What do you want?

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   sandra rinckposted 14 years ago

   Every so often I have these dreams, you know, the kind that inspire deep thought.
   
   So I was flipping through a book (in my dream). In this book it asked the question, "What do you want?"  The book was filled with tons of comments of people listing all the wonderful things they want.
   
   Some people want peace, others want children, cars, money, happiness, a family, freedom, justice, security, safety, love...
   
   This book goes on and on it seems and then finally I am done. I pick up my pen to write down what I want.  I think for a while about it because it feels real important that I write down what I really, truly want. Like the book magically request the truth from me.
   
   I write, I want "to know what I want." 
   
   Do you know what you want?

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      wow, that's an interesting dream.
      
      deep.
      
      what do i want?
      
      sounds simple, but - to be listened to. REALLY listened to, and heard, by those who matter to me. our individual roles and responsibilities cloud who we really are, at the core, and i want those i love to know and appreciate me, not roles i play or things i do, but all that i AM.

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         Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         thats not simple at all. I hope you get it.

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         sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Okay Cosette.  Let's say that today the FSM is giving out wants like candy and today you your want to be: REALLY listened to, and heard, by those who matter to me. our individual roles and responsibilities cloud who we really are, at the core, and i want those i love to know and appreciate me, not roles i play or things i do, but all that i AM. has been given to you.
         
         So, now I am giving you what you want.  So what are you going to tell me?

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I want to be happy with my children and to find a man who will love me and accept me for who I am with just enough money to get us by!

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      sandra, that is a deep one. while reading through the comments, I think, yea, I want that too, and then this thought came to me when I read the one about wanting to be listened to. the question then becomes, why do I want what I want?
      
      maybe it's as daniel says, like a mirror. to have others listen to you, one must be a very good listener themselves. to really listen.
      
      as one person said, even when we receive what we 'want', then it becomes something else. I think we project too much into the future instead of our 'nows'.

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         Revive@OwnRiskposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I think this is very insightful, rebekah. Too often we live in the past or project into the future (the "if only" syndrome), when, in fact, all we have is right now. So maybe it's about what "right now" do you want?
         
         For me, right now, I want to not be haunted by past failures, stop wondering if my future will also be a failure, and start realizing that right now is actually incredible. It's the only place we can make things better now, and make changes to determine a better, more fulfilling future.
         
         Right now, I want to change my fretting to something of peace and fulfillment because I've made it this far.
         
         Right now is enough. Now I have to really work like hell to keep that feeling. LOL
         

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   Justine76posted 14 years ago

   Like U2 says...I still havent found what Im looking for...

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   bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

   Everytime I think I know what I want, I change my mind...

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   sandra rinckposted 14 years ago

   So it is not just me.

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      bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I'm on that list as too.  So there is at least two of us..

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No, it is not just you.
      
      Billions of people have that same problem.
      
      Some people know how to deal with the thought, because it's deeply considered to be the most important question a self-interested person can ask oneself.
      
      What do I want? Is to truly understand life and what it means.
      
      It comes down to just simple things- love, wealth, happiness.
      
      These are the only real requirements for life to have absolute meaning.
      
      How you break each down and obtain each one is for you to decide? This is the grueling task you set before yourself.
      
      Stop thinking about EVERYTHING you want. Most is irrelevant material objects, which do nothing but give you a false security about your knowledge and understanding about your own life.
      
      LOVE- Love yourself, every aspect. Love is honesty in it's purest form. The need to be loved will come no matter what, it is part of Life's cycle.
      
      Wealth- Wealth is a requirement only because 'money' is a requirement. Wealth allows you get any of the material things or objects you want, need or desire.
      
      Happiness- True Happiness is when you love yourself, you have someone to love you, you are honest with yourself and others, you value your life and others.
      
      I hope I helped.

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         sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yet it really isn't that simple.  Not every one wants those things.
         They are not requirements for life and without or without them, you could find meaning.
         
         Consider then the task is less self centered then you made it out to be.  I want to know what you want.
         
         Never was about what I want.  Introspect is a interesting thing.  I answered what I wanted.  I want to know what you want. 
         
         So ask yourself what you gave me?  Did you give me what you want or what I want?
         So you believe that love makes the world go'round? What then do you make of someone who doesn't want love?
         
         Again, who says that I want wealth?  Who says it is a requirement?  You?
         
         So this is what you want? What value do you find in me?
         

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   Justine76posted 14 years ago

   nooo. even people who say they know what they want, its just cuz they dont have it. soon as they get it, they are like..now what?
   I mean, not always. But to a large degree that happens.

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      sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, I can understand that.
      
      So you think that the "need" to "need" is just part of us? Sort of to say, if we had everything then what would we live for?

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         Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         yeah, I think a little bit. theres always something.
         like right now, I wnat it to be hot outside, more money to pay bills, and mayeb a cup of coffe. If I got those things, I would think of something else to want...
         I dont mean that I am unhappy with what I have, but I am pretty sure we all have ..the next thing to attain..

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      R.G. San Ramonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe we want "more". We know what we want. We answer yes/no if we want this or that, so we basically know what we want. But, as justine has pointed out, we usually are not satisfied getting what we want...so just to end the wanting thing...perhaps we're wanting "more" than what we want.

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   ediggityposted 14 years ago

   It doesn't matter what I want, because the Stones said it best:
   
   No, you can't always get what you want
   You can't always get what you want
   You can't always get what you want
   And if you try sometime you find
   You get what you need

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   Brian Leightonposted 14 years ago

   Utimately, I want to know that when I am old and near the end that I can look back on my life with few regrets and many happy memories.

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   Daniel Carterposted 14 years ago

   Your dream is like a mirror image, Sandra. The question becomes the answer, and so the answer begs the question. It probably indicates something about you being enough for yourself and can only be resolved in your core self. (A little weird, but if you start *feeling* your way through it, it should start to make sense.)
   
   I've always wanted the same things:
   • To love and be loved by someone who is mature enough to know what that means and how to work at it.
   
   • A chance to move outside the professional box I'm in and get this new music I'm writing out into the world.
   
   For me, both of these would be immensely fulfilling. I work on both every day, by trying to become the answer to my own problems, and becoming my best self. Sounds very grandiose and philosophical. Probably is. But I don't know how else to approach it. I have to get outside my box and think and see things a little differently every day. It's tough to do when I also want some kind of security.

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      sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I was thinking about this in the shower.
      
      I thought to myself, okay.  Let me just answer myself for today.  I thought, "what do I want today." 
      
      Still I drew a blank.  I thought about this bible verse that goes something like, "we eat until we are full yet we are never satisfied." 
      
      So I thought okay today, nothing material is really going to satisfy me because what I want is something that can only be given in introspect. 
      
      Maybe the real question never was, why am I here or why are we here...

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Hey Sandra,
         
         I was considering your statement and think I can help.
         
         You said, "You tried to figure out what you wanted for that day?" Yet, you drew a blank.
         
         Do you know WHY you drew a blank? If you don't know, I'll explain.
         
         As for the statement you took for the bible- "we eat until we are full yet we are never satisfied"- isn't a reference to eating food? It is a reference meant for the hunger of knowledge conscious humans have and the fact that it is never enough, we always want more.
         
         It is the nature of man and/or woman to increase knowledge and understanding above all else. The more knowledge we, as a society, obtain and providing we understand it's true meaning, then we unlock humankind's true potential.
         
         I hope I helped.

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            sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I already knew this.  So again I am asking you, what do you want? 

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   cantelope please

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    kirstenblogposted 14 years ago

    What I want is to be able to totally support myself no matter if my marriage lasts or breaks down someday, if I have kids or not, if I fall ill or spend the rest of my life healthy. A good passive income would tick those boxes so that I can always afford what I need in life.

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    Wonder_Womanposted 14 years ago

    what i really want is to one day be my own boss

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       bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I want the same thing.  But first, I want to know how to make that happen though.

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          Wonder_Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          i have a couple ideas, i either want to open my own shoe store with my own designs, open a family pet store, or even open up a dinner since i love love love to cook..?

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             bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Well let me know when you open up.  I'm right down the road, so I'll be there

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    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    Ok, I decided. I want bloody prime rib, fresh tossed salad, garlic bread and baked potaote. I want a glass of whiskey and a good friend's comapny to share it with.
    I want peace and security. To be loved and accepted as I am. I want to be NOT afraid. I want to see my children grow up strong and healthy, in body and mind. I want to see them fullfill thier dreams.

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    Black Lillyposted 14 years ago

    To know what you want and move towards that I think is the main purpose of our lives.
    Floating around with no clear destination.. Don't know, but it just means I won't achieve anything. To have a goal is motivating, it challenges you, makes you step out of your safety zone and makes you develop.
    
    To know what you want I think is essential. of course, you must have some "rest breaks" after intensive effort or when you redefine your goals and rethink your wishes (otherwise you'll go crazy). Stopping and looking around might be a very difficult time in your life, but as soon as you see the destination, line becomes straight again and you move on.

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    I want a job.

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    oh, i know for sure:
    - space to write and 'be'
    - closeness with nature
    - music
    - good sex
    - happiness for every person in this world...and the ability to add to it!

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    shayariposted 14 years ago

    I want
    - financial freedom
    - happy family life
    - ability to help at least 100 people every year and change their lives for good.
    - friends to party

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    Hope Wilbanksposted 14 years ago

    I feel like I've struggled to grasp the concept of what my purpose in life is nearly my whole life. I'd rather know what my purpose is, than to decide what I want...because as we've already seen in discussion here, our wants are fleeting and can change in an instant.

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       sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       You have insightful introspect.  It's why I asked, maybe it never was about why we are here...

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    Cheeky Chickposted 14 years ago

    That is a great question! 
    
    Here's what I want, maybe it'll help you discover what you want.
    
    I want to become a successful writer!  I want to earn a good living at it and get the chance to interview interesting people.
    
    I want to find fulfillment.  I want a purpose in life.  I want to know I make a difference.  I want to do the work I enjoy doing.
    
    I think it takes time and lots of thought to figure out what you want out of life.  Spend a little time each day thinking about it and it will become clear.  Then, you can start moving in the direction of what you want.
    
    Best of luck!
    
    XOXO
    
    Cheeky

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    jobisterposted 14 years ago

    I want a worry free life and to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want.

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    ediggityposted 14 years ago

    I know what I want now.
    
    Sharks with frickin laser beams attached to their heads.

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       sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Sounds cool.  When you get that can you share!

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    Liquid hot magma.....

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       sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Come to Hawaii.

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          Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Would that I could

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    Choke Franticposted 14 years ago

    I want to make art...

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    ediggityposted 14 years ago

    Throw me a frickin bone here people.

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       Revive@OwnRiskposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       What do you need from us?
       
       The Stones song is actually very good and insightful. Sometimes we don't get what we *want* but do get what we need. But, there are other times we do get what we want, also. I don't think it's all one way or the other, really.

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          ediggityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          What do I need?
          
          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bh7bYNAHXxw

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Right now? I just want to go home! All kidding aside you have to qualify your want(s) because there is a time function involved and those wants can change in an instant.
    Generally speaking though, I already have everything I want, and everything I need, anything more would be excessive, not that I'd mind that!

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