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What is your opinion of women who have very large families(8 or more children pe

  1. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

    What is your opinion of women who have very large families(8 or more children per family)?

    What drives them psychologically to have more children than they can reasonably take care of emotionally, psychologically, and/or socioeconomically?  Are they filling a psychological void that can be more constructively used towards outside activities and pursuits?  Recently, there was a Michigan woman who had recently given birth to her THIRTEENTH child. She and her husband already had 12 children, all boys.  She wanted a girl; however, she had another boy.  She remarked that she intends to have a girl and will try again. Children are not collectible dolls to fill narcissistic, selfish needs.


  2. Austinstar profile image87
    Austinstarposted 2 years ago


    Talk about stubborn and hard headed! She has 12 kids, all boys, and wants to get pregnant again! If I was her obstetrician, I would have tied those tubes a long time ago. I just feel sorry for the children having such an incredibly stupid mother. I wouldn't even want her to adopt a girl because that girl would have no chance to grow up and escape the mindset of these kinds of parents.
    Parents of large families think they are being so generous and "fruitful". But, in reality, they are the most incredibly selfish people on the planet.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly, they're SELFISH. They don't have to raise their children, they MAKE oldest/older children RAISE them. Also in large/very large families, there is NEGLECT in one form or another. Large families are DYSFUNCTIONAL.  Great answer Austinstar!!!!!

  3. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 2 years ago

    As a mother of three I think it is impossible to keep up with 5+ children the way they deserve to be cared for. I don't care how much money they have, the important parts of parenting can not be fully achieved while keeping up with that many children. Can you imagine bath time, play time, homework and bed time stories with TWELVE children!?!?!
    So many people say that the generations before did it and they all turned out fine. Great, I'm glad they are "fine", but what could they be if their parents had more time for each of them?
    There is no way of having that many children without pushing responsibilities onto the older children that are not their responsibilities to have. I truly believe that children should be allowed independence and chores, however many larger families rely on the older children to do the parent's job and that in not only wrong, but takes away from the oldests' childhood.
    I just don't understand why anyone would add that many children to an already over populated world when their is no way of giving them everything they deserve.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Prior generations had XX kids because of rudimentary contraception that sometimes didn't work.People who grew up in large families stated that they're "fine".That was on the surface, behind closed doors, they HATED it, cursing their parents.

  4. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago


    'There's something psychologically amiss, even aberrant about women who have very large families.They've some type of void in their lives so instead of channeling that void constructively through cultivating friends, a job/career, participating in cultural/intellectual activities, volunteering to help needy children,&/or other gainful pursuits, they endlessly have children to full the void. Such women have a narcissistic, infantile purview. They view children as collectibles-dolls. They don't have the foresight to realize that children are individuals who must have individualized parental time & attention in order to thrive emotionally, mentally, psychologically, & even psychically.They also must have socioeconomic opportunities to pursue their desires & dreams. 

    Typical mothers of very large families really don't care about the welfare of their children after giving birth.They're mothers in name only. In very large families, children raise themselves or each other. In such families, oldest/older daughters are parents to their siblings. Parentified children are commonplace in very large families. It's evident that children in very large families receive very inadequate parental care, time, & attention.  As a matter of fact, there isn't such thing as normal parent-child interaction in very large families or in large families(6 to 8 children per family). Parents have very little or no interaction w/their children. All the children have to talk to are each other. That's why many of them are less developed academically & intellectually. Their only interaction are w/other siblings,seldom or never w/parents.

    Children from very large families are mostly likely impoverished, poor, or very near poverty. This means they've poor, even inferior nutrition, poor medical/health care, &/or poor quality of clothing, mainly castoffs from donations.They also receive some type of socioeconomic assistance either through relatives, charitable donations, or from the government.There are very, very sustainable very large families.The majority of them receive some type of socioeconomic assistance.I'm digressing much.Mothers of very large families are selfish, even having some type of emotional & psychological issues. No intelligent woman wants to have a very large families. It isn't physical healthy for women to be continuously pregnant; it disrepairs the body, oldest/older children will be cast aside/neglected, & there will be financial burdens for all involved. Excellent comments, Austinstar & Peeples. Wish I could select both answers as BEST! You are women after my own heart!

    1. Austinstar profile image87
      Austinstarposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      No, problem Grace, the best thing is getting this message out to the world!

    2. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      We've got to fight THAT FIGHT! I find it obscene for people to have large/very large families.Children in such families SUFFER in one way or another They're parentified/cast aside(if older), impoverished, neglected, & stunted developmentally.

  5. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 2 years ago

    If they can afford to support all the children themselves and do a good job doing so (no neglect, no abuse), I see no problem with this.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Really, c'mon now. Parents CAN'T raise very large families alone-oldest/older children are FORCED to be parents to younger siblings. It's mindless for anyone to have a very large family. 1-2 children ARE ENOUGH!