Are kinky web-sites a sign of intent to cheat or infidelity?
I caught my man looking at a porn pix but I'm not surprised or even mad. I actually enjoy porn. But, he tried to hide the pix when I came in the room. Weird! So I when he was gone I checked his internet search history found he's signed up for dating sights for transexuals and shemales. I wasn't prepared for that. Of course trust is most important in a relationship, so I dare not tell him but WTF?????
It is one thing looking at porn and hiding it, that's usual and to be expected in most men for fear of offending and hurting their partner; but for a man to sign up at the sites that you mentioned, that would make me think that he is exploring something that he feels powerfully drawn to and obviously doesn't wish for you to know because I'm sure he feels that it might jeopardise his relationship.
For a woman to lose a man to another woman is bad enough but for a woman to lose a man to another man that's probably worse.
If I were in your shoes, I'd probably be brave and have a serious one to one talk and ask for a simple explanation.
Trust is one thing but can you ignore what's happening? It's isn't easy to push it into the back of your mind and I'm sure it will eat at you like a cancer, if you try to ignore this.
If you're not sure what to do then I might be inclined to seek professional advice before talking to your other half. Maybe speaking to a specialist in sexual psychology to get an understanding of what might be in your partner's mind would be helpful.
Anyway I can't really say anymore, and I do hope this has been of some use to you.
Be courageous Bravebird and do the right thing - but think well before you do.
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