Why do you think kind hearted people are the most mistreated?
Because they believe in the good heartedness of mankind. A very foolish assumption in some cases.
because they can take alot of dirty insults with little or no complain
I think kind people tend to be extremely accepting and open at the beginning of meeting someone. They also have the ability to forgive more often than others. It's unfortunate that some people will misuse a person do to their kindness but it's their loss. A kind person is a blessing that should be treated right.
"Nice Guys" finish last. Basicaly because they want to believe that all people are nice given the chance. It's only after they get kicked in the face will they realize that most people are out only for what they can grab.
kind hearted people are far easier to manipulate and mistreat than anybody, i believe this is because there are little to no repercussions to the person mistreating as the kind hearted person chooses to believe they are 'misguided' or 'didn't mean it' and such like. You can spot a kind hearted person a mile off unfortunately.
While I'm kind hearted i will not take rubbish from anybody, I'm not blind enough to see that people are taking the mik with no legit reason to make it anywhere near ok
I think that people who are kind are seen as being gullible or dispensable in some way by those who are doing the mistreating. In fact it is quite the opposite. Kind people are underestimated in this way because being kind is a life choice; it's something that people have resolved to do, no matter what. This is different from being a weak person who has weak morals or is easily influenced.
It is DIFFICULT to be kind, much more difficult than it is to hurl insults or laugh along with someone who has cruel intentions. That makes the kind-hearted person STRONGER, not weaker, than those who oppress them.
You might be able to "spot them a mile off," but I bet if you asked that person whether they'd rather live any other way, they would tell you no.
I don't believe that kind hearted people are mistreated. I love people who are kind and basically "nice" and not so much those who are not. I think that the majority of us do. I think that one has to make a distinction between "Kind hearted" and "stupid" If anyone allows himself to be mistreated, taken advantage of and trampled upon, it is more likely than not that they are simply naive, have low self esteem or other issues. If I take money away from feeding my kids and give to a friend who claims she is in need, then I am not kind hearted, I am basically stupid.
Kind hearted people want to think the best of everyone. They know they are going to be disappointed, but they keep trying. They are mistreated because some people cannot understand or accept that there are good and caring people in the world, who will help them, regardless of the circumstances.
I think that the kind hearted do want to believe that every one else also has pure and genuine intentions. A lot of times a mistake, but it's the only way the kind hearted can "see". The kind hearted are taken advantage of now due to stupidity, but because they care so much that they overlook wrong doings. They just want to "help" and "be there". Until it becomes too much. That's my opinion....
Well even though they are kind hearted people people will actually take advantage of there good will as much as possible.
Think about this for a second. If you are a person that is always offering your help to everyone people are going to notice that you are the type of person that just can't say no. That being said they are going to take advantage of you even if they don't need your help, but rather to make life easier for themselves.
All you have to do is just say no from now on and if they get mad about it oh well. After saying "NO" the first time it will get a whole lot easier because eventually people will stop asking for favors and then you are back in control of who you want to help and who you know is just taking advantage of you!
Hope that helps!
It is only because other people assume the kind hearted people as weak and vulnerable. If a person is kind hearted and listens everything whether praises or derogatory remarks without any reaction, people take it for granted to mistreat him. A snake can save himself by hissing a little while not biting anybody. So kind hearted people should also adopt a mild toughness when provoked in an uncivilized way. When Christ says about turning the other cheek, it's meaning was not literal. Turning the other cheek means that when somebody is behaving with you in a rude manner, you should make him know the right behavior. How to inculcate right behavior ? Through teaching the rogue elements the right kind of morality and decent way of thinking and living. Such a remarkable magic can be done by the wise one who is both kind hearted and stern too if need arises.This is the real meaning of turning the other cheek. There is a kind of innocence ingrained in kind hearted people and they imbibe the moral values very truly and are ever ready to suffer any kind of torture to keep them intact. Though being so kind, they remain bereft of some kind of toughness which is very much required to be able to save oneself from any imminent violence and stubbornness. To be purely kind hearted being is not good these days. If some kind of aggressiveness is not visible in the nice people, they are always prone to exploitation and maltreatment. So, in my view, it is not at all bad if such precious beings devise some kind of defense system for their survival. At the same time, all such people who mistreat kind hearted persons, should keep in mind that they deprive themselves of invaluable insight and right direction of life. On the contrary, if they look upon the kind hearted persons with admiration and respect, they will receive all wisdom from the kind hearted with full warmth and kindness. With a well behaved attitude, all the negative traits will disappear from their minds and goodness will spring forth. So, it is in their own interest if all people realize that softness of the kind hearted is not something to be ridiculed and scoffed at, rather all the reverence should be showered on such people who are the real assets of humanity. It is ironical that rogue elements need to learn from the kind hearted the values that they are ignoring in their pride and at the same time, kind hearted should also take a little cue from the rogues to become a little tough when an occasion demands so.
KIndness can often be mistaken by some, as a weakness. There are also far too many cynical individuals in the world who may believe that kind people have yet to recognize the cruelty and evil in the world and therefore are foolish.
Usually, nothing could be further from reality. Human beings who have a true tendency to be kind, compassionate and gentle, are keenly aware of the ugliness and brutality which exists. They have chosen not to be a part of this harmful and dangerous way of life, but to rise above and attempt to be an example of love and acceptance of all humanity.
Kind people see negativity, but do not embrace it. They feel anger, but simply do not act upon it.
If there are those who feel that kind hearted people are easily mistreated......and therefore mistreat them.......they will one day realize their ignorance. The truth is, they have simply been OUTSMARTED.
You are absolutely right. But then how do we get them to stop???
BoomBoom....As I said, ignore them and rise above. Live life in all positive manner & go forward. Eventually the "spooky people" drop from sight.
beyoulou...I HOPE you meant, "insightful"....I would hate to cause a riot !!! LOL
It's part of the human condition. We attack the weak. It has to do with our basic nature. Something of a pack mentality similar to that of dogs. You fight for your spot in the pack. I think the human animal; I don't generally try to insult the animal kingdom by equating them with anything as vicious as the human being but I digress. Basically kind hearted people project weakness and the human "animal" responds to this kindness as weakness and attempts to dominate it. On some level our basic nature views the bearing of kind hearted people as something it can or needs to control. I learned this through the years and as a kind hearted person myself I had to develop a balance between projecting what I learned would be percieved as weakness and a bearing that projected someone that would have to be at a bear minimum given respect. Too much to the left=pushover, too much to the right=a**hole. Somewhere in the middle offered me ample opportunity to express my kindheartedness without sacrificing respect and or unwittingly inviting the more aggressive among us from being mean to me. I think if you can understand the concept and begin to find ways to project that "middle-bearing" you will find your mistreatment greatly diminished if not gone altogether.
Because cruel one knows other then kind hearted people nobody's gonna bear them...so here comes their target...
I think kind-hearted people are often the most vulnerable. They may lack the cynicism to avoid the emotional investment and risk that a more jaded individual would avoid. Ultimately, we hope that kindness is appreciated and rewarded, but it is often exploited by manipulative, self-serving people. We must temper kind-heartedness with discernment, insight and good judgment.
Mean spirited people view it as easier to take advantage or kind hearted people, so the mean spirited people who are only out for themselves walk all over them to use them for their needs.
I think that if a person is being mistreated in any situation it is because they do not know how to handle the situation. A person could be kind, but that does not mean that they have to accept any kind of treatment. They have options, to just walk away, and not associate with people who will miss treat them.
I try to show compassion and care about everyone, but I am not going to allow anyone to abuse me. I only associate in environments that I think are safe and with people who also want to improve themselves by being better people. I know how cruel the world is by just reading the papers, but I do not leave the house with I am a weakling mentality.
I work on tolerance and I would not let another person make me angry because that is giving them control of my emotions, kind people do not need to let others control their emotions. They need to have a rational mind as well as a kind heart.
Over looking negative and only seeing the positive is a set up to get taken advantage of, people need to see what is there and determine what they are willing to tolerate.
I hope that helps.
People see kindness as weakness. They see it as opportunity to take advantage of someone.
I am one. The most kindhearted and the most mistreated. I've learned from many life mistakes to be more aware of peoples intention with me. Now I am more cautious. Protective and slightly paranoid for my safety!
I think most of us can relate to your situation discernment is key. I guess more articles should be written on this delicate subject. Congrats on answering 100 questions! Keep up the great work!
I think that people who mistreat or take advantage of another person because they are kind is because: predators prey on the easy target or what appear to them to be weak. People with NPD target nice people
Hi Ericka! Kindhearted people are most likely viewed as weak minded, in some cases most kindhearted people are trying to treat people how they want to be treated, however there does come a time when they must shake the dust off and keep moving on. Being kind is one thing, and being a doormat for others is a whole different story, which surrounds self-esteem issues. You must have boundaries. You know the saying, "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything."
from personal, experience if you are the kind hearted you are the most mistreated because people use you .if you are being used because your only answer is yes then its about time you stand up for yourself and say no (nicely)
Many people see kindness as an open invitation to go on the attack.
I have seen and experienced many wealthy people go for the jugular in business if they sense any kindness in the other person.
Its a sign of very very low human values not to appreciate and respect kindness.
I'm a little late in answering this question, Ericka. Excellent query. For years, I've wondered about this. I was a newspaper photo/journalist for 20 years and finally took an early retirement. The reason being - the nice people, including myself, weren't respected - others took advantage of us while the slackers who were rude and had no work ethic - flourished. Looking back, I wore my heart on my sleeve and paid dearly for it. I always trusted that people had manners and compassion for others. Big mistake. I asked two psychologists about this phenomena and they validated the fact that we seem to have the word 'sucker' on our foreheads. I don't understand that mindset. I've always loved nice people. If I had it to do all over again, I wouldn't have let anyone in to my world. At 62, I'm finally more discerning though the kindness to strangers and friends slips out occasionally. My dream would be to have you and all the truly kind, loving people in the world working in one place. We just have to learn to stand our ground when others try to take advantage of us. As many of the posters commented, kindness is NOT weakness though some may perceive it that way. Stay strong. All of us.
The trouble with being a kind hearted person is simple. Others take kindness for weakness, unfair but very true. They are considered useful and servile. Wrong I know but that's the way it works.
If you are a kind hearted person then be proud of yourself, decent people will see you for what you are.
Misreated? No i dont agree. The sense of mistreatment prevails when there is lack of self less service if any one helps the needy just to please the God he does not bother about the attitude of others. Its probably the decree of God that kind heareted people face the severe burnt of the opponents, the history of prophets, revivalists and other revolutionary personalities bear testimony to the fact. Its commonly believed that the tree which bears more fruits is bound to get more stones. Through the rough behaviour of others the righteous men suppose to strive even harder as the opposition refreshes the faith.
As far the attitude of opponents is concerned its because the followers of good deeds are less than the mute persons whose majority remain silent and whose minorty indulges in wrong doings. Because of this imbalnce of human nature and that of society might have witnessed opposition to every good act.
Be kind to the dwellers of earth the One whose is in heaven will shower His mercy on you.
Because we live in a world full of wolves. Kindness is seen as a weakness there for the pure at heart are most vulnerable. Generosity is eaten by vultures taken advantage of. Humility is often shut down by pride. Purity is sought by predators and any other form of good is manipulated by others in oder to obtain a need of greed, pride, or selfishness.
in my opinion people who mistreat or use kind hearted people are insecure and weak and have low self-esteem. people who feel good about themselves are kind to others and set boundaries so they're not taken advantage of. On the other hand, people who are kind hearted and allow others to take advantage of them are also suffering from low self-esteem. Sometimes people choose not to respond to cruelty because they are secure enough to allow others to think what they want and not be affected by it. it is only a weakness when people choose silence because they are afraid of showing their true colours and being judged. in saying this, no-one deserves to be mistreated or taken advantage of.
I think kind hearted people are the most mistreated because they don't like confrontation. Generally you need to be willing to confront people if you don't want to be mistreated. You need to at least be willing to tell other people that their behavior bothers you. If that does not work then you need to be willing to change your behavior to discourage them from mistreating you.
Some kind hearted people I know act like everything is okay when they are around the person they think is mistreating them. They lie a lot. Being too nice can cause other people to be mean just like doing too much for a person can cause them to become lazy.
Personally I try to discourage people from mistreating me. I am nice but I try to avoid being too nice.
Kind-hearted people are the most mistreated because they are not fighting back. They will just cry their painful feeling or guilt.
Boy you really have no idea what your talking about. Do you?
Kind-hearted people know that treating others how they want to be treated is how true happiness can be achieved. Engaging in "fighting back" or revenge only causes more problems in the long run.
Beacuse they tend to be too kind and forget about being cautious and they become too caring and forget themselves
Sometimes, a kind hearted people have to face a situation of mistreating. Because, When we give some importance to someone, its not necessary to expect the same respect from them. So, They will never find our intention towards them, and starts mistreating us, which makes us really sad.
I believe is because when you hurt or wrong them, they reply "It's okay," or "No worries," or "It's fine."
Also, they like helping the reason they are taken advantaged of. Ask them to help you in a job or to spare some time for something, maybe a talk, they are usually kind to spare time or help you.
What's ironic, many of them know they are taken advantaged of but still continue helping or working even if it past the working hourse.
Well, my experience taught me that though am not sure others will agree with me.
i think kind hearted people are the most mistreated because they allow it. They want to see the good in people and keep forgiving someone, regardless of how they are treated. They genuinely believe all people are good too!
The real truth? Because kind people believe that that's ok. Remember that if you never tell people what you want, they will probably think that you want nothing at all. Of course, we are all human. So make sure that they remember that you have emotions and feelings too. And that there is no rule saying that you will sacrifice always for everybody else. If they don't even know what sacrifice means, how would they be able to respect that? Or you? So just keep doing what you are doing, but also remember to make them understand that you are living, breathing, feeling human being, and that if they don't get it, then you don't have to get them either! so keep living your life.
Kindness is a divine quality that a man brings with him when is born. Its rather a gift of the almighty and blessed are a few in this world of today who are gifted so. Kindness makes the person ever submisive to each and everyone be it human beings or animals or even plants and trees. Its such a quality which prevents the person to be ruthless even if someone does anything wrong to him and quite often its taken as weakness or cowardice and laughed at. This misjudgement of the man often leads to his mistreatment as because the person with such a quality never retaliates by simply keeping quiet and only shows mercy and thereby become blessed. They get hurt by acts of others but never hurts anyone by his actions.
Kind persons of all persuasions are not the most mistreated. This perception is a misnomer.
Kindness is a great goal to keep defense systems healthy. If that is so, and love is confirmed as the life of divinity, who can be against a vault of composure.
If there seems to be injustice against compassionate people then it's misappropriated convulsion marked as an equivalent. Those principals of kindness who try to be role-models may calculate their friends or foes and realize the job of "comfortiture".
Kindness to swine-less appreciators never goes empty-handed.
Not really sure. Probably the negative people pounce on them in order to generate a better ego for themselves. Most people who are mistreated, mistreat others in order to make themselves feel better. Who better to mistreat than kind hearts.
I have pondered this almost my entire life. I have concluded that a kind hearted person allows the mistreatment. Simple, the kind heart empathizes, compares to their life, emotions, and situations. The kind hearted person's goal is to keep someone else from enduring the same pain and struggle. They are Protective and sometimes overbearing with only the best intention. Others may portray it as bossy or know it all. They simply take their lessons to heart and try to share the knowledge. The one lesson they all forget is to advise but allow the other to take their own path. Second they forgive because they can put theirself in the situation while also understanding they have hurt unintentionally. So in the long run becoming a doormat not realizing that others actions or intentions are as pure. The kindhearted repeat their path trying to shield out the evil in the world and change the perspective of skeptics. I myself know that I judge. I am not perfect but I also try to say I do not know if I would have done the same in their shoes, living their life. Also remembering I am judged constantly yet I still care and wish to explain. It makes you a target when you want to explain your every action. Instead let your actions speak louder that words.so in conclusion. Being kind hearted comes from going through struggle. Others tend to be cruel thinking nobody can be this nice. Wanting to find your alterior motive. Some people can't move past their own obstacles and repercussions to lend a hand. Those of is who learn and try to extend an arm, hand, leg, or a dollar. Knowing what's important is to spread the love and not the hate. The fact of it all you can only hurt the person who cares. The person who don't give a rats buttox is ineffected due to the fact pain strains from love. Life is an emotional roller coaster. Truth is love and evil co-exsistice....vice versa. So if something bad is going to happen something good has to take the afyershock. Sharing situations, love, emotion, your heart is the best thing. Just being there to pad the fall. No matter what when someone feels they were pooed on they tend to get who's in their path. Sadly a cruel person would not be there waiting. Kind hearted try to help you understand we all endure the emotion of hurting. Our malfunction though is protecting those who don't learn. Continuing with the same ole same ole. Causing the kind hearted pain watching them fail. The kind heart want you to succeed when they failed in the past.
Rude and aggressive people are usually trying to act tough to cover up their own insecurities and deficiencies. They are envious of kind hearted people and often try to take advantage of them by making them out to be weak when they are actually much stronger. Someone once told me "kind doesn't mean sucker". That's very true.
Kind hearted people are most mistreated because they are kind hearted and don't expect unkindness from others because they themselves are the kind hearted but the people around them who are unkind themselves mistreat the kind hearted people with their unkind behavior
Compassion is a blessing and a curse, as most things are. To keep it on the blessing side, understand that you never left the Kingdom. This is it. You make it heaven or hell by what you ask for and believe in.
I've stepped outside of this reality. All I saw was a projector and a screen.
Would you like to know how I did it?
It's called the second death. I wouldn't recommend it if you can't hold a demon in for 10 days.
Josh... Was their a particular philosophy (secular or otherwise) that led youbtonyhis knowledge?
Kind hearted people are the ones who get mistreated. When someone realizes you are kind and giving all the time, they use it to their advantage. As people say, kindness is mistaken as weakness!
They need to be kind hearted tactfully. People take advantage of it. I suffer the same but I have learnt to build a wall around my heart. You won't get there easily
Paula says a lot of good things and so I won't repeat them. Kindness can also be a form of what the Christian mystics called 'self-love.' We wish to be admired and appreciated. We want people to like us.
True spirituality is strength, not weakness. If you have been praying, serving and meditating for several years, then why should someone be stronger than you if they lack this skill?
True, people may try and do try to bully or belittle you, but it's nearly always because they feel pain, or are insecure for reasons known or unknown to you. The mind is also usually restless, and the ego is quite strong. The play of jealousy and insecurity comes to the fore, and they fill threatened. Most forms of harassment or mistreatment, especially in the work place, is a form of defense or self-protection.
well I guess that it's because maybe the most kindest have been the ors to suffer more and do not desire to see other people miserable so therefore take on the burden of doing whatever it takes to make the someone else happy even if they get hurt
Many people mistake kindness for weakness and believe they can exploit that. I find myself up against this frequently. Because I try to be kind, compassionate, and empathetic, some people feel like they can try to bully me or intimidate me. There are so many in this world who thrive on being mean to get what they want. While it may work some of the time, I feel like mean behavior will only drive people away. The same people who would seek to bully me one day end up coming to me later to listen or for advice on a particular subject. It's interesting... I think perhaps also, kind people are a reflection of the short comings of those who would seek to do harm. These people don't like their own reflection when compared to a kind person and lash out further in defense rather than strive for improvement.
It is rather obvious. I was a waiter in the past and anyone who works in the service industry quickly learns that jerks get what they want. The nice people do not raise complaints or issues because they see nothing wrong. But, the jerks, they raise complaints over the tiniest issues because they are miserable people who are simply not happy with life. The jerks, most assuredly, get catered to much more because the goal of the restaurant is to ensure customers come back. The necessary extra work for the jerks often interrupts the service for the nice customers.
Extrapolate this process that goes on in every service industry and we can find an apt comparison to real-world society. Those who are kind-hearted will always get walked over by the jerks because the jerks just naturally spread their misery.
Now, there is another type of jerk: the ego jerk. This type of jerk can range from being a discreet/manipulative jerk, to being an obvious jerk to those he or she views as inferior (as long as this jerk knows he or she can get away with it). Yes, the main point is that the jerks know when they can get away with being a jerk; they would not be jerks otherwise. These jerks have trained themselves to find easy targets; and, it just so happens that kind-hearted people are easy targets of abuse because they do not fight back. Kind-hearted people do not have the thirst for power that drives them to evil. The jerks do have a need for power, no matter how fleeting, so they pick on the weak targets. A husband would take out the frustration he has on his boss by beating his wife because he sees that his wife is weak.
This is just the way of the world. The kind-hearted, if they were to fight back for themselves, would no longer be kind. The only way to prevent the evil misdeeds of the jerks is to stand up for those who are being mistreated. Nonetheless, the jerks often hide the atrocities they commit so that they can get away with it. In the end, the kind must deal with the pain inflicted by jerks until that pain has grown so strong that the kind become jerks themselves.
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