Why are ruthless, selfish people MORE RESPECTED & oftentimes MORE SUCCESSFUL

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  1. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

    Why are ruthless, selfish people MORE RESPECTED & oftentimes MORE SUCCESSFUL

    than kind-hearted, altruistic people?   How would you raise your child to be if h/she wishes to be respected & successful- ruthless/selfish or kind-hearted, altruistic? 


  2. Donya Mehraban profile image60
    Donya Mehrabanposted 7 years ago

    That's what this world accepts more than kind hearted people, being kind is usually seen as a weakness not as strength. I suppose to raise my kids in this world I will still teach them to be kind even though if they are disrespected because I wouldn't want to make their heart turn black and teach them what bad is, because the world will show them anyhow. Then it will be their choice to make either to stand up for themselves and how instead of me trying to protect them and make them bad.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Raise them to be tough & ruthless & they will go far.  Raising them to be kind will only put them at a disadvantage from school to work. It is the kind children who are bullied, not the ruthless & selfish ones.  Remember that.

    2. Donya Mehraban profile image60
      Donya Mehrabanposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      From who will they learn to be kind? In a way children have to be taught both by their parents: tough & ruthless and kindness.

  3. Cre8tor profile image93
    Cre8torposted 7 years ago

    First I believe they are more feared than respected. Second I believe they're more successful because they aren't often as family oriented and work can become their life.

    That said I also don't believe one must be ruthless and selfish to succeed. I know some very successful people who are quite kind and moral. They tend to be more intelligent however than the assertive aggressor thus the antics aren't required.

    1. Cre8tor profile image93
      Cre8torposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ...and some still succeed the old fashion way...through hard work. Of course success is in the eye of the beholder as well. What is success other than achieving ones own goals? (Of course most score success based on finances and level of employment)

  4. SylviaSky profile image91
    SylviaSkyposted 7 years ago

    It depends on which arena of life you are preparing your child for.  Kind-hearted and altruistic will not work if success is defined in terms of corporate life or politics where people are respected and successful when they push, grab, lie, and take credit for other people's work.

    Then there's being kind: Get to work early and work hard, help everybody at work, be sweet and warm, bring doughnuts on Fridays, do the small unimportant jobs, stay late, take the blame for your assistant's mistakes--and you will not be respected or promote-able to a position that will create financial success. Everyone can see you have no boundaries and all the backbone of a bagel. They will exploit this, letting you work for 25 years in a low position with low pay.

    Best thing to teach your child: to value himself under all circumstances, because he will be in so many types of circumstances we parents can't imagine.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Kind & unselfish people aren't respected, especially at work.  People do view them as fools.  It's best to be ruthless & selfish if one wishes to be successful at work.  It is THE SURVIVAL of the smartest at work.

  5. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago


    Of course, ruthless & selfish people are more respected than those who are kind-hearted & altruistic.  In this culture & society, it is the survival of the fittest, smartest, & most cunning.  In our culture & society, ruthless & selfish people are seen to have strictly defined boundaries as to what they WILL & WON'T tolerate.  People see & respect that.  They know that such people won't take prisoners nor suffer fools gladly.  They also know to tread lightly.......very, very lightly.   Ruthless & selfish people aren't afraid to voice their needs & have their needs met.   They are upfront people.

    On the other hand, kind-hearted & altruistic people put others before themselves.  Others see this & take advantage of such people because they don't establish boundaries.  They also view such people as very weak & malleable.  In essence, the kind-hearted & altruistic person is viewed as.......easy prey.   Such people are constantly put upon on all areas of their lives.   They are also the least respected by people who view them as easy suckers.   Many kind-hearted & altruistic people bemoan that they treat others better than others treat them.  Kind-hearted & altruistic people are even abused by people yet they are afraid to voice their hurt, oftentimes turning passive aggressive because of their refusal to establish boundaries.

    Ruthless & selfish people say what it is.  They aren't martyrs like kind-hearted & altruistic people.   They are also happier & healthier because they are more real in their assessment in their interfacing regarding people, life, & circumstances.  They will tell when enough is enough w/o question.  People KNOW where they stand w/ruthless & selfish people.  They know that such people don't take any nonsense as opposed to kind-hearted & altruistic people who will take anything because the latter don't have any backbone.

    Parents must teach their children the skills needed to survive in a 21st century, postmodern, & computerized society.  Children see that it's the ruthless & selfish who will succeed in society.  Children know that kind-hearted & altruistic children are likely to be taken advantage of, even bullied.  They know that it's the ruthless & selfish children who are respected by other children.

    1. Donya Mehraban profile image60
      Donya Mehrabanposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Ruthless&selfish pple are usually also hard lairs, For kind hearted people it is easy to spot them, even though, they are fine with them, people step over them because their 'value' is nothing to them. Making kind hearted people Ruthless&self

  6. The0NatureBoy profile image55
    The0NatureBoyposted 7 years ago

    Under most circumstances ruthless, selfish people have become quite monetarily wealthy and "The American Dream" has most people desiring it. 

    With that understanding I say they are not respected except by those who are "sleepwalking" and dreaming "The American Dream" which I believe are most people. The media, entertainment field and most other public broadcasting systems always publicize that kind of people so man-en-mass idolize them which causes them to appear more respected because of their monetary wealth.

    When we get away from those who desire wealth and the "glamorous life" and talk to the common people we find ruthless, selfish people are generally despised. I walk the "middle path" and have talked with people in both sectors and that is what I have found.


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