I am not a fake! I am a real person with feelings...

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   incomenewsposted 14 years ago

   I am writing this because I received a very rude mail from a hubber who claimed I was a fake looking for traffic.
   
   Let me be clear on this. There are some people on here whose sole purpose is to just criticize and bring down others. People make mistakes and just because they make a mistake does not give you the right to be judgmental.
   
   I am talking about me. So for those of you who have no idea what I'm saying let me explain.
   
   Two days ago I joined hub pages because I was really on the brink of pulling the plug on my life. I came here hoping to find a reason to live and I first read quiet a lot of hubs before I posted anything. I wrote a hub titled "how to catch a guy and keep him for good" The reason I wrote this hub was because I read one hubber that said when life got her down she just remembers the good things that happen to her and some how that helps her.
   
   So I decided to rewind back 13 years ago when I married my husband and how life seemed like it was going to be great and so when I was writing that I was literally crying because I missed the love we once shared and that made me feel good and I thought maybe if I brighten somebody else's day I would feel better which I did.
   
   But then reality hit me again. I recieved a call from my bank and they informed me that my application to extend the lenght of my mortage payments was denied and I only had 14 days left to pay up or they reposses my home. I cried so much that it cause me pain and anguish and I came here just for someone to talk sense to me as I have no family and hardly any friends. This is when I posted the discussion on the forum titled "I will kill myself if I dont make any money as I've had it!"
   
   I am grateful to the number of people that came to my aid and offered me valuable advice and although they were some of you that critizied me of just wanting traffic (which hurt me so much) but my heart was eased by the help I recieved from the other people here.
   
   So Let me be clear by saying.. I may not have introduced myself properly which I do apologize for. I know they are some people out there who have no heart or compassion and I'm ok with that but do know that hub pages is not just a hang out site for me. It's saved me whether you believe it or not I don't care. All I care about is that I'm happy some sense has been knocked into me and thank you to everyone that advised me.
   
   I know somebody will still go ahead and abuse me or accuse me of one thing or the other but like I said I don't care. I'm writing this for the benefit of the people who have helped me and the people who genuinely love reaching out to lost souls like me.

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      PrettyPantherposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Okay, then let's start over.
      
      I am still new here myself, but I can still extend a welcome.
      
      Welcome!

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      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you should know that a lot of people before you, have posted asking for help and they haven't been sincere most of the time.
      So it's very difficult to believe in your first post.
      I hope you're sincere on this one.
      Anyway sending nasty mails is not the way to cope with this. But sometimes people get angry thinking they have been hoaxed.
      It's not like we know you.
      It's not like you know any of us.

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         yoshi97posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Words well spoken ... It's misfortunate when we are judged because of those that came before us, but it does happen. When you have a recession with so many people looking for a way to make a fast buck, everyone suspects everyone.
         
         Is it fair? Consider what has come to pass before your arrival and you might understand why this thinking prevails. Trust comes with time ... and anyone worthy of trust will eventually be trusted.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      im deeply sorry for the  hubbers that said those things to you.  however, i hope you can take it to heart when i say that not all of us are like that.  in fact, most people i met on hubpages are often kind of compassionate.  look, i don't know you personally, but i can tell you've been through a lot in your life based on what you just said.  however, i hope you don't think ill of hubpages just because of the actions of a few morons here.  in fact, i read some of your work before, and i think your a great writer. 
      
      i hope someday i can be as good as you are.  that's why i decided to fan you just now as i truly do admire your work.  im sorry also to hear about your current situation, as i hope things will be better soon.  however, if you ever need a friend, then i wouldn't mind being one to you if you like as you seem like a very nice person.

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      hello you.
      
      would you like my advice? it's probably best not to reveal so much private information in a public forum because, as you can see, people will pick you apart, allude that you are dishonest, or make fun of you or be mean to you. i mean, who are they, when it's all said and done.
      
      no one. just people like you.
      
      play your cards close to your chest until you find someone who deserves your trust.
      
      just my 2 cents.
      
      cheers and best regards.

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      Arthur Fontesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      incomenews  Good luck with your writing you definitely look like you have been busy since you have been here.  I hope you feel an abundance of joy in your future.

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      Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm fairly new to Hub Pages myself, but I'd like to take this chance to say WELCOME and hope you enjoy being here!
      
      And I guess I don't understand why anyone would accuse you of anything.
      Heck, it's okay for someone to be here even if they are only looking for traffic, or whether they want to get more involved!   So phooey on anyone who judges you without knowing you anyway.
      ...I'm not a believer in "luck", so I'll say I wish you the best here, and other areas of your life.

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      AEvansposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Don't listen to the critical and ignore the negative we lost our home to and I felt the same way in my profile is a link to my story you should read it and there is always light at the end of the tunnel. ((( Big Hugs))

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   Alessia Amnesiaposted 14 years ago

   Never look to others for a reason to live. Only look to yourself.

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      i agree. so who cares what someone emailed you? ignore them. that's all they deserve. focus on yourself and your writing (if that's what you want to do), and screw what strangers on the internet think.

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   Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

   The choice to report that Hubber is yours also, Incomenews. Nobody should make accusations of 'crimes' without looking at themselves. I think you have some great Hubs and as said before, off to a great start.

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   incomenewsposted 14 years ago

   Thank you guys. Its great to know people like you are out there. Puts a big smile to my face. xx

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      im real too. dont worry, youll be ok. hang in there. sorry about your circumstance, i can relate.

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   cosetteposted 14 years ago

   
   
   only what you, and people you love, think of you is what matters, ok? welcome aboard!

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   Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

   Hope you enjoy it here. 

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   Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

   I prefer to give newbies benefit of the doubt n help if asked. Maybe a personality disorder? lol

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      ncmonroe1981posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Nah, everyone should start with a clean slate. I try to treat everyone as though they're trustworthy until they prove to me that they aren't.

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      cheaptrickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting that you bring up personality disorders.
      I'm taking a course on them right now
      I think I have all of them lol.
      On a serious note I too would like to apologise for my erratic behavior in the past.
      Maven told me I have"thin skin"and he was Right.
      I still have some of the aggression drilled into me by the Corp which I will love for the rest of my life.
      please except my apologies Y'all..
      I am taking supplements to grow a thicker skin
                            ...peace...

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   tantrumposted 14 years ago

   @steven
   You shouldn't be so naive.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      what do you mean?  besides i see no harm in comforting others when they're down.

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         tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         i always read everything, before becoming emotional over something.
         No comments.

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            Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            oh, i see...yeah, thats good advice

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            Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            i wasn't getting emotional about anything.  however, i guess your right.  i just have a tendency to always want to be a nice guy around people.    however, i guess there is such a thing as being too nice towards people.

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      remember Imadork? whatever happend to him? i toatly know stuff goes on besides hp, but I havent seen him?  nothing wrong with the benefit of the doubt. 

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         tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yes, I remeber. Two hubbers being really nasty with him.
         I knew his story and it was true. He even e-mailed me. and he never asked for anything.

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   Marisa Wrightposted 14 years ago

   incomenews, you have to bear in mind that we've had scammers join HubPages and tell us tragic stories.  That has made us suspicious and watchful for signs that a new arrival may not be genuine.
   
   In your case, I'm struggling with your statement (in your recent forum post) that you'd been booted out of hospital because you had no health insurance, when your blog states you're in England.  In England you'd be treated under the National Health System and wouldn't need health insurance.
   
   Also in your blog post of yesterday, you talk about the extensive new treatment plan prescribed by your doctor, and about your carer from the British Cancer Society.  You can't tell us that all happened since your original forum post? 
   
   If you genuinely have colon cancer at the stage described in your blog, you have my deepest sympathy.  My mother died of colon cancer and it's in our family's genes, so it's always hanging over my head.  However if I were in your shoes, I would have sold the house long ago and used the money to make the best of my remaining years.

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      Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Cosette, have you been keeping up to date with this saga?

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    Yeah, I'm always real nice around people, too.

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       and sheep too.

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          Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Well, that goes without saying.....

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    cosetteposted 14 years ago

    not really Marisa.
    
    but i am not going to assume anything. she seems harmless...

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       Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       cosette, if she's genuine then she has my sympathy - but if not, I object to her feigning a serious illness to make money.  Stage 4 cancer, which she claims to have, has a survival rate of only 15%.

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          Diskobolosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          If she's genuine she has everyone's sympathy for what she's going through. And if she's not genuine she has my sympathy for being so fucked up to make up such story.
          
          Just like you  have to feel pitiful to anyone that is begging for some traffic or whatever to make money. It's not like those people are rock stars making millions, more likely they are out of job and desperate. Think about it, who would even bother with such shit, it's like you really don't have anything better to do with your life...

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             Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Diskobolos, I guess you have a point.

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    EmpressFelicityposted 14 years ago

    incomenews, ever hear about the boy who cried "wolf!"?

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    marcel285posted 14 years ago

    It is horrible that someone was nasty to you when your clearly not in a good way. But please don't be saying suicidal things, it is a very selfish thing to do.There are people whom have lost others to suicide, and they find your threats about it very offensive. Some might even assume that your doing it for attention. If your suicial, you shouldnt be telling the whole world about it.

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