There are those who have a commonality with their parents and have THEIR support in whatever endeavor they undertake be it academic, cultural, and or job-related. These are the people who have THEIR PARENTS' back through good and bad times and through thick and thin. These are the parents who speak up for their children when the latter are abused or treated unjustly by teachers, bullies, and even other relatives. Then there are those who wonder WHY these parents are their parents. They contend that they were born to the WRONG parents. They know that they have absolutely NOTHING in common with them and vice versa. Their parents, in fact, deem them to be quite unusual, even odd. These parents, instead of understanding and supporting their children's unique/different perspectives, outlooks, and talents-denigrate, even mock such perspectives, outlooks, and talents. These parents often tell their children to "grow up" and live in the real world. These are the parents who crush their children's dreams and aspirations to be like everyone else and/or to be "normal." These are the parents who really DON'T have their children's back at all but blame their children for "asking for it". Yes, there are those who are really out of sync with their parents and their parents view them as "the odd child" , even "the freak" What are YOUR thoughts on this?
GM, powerful topic.
Ego is at the heart of this tragedy. Ego is vulnerable and easily bruised. Ego does not want to be seen as associated with something less than perfect.
Ego is pure self-concern -- the opposite of Love.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
The world can be healed with love. If we love others as ourselves and wish for them everything that they desire, then we are being truly compassionate. Even if that other person wants to slap our face, we should gladly turn the other cheek. "Here, this is yours. Do with it what you will."
This is not to say that we actively seek out abuse. No. But neither should we avoid it. "Resist not evil." Any resistance will only make evil stronger. Resistance makes you tangible and thus vulnerable. The body may perish, but you will still suffer.
Some kids commit suicide, because they feel the world (including their parents) is against them. But this is only a product of their parents' lessons -- self-concern. And suicide is the extreme version of self-concern. It has "me, me, me" written all over it.
We should wish for those evil parents every egoistic joy. We should wish for their abused children, every opportunity to escape and to find peace. But these do not mean that they continue to follow Ego in abuse or suicide. There are many ways to find pleasure and some (if the method is based on altruistic love) lead to perpetual bliss.
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