To bWhat causes kind-hearted people to be viewed as unintelligent, even stupid by many people?
People who are kind-hearted are oftentimes underestimated in our society. They are considered to be gullible at best and not so intelligent at worst. The consensus is that if they were intelligent, they would not be so open hearted to others. Kind hearted people are viewed as weak by virtue of their lovingkindness thus are taken advantage of by others.
The belief that they are too trusting and gullible make them prime targets for cons and being taken advantage of by family and friends.
Essentially they put other people's needs ahead of their own!
Oftentimes these people are silently bitter over the lack of reciprocation. However they will never make their feelings known.
The general consensus is if someone does not look out for them self they either are a fool or lack self-esteem.
When I was growing up people would say: "Find a fool bump his head." In other words fools were meant to be taken advantage of.
One old adage is: Always take care of home first!
Some folks say "yes" all the time because they need to be liked.
"The greatest love of all is learning to love yourself!"
- Michael Masser and Linda Creed
Quite simply put, users and abuser look for a target that is not going to challenge them, call them out, or expose them to others. Unfortunately, many, many people in society will use and abuse others so long as they believe they won't be caught or exposed for doing so. When they find a person meeting this criteria they deem them unintelligent simply because they can take advantage of them and likely do so without being found out until afterwards if at all.
Some users and abusers deem themselves smart perhaps because they are benefiting in some way and taking something from someone else who unwittingly allows them to do so simply because they trust their fellow man or gives people the benefit of the doubt when it is not deserved. At some point in their lives many trusting people will slowly harden their hearts and change their trusting ways but there are some who do not and will truly suffer at the hands of users and abusers of all sorts.
I think it's the exceptionally kind people who become targets.
If your behavior is unusual, meaning further from the normal variance of generally observed behavior, it becomes a precedent that you are probably flawed and don't know what you're doing.
The assumption as to why you behave this way is that you're naive. You want to live in utopia, can't recognize that this is not it, and fool yourself into thinking that this is it and people by nature are very good (which they might be but that's a different question). The observation is that you lack the normal competitive drive and instinct of self preservation because you're too dumb to compete and are too vaguely aware or reality to know the imperative of self preservation.
What about people on the other end of the spectrum. One might assume that the guy on death row automatically has no emotion, has good general intelligence but got caught, luckily, because he is very risk seeking.
Sometimes the stereotype is observed true, sometimes false, but is still a stereotype meaning it has some kind of logical or observational precedent yet is by definition (I say that often) still a generalization.
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I think not. See you're not talking to me. (must be something I ate!)
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