Does Confrontation Make Matters Better or Worse? by Dora

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   surovi99posted 23 months ago

   Dora's article addresses a concern which most of us have to face in life. I really like her techniques of confrontations in beneficial ways for both the parties. Here is a link to her article:
   https://hubpages.com/relationships/Does … r-or-Worse

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   Pamela99posted 23 months ago

   This is an excellent article article about confrontation Dora. I never heard of the sandwich method, and it sounds very good. I enjoyed reading all of benefits of using confrentation in a positive fashion.
   
   Thanks for posting Dora's article Rosina.

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   Misbah786posted 23 months ago

   MsDora, you never fails to amaze us with your excellent writings. There's a lot of wisdom here. Thank you for creating such a wonderful hub.
   Thanks Rosina for sharing MsDora's article
   
   Take care and enjoy your Sunday.
   Many Blessings and lots of Love

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   AliciaCposted 23 months ago

   Dora has shared some excellent advice about confrontations. Her suggestions are well worth thinking about and should be followed whenever possible. They apply to all of the confrontations that most of us face.
   
   I'm glad Dora added the section "The goal is not to victimize or demonize the wrongdoer (although that outcome may seem appropriate for some disgusting behaviors)."  For me, this indicates that she has acknowledged the fact that some examples of human behavior are so evil that they must be strongly confronted or resisted, unless the outcome could be dangerous for the resistor. I also like the fact that she included the phrase "may seem appropriate." It's important that we save confrontation for very serious problems and don't use it when it's inappropriate.

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   MsDoraposted 23 months ago

   Good morning. Thanks, Rosina for posting, and to my  other supportive friends for reading and commenting. Believe it or not, this article came out of my own desire to confront someone. We all need these reminders. Your comments are encouraging.

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   ravirajan01posted 23 months ago

   Excellent article, Dora. Confrontation is suitable for meaningful interaction of ideas and general evolution as a human with individual identity. A good social culture should have a confrontational or "agree to disagree" culture with some rules built in to maintain decorum and discipline.
   Thanks for sharing, Dora
   
   Thanks, Rosina, for sharing Dora's article.

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   techygranposted 23 months ago

   Ms. Dora has such a knack of clarifying cloudy issues.
   
   Back when I was an active counselor, there seemed to have been at least one time every workday when I would be called upon to confront someone-- a client or one of my colleagues-- on some heady issue. And even though I saw confrontation "as a gift" in helping an individual sort through aspects of a recurring problem, I admit that I was often very anxious about initiating the process. With lots of practice, I did find that the "sandwich" approach worked best for me. I was usually a little lavish with the base and the top of the sandwich and a little light with the middle ingredients. I had grown up with frequent attacks of criticism and believed that I would possibly be perceived as doing this,  It took quite a bit of 'practice' to see that most of my clients were very open to confrontation and help in resolving long-standing issues that got in the way of their moving forward in their lives. As long as the confrontation was done in a spirit of caring and within a trusting relationship, there was often a really blissful outcome. The other situations that Dora talks about were difficult but became less worrisome for me as I gained confidence in my own desire to be part of the change process, with the client in charge, and less worried about whether I was blamed or disliked because of my role. People-pleasing often gets in the way of effective changes for one's self and others.
   
   Also in this article, I like how Ms. Dora introduces the 'experts' with quotations from them vs. merely referencing the articles or books at the end of the article. Curious readers like I am, are apt to go looking for more from the referenced author if they pop up in the article's main content.

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