What if your child wanted to adopt a new surname and have his fiance take on tha

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    threekeysposted 22 months ago

    What if your child wanted to adopt a new surname and have his fiance take on that entirely new name?

    How would you feel? The family?


  2. Ashish Dadgaa profile image20
    Ashish Dadgaaposted 22 months ago

    Hello ThreeKeys,

    I would feel really bad for such kind of acts. Your family has done so much for you. They have given their life for you. They have made so many unnoticeable sacrifices for you and at the end, you are forgetting everything and changing you name just because your fiance is telling you.
    Very painful situation.

    Bless you.

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    threekeysposted 22 months ago

    I apologize. I dont think I expressed myself well. What if the son's name is Smith and he legally wants to choose his own name which say was Redgum. And then, have his fiance marry him with the name "Redgum". How do you think the parents would feel? What does this mean for the ancestry line. Some would say that  perhaps the karma passed on through the spiritual line is changed. What are your thoughts?

  4. lisavollrath profile image95
    lisavollrathposted 22 months ago

    I have friends who did this when they married. They took a part of each of their surnames, and created a new surname for their married life, which they both adopted. I don't see anything wrong with that, and actually think it's preferable to the over-used hyphenation of both surnames.

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      threekeysposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      I think creating a new surname from both partners surnames would be better. It still retains the parts of the ancestry within and wouldn't feel like an outright rejection of "what was passed onto you", so to speak.

  5. bradmasterOCcal profile image31
    bradmasterOCcalposted 22 months ago

    It is only a name
    Parents that have only girls lose their surname, so what is different.
    The surname for males was important  when Kings and Queens were important.
    You should be able to create your own name, and not be tied to a birth name.

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      threekeysposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      Welcome back Brad! You've been away for some time.
      I guess I was thinking that the parents may feel rejected and could as a reaction, reject the children and grandchildren (yet to come) from that "unexpcted new lineage".

    2. bradmasterOCcal profile image31
      bradmasterOCcalposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      Thanks, I was just giving my opinion.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 22 months ago

    I believe people are free to call themselves by whatever name they want. A parent's love for a child shouldn't change because their name changed. They're still family via bloodline is the key.
    If this were not so then everyone with the same last name would be considered family! It's the bloodline not the name that counts.
    In many ways choosing one's own last name is the ultimate sign of independence and taking charge of one's own life path.
    Norma Jeane Mortenson and Marion Mitchell Morrison changed their names to Marilyn Monroe and John Wayne. I'm sure their families still loved and accepted them.
    One shouldn't have to be a celebrity to be accepted with a name change.


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