One most valuable lesson you learned in your present age

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   Gianella Labradorposted 4 months ago

   If there's one life lesson you'd like to teach or share about what life is like when we reach your age or a life lesson you recently learned, realize, thought of at your current age what would it be? it can be a life lesson for both the younger generation and the generation that has passed your age already. maybe its different then and different now. will it be the same? do we really walk at a similar crossroads, or every walkway of each person is built different?
   
   I just missed interacting with everyone here. Looking forward to reading responses. Hope everyone is well and safe always.
   
   Have a great day.

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      WriterJanisposted 4 months agoin reply to this

      Great question! I'd like to share that when we grow up, we often forget some of the most simple pleasures in life that kids appreciate, but as adults we overlook.  Just stopping to smell some flowers, listening to the sounds of birds chirping or building a sand castle at the beach, to name but a few.

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         Gianella Labradorposted 4 months agoin reply to this

         this one is so true there will be a point in our lives when we take for granted these precious little joys in our lives because we tend to find pleasure that is always grand, aesthetic, and a bit expensive but its always re connecting with nature no matter what age gives us that healing , happiness, and/or contentment that we need at the moment. Thank you for sharing Janis!

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      tsmogposted 4 months agoin reply to this

      A great set of questions, Ginella. Do you remember anybody telling you or heard someone say, "You only have one life to live, so make the best of it." Now how about that with some perspective.
      
      What would that mean when you are age 5?
      
      What would that mean when you are age 13?
      
      What would that mean when you are age 17?
      
      What would that mean when you are age 25?
      
      And on and on. What's of importance is what does that mean for whomever is reading this.
      
      For me, now knocking on the door of age 70, I ponder, with my 'history of living making the best of Life while before me lie years to come, yet, now, is what counts, right? Isn't that true for any age?
      
      What I mean is how to 'make the best of it' not only 'today', but 'right now'. What does it mean, 'Now'!
      
      To give some context, with real life, it is now 5:37 am for me, but I am thinking about 9:30 am when I have a podiatrist appointment. I most certainly am not in the 'moment of now' other than writing this.
      
      And, to do that I have to distract my mind from thinking about the appointment to focus on 'now' to write this. So, I ask, am I making the 'best of Life'?
      
      Taking a moment away from the distraction of the not far off appointment, now, I notice the cool breeze coming through the opened window just in front of my desk. I notice the actually lyrics of the song playing on my computer. I am aware it is just passed the 'Break of Dawn', yet the sunlight is hidden by an overcast sky. There is the faint sounds of cars on the main street in the not far off distance each with someone hurrying somewhere. However, here I, now, sit experiencing the 'now' thanks to the OP you posted. Wow!!
      
      Again, context and perspective at play, it is is now 6:07. Thirty minutes have passed trying to notice now, take a moment to 'make the best of it', and share it with the world through the magic and mysticism of the internet. Wow! It has been communicated not only here, but to the cosmos.
      
      The trick is to be able to do that in a few moments. It takes practice, but soon it becomes second nature. The better we are at it, then we have a greater propensity to 'Make the best of living Life', anyway. Awareness is key as I see it.
      
      Thanks for the opportunity to share a bit and a byte of this and that, which perhaps may be a 'life lesson'. Maybe not.
      
      hint - hint that works for concentrating too. Noticing or being aware.

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         Venkatachari Mposted 4 months agoin reply to this

         A nice perspective, Tim. I enjoy your revelations. The point is that we are ably habituated in managing our momentary time gaps in the best possible manner that could be possible. But what about our younger generations? Are they drawing inspirations watching our lives? That is more important.

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            Gianella Labradorposted 4 months agoin reply to this

            This is one of the reasons I started this forum. I wanted to learn from various viewpoints how they see life at present. What are the things they value most at their current age? What is their worry? It's a great question to ponder, "Are we living our lives the way we want the other generations to follow, be an inspiration, leave a legacy, or are we living our lives the way we are leading the other generations to have a horrible future?" Whatever we do now, will greatly affect the next generations if there's yet to come. It's also interesting to have an exchange of conversation from different walks of life. I learned that there are a lot of things we can actually learn from each other and understand from one another. Love to see what the world is like on various perspectives. Because how we view the world and how we have lived our lives varies as we age yearly, mentally, emotionally, and through experiences. It can also reveal our attitude and mindset towards life at the moment. Reflecting a sneak peek of how life has been too. It's fascinating to ponder deeper on everyone's responses, how do I feel about it, how can I resonate, is it a lesson I already figured out or is it something only at that certain age will I understand better. Things like these I'm excited and delighted to know.
            
            Looking forward to more responses soon.

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         Gianella Labradorposted 4 months agoin reply to this

         This is a good one Tim. I appreciate you taking time on a busy morning to ponder on this opt. It is actually a good practice in everyday life that we focus and stay grounded on the "now". To be fully aware of what is happening around us and be fully in touched with the reality. We tend to focus on trivial matters and being delusional on matters that are far from reality or the near future and sometimes we often get caught dwelling so much of our past that we lose touch of the present.
         
         I learned this one before. When I was researching for dealing with anxiety and panic attack episodes. It is said that it is very important for a patient to be able to get in touch with the 5 senses to help the person calm down. That is by asking what she sees, what she can hear, smell, feel to at least help her get back to reality. Sometimes it can get too overwhelming, causing the patient to feel so dettached from reality.
         
         But I would like to say that "We only have one life to live." however is not true for me or the phrasing might not be quite right. Because each day we wake up from our sleep is a new life. We may have been dead from our sleep and never wake up the next day. There are plenty lives given to us and I can testify that. In life there are times when we thought we almost didn't make it, but we are given 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th life and so on. Surviving accidents, surgeries, virus, or a disease like malaria or dengue, gives us another life to live. Even having a worst diarrhea or the worst tonsilitis and pneumonia you'd ever have can drain you so much but if you surpass it, if feels like you are given another chance in life.
         
         What is true though is "Making the best living of Life." We have to make the best of every moment because what will happen next is not guaranteed. There is only the present moment that we can cherish and make it meaningful. But in reality, no matter how hard we try to making sure that we are living life the best way we can, someone will always spoil it. There will be some triggers causing us to get mad with one another, fight with one another, hurt each other's feelings, make one upset instead of having a supposed creating beautiful memories to remember while we are still at it. It's the sad truth. We all know everyone is getting old. But we would still choose to hurt one another than enjoying the moment.
         
         Everyone's time is always fleeting. It will never be enough. 24 hrs will pass by so quickly as if you just had 5 hours per day.
         
         Spending one hour with the ones we love and truly care for, sometimes 30 minutes of it gets totally wasted when you mean well but you get scolded for it because they took it the wrong way.
         
         It requires a lot of work and practice to get better at it. With constant affirmations and gratitude towards your progress is important too.
         
         It is one good thing that I can resonate as well. Thank you for sharing Tim. This is my perspective at 23.

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   Venkatachari Mposted 4 months ago

   Hi, Gianella! Your question is very intriguing.
   You say it is a life lesson. Not a simple experience or enjoyment that needs to be shared. What could be a life lesson?
   
   Say, Love, Kindness, Generosity, Patience, Satisfaction, etc.- all these are the life lessons that we bequeathed from our elders and can be transferred to our younger generations. We should practice these ideals in our real life and demonstrate it through our actions so that our younger generations acquire them naturally.

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      Gianella Labradorposted 4 months agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your response Sir M. I agree these 5 virtues should be practiced, taught, and shared to all generations.
      
      There are gazillion things to learn about Love and the knowledge we acquire about it gets complicated as we age.
      
      Kindness can be taught in million ways too. Sometimes though being kind has some limitations and there will be times we get push over the edge then our kindness gets tested. Our definition of kindness can be double or multiple edged too sometimes.
      
      Being generous in this day of age, I guess its all about preferences. One of which is we are generous to people who of course we dont hold grudge to. People we are in debt with for all their good will they've done for us. And for people who unfortunately are just being used by influencers to gain views and likes online.
      
      Patience is a virtue that we learn everyday. No one is patient enough these days. Because every one is always in a hurry in everything that they do. If it is not fast enough we get agitated a lot quicker then everything becomes a mess or a chaos. Waiting in any kind of queue is another kind of patience game.
      
      Sometimes it can be frustrating but also it could trigger an intense level of anxiety. As we age our tolerance to being patient gets weaker but it can vary depending on how you lived your life and how you were trained to be patient all the time. It doesn't mean we always have to wait because like they say work hard play harder. We have to be smart and make use of our time waiting to be more efficient and so we wont waste any second of it.
      
      Maybe inserting like fun ice breakers or activities to keep you entertained especially if its getting you overwhelmed.
      
      The world needs more love and kindness more than ever.
      
      Thank you for sharing again Sir M.

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         Venkatachari Mposted 4 months agoin reply to this

         Gianella, I appreciate your contemplations. You are quite right. Enjoy each moment efficiently and blissfully and set an example for others.

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   Jodahposted 4 months ago

   A good question, Gianella, and I couldn’t answer it any better than Tim. My answer would have been something similar, but ai could not have explained it as well.

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   Isivwe Muoboposted 3 months ago

   One lesson I have learned in my four decades on earth is that time flies by so fast and you should never take any minute or hour for granted

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      Taylor Normanposted 2 months agoin reply to this

      Agreed. We are constantly trying to keep up with everything, putting some things off for later. Like, "I'll achieve [insert goal], and then I'll live". But life is happening right here and now

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