What is the hardest life lesson you had to learn?

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  1. Ashantina profile image60
    Ashantinaposted 10 years ago

    What is the hardest life lesson you had to learn?

    And have you really learned your lesson...?


  2. profile image0
    AMBASSADOR BUTLERposted 10 years ago

    To not force to make things happen in my life and let go and go with the flow with events that are happening in my life whether I like it or not. Use wisdom and be flexible always no matter the outcome in my life. Yes I have really learned my lesson. I am living my dream on the earth by being LOVE PEACE FREE. Thank you. Go in peace.

  3. Happyboomernurse profile image82
    Happyboomernurseposted 10 years ago

    To refrain from judging events as inherently good or bad. Tragic, painful events can dramatically change the course of our lives and in the moment of despair we may find it  impossible to think anything good could possibly come out of it, but with the passage of time we can look back and see the event strengthened the finest aspects of our character and helped us to create positive change for ourselves and others.
    Some of my hubs give specific situations where this was true in my own life. 
    This was a great question. Thanks for posting it.

  4. Tusitala Tom profile image60
    Tusitala Tomposted 10 years ago

    I think the hardest lesson I've had to learn in life is that what you give out is what you get back.   As a young guy I cheated on my girl friends then, when I did finally meet the 'girl of my dreams' she cheated on me; left me crying inside for a long time.   Some call it karma.  But whatever it is, Life teaches us that if we want happiness we have to hand out happiness.

    According to something I recently read, karma is simply reflectance.  "Reflectance is a property of the universe.  Therefore life reflects what you project." 

    I think that great master, Jesus, put if very succinctly:  "Do unto others as you would have other do unto you."  That's plain enough.   If we did so, we wouldn't have to go through so many traumatic and emotional learning erxperiences.

  5. Rebecca Saunders profile image61
    Rebecca Saundersposted 10 years ago

    Learning to be still, to trust, to go with the flow, to just be....to trust myself and my intuition and to be able to listen to that and others.

    It took losing loved ones and a chronic illness to learn these things....I certainly do hope I have really learned my lessons!

    The more you trust your self and the answers that life gives you hopefully that will keep you heeding the lessons.

  6. C.V.Rajan profile image60
    C.V.Rajanposted 10 years ago

    Mountaineers must be the best persons to advice. If they slip and fall, they get hit the hardest at the rocks!

  7. ArefinShams profile image61
    ArefinShamsposted 10 years ago

    no one thinks about you, from awaking in the morning and before going to sleep, everyone just thinks about his own self.

  8. tyronecomania profile image62
    tyronecomaniaposted 10 years ago

    i think the hardest life lesson which i had encountered and learned from the past was on how to become a more responsible and mature kuya among us three brothers.being the eldest among us three was a big deal for me before,for me,it takes responsibilities a plenty of works and stuffs for you to become a role model for your younger brothers,until i realized that being the eldest is not a responsibility,rather it is an oppurtunity for you to become more responsible.i mean an edge because if you learn how to become responsible with your doings and with every single words that you say,that would help you to become a good man and brother with the people around you.

  9. toknowinfo profile image80
    toknowinfoposted 10 years ago

    I am constantly learning. But think the hardest life lesson I learned is when someone told me "life is an illusion". The older I get the more I find this to be true.

  10. Syrusv37 profile image85
    Syrusv37posted 10 years ago

    Realizing that the things you love don't always stay. And doing all you can to keep them isn't always enough.

  11. seebasic profile image61
    seebasicposted 10 years ago

    For me, the hardest lesson to learn, was and is, I am the creator of my reality and I am responsible for what happened in my life.

  12. noturningback profile image60
    noturningbackposted 10 years ago

    That I have limitations. Still learning what those limits are.

  13. JDeez2000 profile image60
    JDeez2000posted 10 years ago

    Accepting the consequences of each choice I've made, good and bad. Knowing that sometimes regrets are necessary to become a better person.

  14. kallini2010 profile image79
    kallini2010posted 10 years ago

    It's a tough question, no doubt.  Have I learned?  What was the hardest lesson?  Life is a good school, much better school than any academic school can be, but what I found recently the worse it is the better.  A happy life without problems (or challenges/opportunities - using the Art of Reframing) teaches us nothing.  NOTHING.  We are unhappy for a very simple reason - there is no real unhappiness to compare it to.  I was no exception - I did not have everything, but I had a financially stable life, unhappy, but secure.  I tried to improve, but I was always afraid not to make it on my own.  I was afraid to get out of unhappy marriage, I was afraid to dream.  Afraid, afraid, afraid.  Some people call it being reasonable.

    It was all before I lost my ability to be reasonable.  I got sick and became insane.  My fear and inability to change led me to clinical depression that was treated with antidepressants and it turned out that I was bipolar, meaning that treatment drove me into mania - being high on drugs.  It's no fun having no control over your actions, but the lesson - the hardest so far was - there was no way back, only forward - mental hospital, dealing with police, with divorce, financial instability and so forth.  But after the turmoil, the biggest thing that I could overcome in my life was FEAR.  I saw others not in their best light being afraid and I realized, this is it, it's time to change.  In a sense, illness became a blessing.  No, it's not easy being me and I will never wish for anyone to have it, but as far as being afraid...  Just take my word for it.  Don't.  Or take the inspiration I wrote on my current diary:

    "The whole secret of existence is to have no fear.  Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one.  Only the moment you reject all help are you freed." Buddha

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    surlyoldcatposted 10 years ago

    In all seriousness:

    It's not the fall that kills you, but that sudden stop at the end.

  16. Str8up Hookups profile image41
    Str8up Hookupsposted 10 years ago

    That everyone isn't meant to be your friend.

    Just because someone is your parent and is suppose to love you and take care of you doesn't mean they really want or are worthy of the job.

    Once you know this,you learn to handle life str8up!

    Straight with no chaser!


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