I'd go with Timorous' list, only I'd take out compliments (I'm not one who looks for them) - and, maybe I'm the only one (apparently), but I'd remove all that chocolate!! Hugs - maybe it's me, but I can easily live without them. I'd add "kindness" (and that would include toward all living things, not just me).
Then I'd keep Ivorwen's "integrity", but I'd place "respect" at the top of my version of the revised list. I'd also adds flowers and music.
My proposed, revised, list:
cleanliness (******* This one's a major prerequisite)
a good listener
LOVE (This one, I'd revise and put in lower case letters, I have to say.... . )