Any suggestions!

Jump to Last Post 1-4 of 4 discussions (5 posts)
  1. Valeed profile image79
    Valeedposted 8 years ago

    What should a person do when he realizes the people who mean alot to him, don't really care about him. It hurts when after giving out so much we are left with nothing at the end. I continuously try to control myself but some how I just fail to do so. I have come to a point where I hate myself just because am unable to control my feelings. I don't want to be an emotional freak. I  don't know what to do, I am helpless. While typing this message I am shedding tears like anything, don't wanna be like this sad(

  2. kirstenblog profile image74
    kirstenblogposted 8 years ago

    You say that these people who mean a lot to you don't really care about you. In your shoes my first step is to evaluate this thought. Is this thought true? Do they genuinely not care about you?

    Without knowing the details of your situation I cannot say if they do or do not care about you. We can of course assume that your thought, that they don't care, is correct. If it is a correct assessment you might want to consider, is their care for you worth much? If you do a lot for these people, and care deeply for them and they cannot or will not give that care back is their opinion of you worth much?

    It is very tricky to help when the details are not known but I hope that I have got you thinking a little. There are a great many events in life that we have little to no control over. The control we have is over our thinking. What we think about this or that event (someone being unkind, uncaring, insensitive, whatever) is the one thing we have control over. Our thinking directly influences our emotion. If you can identify the thoughts that lead to sadness, anger, despair etc. you can evaluate them and change them, this will in turn change the emotion you experience.

    I had to learn to do this as a teen battling with depression. I think of it as putting my Spock hat on. I evaluate my thinking and ask if the reactionary thinking I have had is logical? If I think they don't like me or don't care, I have to ask myself if it is true? Just because I think so and so doesn't care doesn't make it true. If it is true, well should I care if so and so doesn't like me? What gives their opinion of me any importance?

    I don't know if these ramblings help or not but I hope they do smile

  3. Tumba profile image60
    Tumbaposted 8 years ago

    Your situation seems very known to me. It happens at times.It usually happens when people start taking your for granted. They start believing that you will be there with them no matter what, no matter how they treat you back.
    Then you really need to sit back and think "what's wrong?'.
    One golden tip is don't ever loose confidence in you, you are good. Don't see yourself from their eyes. You are as wonderful as always.
    Take a stand, and decide for yourself, your life. After all, life is too short to spend with tears.

    Smile and smile and smile... there are loads of other things to be taken care of... Enjoy Life... with or without them... !! smile

    1. Valeed profile image79
      Valeedposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      They are stuck in my mind, whatever I do, where ever I am they are always in my mind. I hate their memories, can't get rid of them. I am a person who makes association very quickly, so they seems to be everywhere. soryr cant type more, thnks fr reply

  4. Valeed profile image79
    Valeedposted 8 years ago

    @Kirstenblog. Thanks for replying to my post. You have are very right that one should control his thinking to ultimately control the emotions. I have not made this statement (they don't care) on just emotions. I have given and cared alot for the ones I love so much but it's true that they have never returned the favor. Even after being ignored so many times, still I can't see tears in their eyes and will do anything to make them smile.
    I am a cancer patient and by this you can understand, what will be I expecting in return. I don't want anyone's sympathy but I do want they atleast ask me how am I? Am I died or live?
    People are so busy in their lives that they don't have enough time for a single text message. I am not those kinda guy who does not understands the problems that people have in their lives. I am aware that they must be having many problems but does that mean that they can't give a second out of their life. I wait months for a single message from them, literally months.
    I can't forget people, I can't leave anyone. These two are my weakness, I can't stop myself being hurted.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)