen88 profile image52
      karmen88posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Pirate Girl is a freak! haha You might be too much for the Captain wink

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        PirateGirlposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I was last night smile

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    Louidam1posted 8 years ago

    I like your Hub karmen...keep up the good work!

  9. starme77 profile image67
    starme77posted 8 years ago

    what ya talkin bout - Captains Mine

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      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Damn right I am, I don't even like that slutty pirategirl !

  10. starme77 profile image67
    starme77posted 8 years ago

    Gotta Love The Captain

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      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Gotta return that love to Starme77 !

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        PirateGirlposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Well have fun with her, you are so dumped !!

        1. starme77 profile image67
          starme77posted 8 years agoin reply to this

          He's havin a blast with me right now ya hoe

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    BadCoposted 8 years ago

    Like I care Cabin Girl, now go away and write a silly poem !

  12. Ladybird33 profile image64
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    It's a good hub, and I agree with what you say, you could add more to it if you wanted but overall I completely go it.  Very interesting topic, will make people think!

    1. profile image42
      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I still await yer reply on my hub ?

    2. karmen88 profile image52
      karmen88posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for the feedback Ladybird. I caught writer's block but I'll add more to it.

      1. Ladybird33 profile image64
        Ladybird33posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Anytime...great place to be!  Welcome and keep up the good work.

  13. Ladybird33 profile image64
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    hmmm...okay, running there now smile

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    ralwusposted 8 years ago

    BC, you need a rope.

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      BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Lol you betcha smile

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        ralwusposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        aaand if you read my latest, you'd understand. LOL

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          BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          On my way !

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          BadCoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          As CC maybe, as Ralwus nahhhhhhhhhh, cant see it but hey bring it on smile

  15. Ladybird33 profile image64
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    ok boys :)watch it

  16. Misha profile image72
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    Umm, more interesting question would be "having sex with humans vs. making love with animals" wink

  17. shamelabboush profile image65
    shamelabboushposted 8 years ago

    Love making at night, and sex at daylight.... Both are my plight smile

  18. Marisa Wright profile image97
    Marisa Wrightposted 8 years ago

    I found myself agreeing with Sally on a lot of points.

    Just one thing to watch out for - the too-frequent use of that word sex.  Adsense is a ridiculous prude, and even serious websites about sexual matters can be penalised for using "obscene" words.  It's sad but it's true, and as their filter is automated, there isn't a darn thing we can do about it.  If we want to earn income from them, we have to live by the rules.

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    ralwusposted 8 years ago

    I aways thought so too. Still do.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 8 years ago

    I'll take either about now! It's still 4mos to my birthday!

  21. karmen88 profile image52
    karmen88posted 8 years ago

    Well my hub got flagged for adult content sad I was worried about that happening so I just deleted it because I can't think of a way to write it without talking about sex.

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I don't understand why sex hubs are flagged for adult content when every 13-14 year old is doing it nowadays ! big_smile

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      Louidam1posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thats sucks.  Maybe it was the picture on the hub.

      1. karmen88 profile image52
        karmen88posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I think that could have been the reason. It didn't say the exact reason so I got rid of it to keep from getting flagged again.

        1. Marisa Wright profile image97
          Marisa Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          No, it wasn't the picture.  Like I said, the problem is that you can't use sex-related words in a Hub, even if you're being serious about it.  It's not HubPages' fault, it's Adsense.

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      ralwusposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      One of our fine hubbers got around that issue in a very unique way. Instead of using a sexual term use, 'thank you' or 'handshake' 'truffles' for boobs or anything but the actual word.

  22. lampar profile image49
    lamparposted 8 years ago

    When you're in missionary position, you are making love, but if you are doing doggy, you are having sex. It is what i had been told by my first year professor in my sex education class.

    1. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      and you fail the exam , I imagine

  23. arrrgonaut profile image53
    arrrgonautposted 8 years ago

    I don't actually think you can completly seperate the two.  Having sex releases a chemical in your brain that triggers feelings of love, and vice versa, even if you love someone that doesn't mean you can seriously want to get hot and wild for the sake of fun.  Because sex is fun, even if you use love as an excuse to take validate it. 

    Say you're making love or say you're having sex, either way you are doing a little of both.

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    logic,commonsenseposted 8 years ago

    You know how the song goes.........
    "Nothing would be finer than to have a 69er in the morning!"

  25. karmen88 profile image52
    karmen88posted 8 years ago

    Okay I get what your saying Marissa. And rawlrus you mean speak in secret code like "Having Truffles vs Making Thank You" lol I can't see anybody getting click happy from that title.

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