Is happiness a side affect of experiencing Love?

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   tsmogposted 21 months ago

   Is happiness a side affect of experiencing Love?

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   Ericdierkerposted 21 months ago

   This is a cool question. Yesterday my young son and I went through four words.
   Like
   Love
   
   Happiness
   Joy
   
   Seems you can like and love something or someone.
   
   Seems like you can be happy and have joy.
   
   Moms and God were our reference points. No matter how much love you get from your mom, just by being God, God can love you more. This was a good one: "I like mom and it makes me happy when she is here with me". Or: "I love mom and she brings me great joy".
   I think we decided that you can be happy and not in love. And you can like something but it does not bring you joy. But no matter what if you are "in" love you find happiness and joy.
   (kind of hard relating the concept of "being" in a state of, to a child who cannot yet conjugate be. Or maybe it is easier.)
   
   No question at all in my mind that Love produces happiness.

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      Venkatachari Mposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Agree with you, Eric. Love produces happiness certainly including our Love with God.

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   alancaster149posted 21 months ago

   Depends on what form of love you mean. For instance, as Eric mentions here there are two directions you can take it: your Ma or your God(s).
   Some feel huge gratification in bowing down to an all-seeing 'master of all things', some sense there's more to come from their Ma. After all, who bore you (on average) nine months, kept you going, cheered you up when things went pear-shaped or (not necessarily in your case) your girlfriend told you where to get off, or your wife ran off with the butcher, baker or candlestick maker?. You can't get that in a church - no matter how deeply thankful you feel.
   Or how about the loyalty your girlfriend/wife shows when you're in a tight corner? Togetherness blossoms when you've shared confidences, and more. Blood may be thicker than water, but there are some things you can't call on your Ma for... 'Nuff said.
   Happiness can be the equilibrium you feel from a fulfilled relationship, and if that fails you might start dreaming that you're at the edge of a dark chasm with nothing to hold onto. That's the 'B' side of any physical relationship. You choose...

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      Ericdierkerposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Neato

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      Venkatachari Mposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Very great reply. You have explained it in such beautiful, convincing manner.

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   dashingscorpioposted 21 months ago

   I believe that happiness is one of the side effects of experiencing love. However anytime we get whatever we hoped for tends to make us happy. New love in particular can be very exhilarating.
   Nevertheless it's only after you've had disagreements, became aware of each other's "deal breakers" and boundaries, along with witnessing how they handle disappointment that you learn if they are "the one".
   (Happiness is feeling positive and secure about one's future.)
   Being "in love" tends to invoke such feelings in people.

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