Is it appropriate to ask about selling property after a family has dealt with a

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   smlbizmattersposted 11 years ago

   Is it appropriate to ask about selling property after a family has dealt with a sudden death?
   
   My uncle recently passed (March 2012). We have had several inquiries as to what was going to be done with the property. I don't really now how to feel. I almost think its kind of rude. It's my grandmothers home and she's older. She's in grief and I just don't think people should ask her these things. There are significant emotional ties to the home for all of us. We all grew up there. Am I being irrational and overly sensitive?

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   calculus-geometryposted 11 years ago

   I think you are right to feel offended and there's no rush to deal with these things unless your uncle had some debts and there are bill collectors knocking on your door.  Even then, you are permitted some time to work things out.  Tell those people to leave your grandmother alone.  Best of luck to you and your family. Peace.

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   Rfordinposted 11 years ago

   I think it's absolutly understandble that you feel this way, this is how YOU grieve and expect things to be handled. But that cannot be said about how other's grieve or what the "right" amount of time to wait is in their book.
   
   I think it's important for others to respect your feelings and to acknowledge that you still feel connected to the property. Rightfully so as so many memories were made there. How does grandma feel?
   
   Is there not a family member that may be able to "buy" the property? This way the house stays in the family and others can keep their "connections". We did this when my grandma passed away;my cousin bought the house and it is now availbe for family get togethers and the like.
   
   However if that is not an option it's best to let grandma make the sole decision. I'm guessing she either lives there or is the executive of the estate? If their are no other relatives involved then grandma has the say. Ask gradma about her feelings, in times like this you get to see all sides of people. Sad, but many people are able to move on rather quickly while others mourn for much longer periods.
   
   Good luck.
   
   ~Becky

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