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   Aficionadaposted 14 years ago

   Do other Hubbers, besides me, ever wonder about the "rest of the story" when someone stomps off and leaves HubPages - such as someone who opens dozens of forums but then can't deal with honesty?
   
   Or perhaps another Hubber has discovered that an OP has a dual identity and is commenting on their own forum topic, but I can't figure out who it is - I would love to know!
   
   And then, there are the ones who seem obsessed with some topic relative to their own personal history, and they just absolutely can't leave it alone.  I can't tell what exactly it is they're trying to accomplish - sympathy? support? but why? Don't they ever learn that enough is enough?
   
   Anyone up for writing a roman �  clef?

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      Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Nope.  I figure that if they couldn't handle somebody disagreeing with them, or felt so compelled to push their own agenda that they would create a dual identity, they did not understand what this site is really all about to begin with.  I do not really see it as a loss but a relief. 
      
      As for being obessed with topics directly related to personal history, I write a lot about mine because I do not want others to repeat my mistakes or feel they are alone. I feel that there are a lot of misnomers about what a victim of rape and/or domestic abuse actually go through and I write in an attempt to bring at least a schmidgen of enlightenment.  I write about other stuff, too, but those two topics are close to my heart and I feel they are important social issues as well.  It isn't about sympathy or support but awareness.  That being said I cannot speak for everybody, only me on that one.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I am not one to wonder about those whom you speak of. I do not give them a second thought.
      This one particular issue was suppose to be addressed by HubPages Staff a while back. A member with more than one account isn't allowed more than one identity in the forums. How HubPages Staff prevents it from happening? Is unknown.
      When you have an itch? Do you not rub or scratch it? Some people get itchy about certain topics...such as religion and politics.
      It isn't a matter of learning when enough is enough. Not every discussion has a limit, at which time, the two individuals or more agree to disagree. Compromise in some aspects are unacceptable, when the actions could destroy humanity as a whole. Why do they do it? Ask them. At which time, you will have to make a choice?
      Do not know how.

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      Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm with Chaotic Chica about dual identities and people leaving.  As for writing and posting my personal history...it has to do with the fact that I feel all alone and so do many others who have been abused and/or are depressed.  I really feel the need to share and let others who feel the same know that they aren't alone.  I'm quite amazed sometimes with the willingness of other knowledgeable hubbers who share their expertise and those who give excellent advice.  I look at it as they aren't only helping me, but they're helping anyone who might come across that particular thread in need of sound advice.  (and hopefully my argumentative side shows the need to proceed with caution with online advice  )

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         Aficionadaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Of all the people I would not want to insult or offend with my original comment, Rafini, you are at the top of the list! You have my deepest respect and admiration, and I have gained more value than I know how to express from reading some of your hubs and forum comments.
         
         I definitely do agree with both you and Chaotic Chica about the importance of sharing personal stories and the way doing so can help others as well as ourselves.  I am full of awe and admiration at the way people open up here on HP and bolster one another - sharing experiences, life knowledge, professional knowledge. It does truly amaze me in the most wonderful way.
         
         In my OP (third topic) I tried to make reference to a specific situation that has bothered me before, but I did it too obliquely, because I honestly do not want to cause pain to the people involved.  I think that you have run across the one I mean, but since I really don't want to stir this up any more I hope I can lay it to rest here without any more mention.  I'm sorry I brought it up in the first place.

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            Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Don't be sorry - you have a curiosity you need filled.  No problem with that and I like it that you brought it up without mentioning names.
            
            
            (thank you, you're so sweet!  definitely no offense taken here )

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               Aficionadaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Thanks!

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   Aficionadaposted 14 years ago

   Oh, I definitely draw a line between what you are describing and what I've seen with some.
   
   I believe one of the greatest things about HP as a community is the way people can share their own experiences and ask others for their insights, advice, support - and other Hubbers will gather around and provide all that and more.  I absolutely love that - being on the giving and receiving end, both participating and just observing.
   
   But I've also seen some people resurrect the same dead topic from time to time (in forums or questions) - not actually asking for insight or advice at all; not adding anything new to the last time they posted the same thing; not even saying, "I've written a Hub about such-and-such an important topic, would you please read and comment?" or something similar.  It's hard to describe what I mean without naming names, and I don't want to do that. 
   
   But please do accept my assurance that what I'm hearing you say about writing valid Hubs on important social issues is not at all what I mean here.
   
   As for the other two items - they're matters of curiosity for me, but not really all that important.  Mostly just a gossipy thread, if even that.

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   paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

   HP has become large enough that the forums here are now a microcosm of life.

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   Aficionadaposted 14 years ago

   Ooohhhhhh, I can tell I did an AWFUL job of expressing myself in my original post, based on these reactions from Hubbers that I admire.
   
   I'm happy to let this topic die.  But, just to explain, before that happens -
   
   I'm not concerned about the ones who stomp off; in some cases, it's even a bit funny.  I wonder why they were here in the first place, what they wanted, whether they have tried the same tactics elsewhere.  I think there are some enthralling short stories to be had by observing them.  I think of Guy de Maupassant and O. Henry here.  I'm just curious about what makes those people act the way they do.
   
   Then, the dual ID's in forums.  I may have jumped to conclusions about that one.  But I did see a respected Hubber say (in a forum) "She just answered her own OP."  I wasn't able to see a second post by the OP, and I couldn't figure out which later post was supposed to be the response the respected Hubber mentioned. So it was an assumption on my part that there was a second ID of the same Hubber (the OP) operating - but just an assumption.  And again, fuel for a fertile imagination.  Who, what, where, why, when, how?  Especially why?  I think there's a story in it somewhere - probably a short story, but not a novel - and I would be interested in reading it, even if I'm not the one to write it.
   
   I'll drop the third topic without further ado.  Either people figure out who/what I mean or they don't.  I have no grudge against the people involved; they seem to have some important stories and information to share.  But I do question the way they seek attention, and I'm curious to know the backstory - but not enough to get in the middle of their issues.
   
   Thanks for your responses.  Your insights are helpful - and so is the tone of the responses, because that has helped me to see how my first post came across in a way I really didn't intend.

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      Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If our responses are helpful wouldn't that mean you're closer to the answer you're looking for?  I mean, without mentioning who you're talking about it'll probably take some creative thinking to get the answers but you now have something to judge against, right?

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