Mother......the GOOD......the BAD...….the UGLY

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 6 weeks ago

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    What makes a good mother?   What makes a bad mother?  What makes an evil mother?

    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
      Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Well, this should be fun ... Lets see ... Off the top of my head:

      A good mother is one whose love/heart is intact. She accepts her child, her husband and herself. She is wise and educated and she is self-sacrificing. The needs of her children are foremost. She knows how to set boundaries without robbing the child of his freedom. She makes an effort, (has the self-discipline) to set those boundaries with consistency. Her children grow up trusting themselves. They learn to deal appropriately with the world.

      A bad mother is one who is arrogant and passes this attitude on to her offspring.  She does not study spiritual matters and deals with life in a superficial, materialistic way. She teaches her children to be glutinous and entitled. She sets a bad example and does not listen to nature or reason.
      She and her offspring will get a good ear-boxing by Mother Nature and Society.

      An evil mother is one who rebells against her role entirely. She loudly proclaims that SHE has needs and sets off to satisfy HER needs over those of her family.

      These mothers indulge in all sorts of sense pleasures and have little self-control or self-discipline. They swear, cuss, and eat unhealthfully. They serve their children blue ice-cream and over-processed junk-foods of all types, whenever their children demand it. What's good for themselves, must be good for their children ... right?

      The children of these evil mothers become just like them. They think only of what they want and lie and steal from peers and adults alike, to get it. They constantly try to manipulate others into entertaining them or giving them things. Where'd did they learn this? Their mothers, of course. (Partly, also, they are after things, such as time and attention, their mothers did not provide.)


      Husbands of the latter two will be more than miserable.
      Men, be careful who you fall "in love" with.

      1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
        Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

        Hi, Kathryn, your comment is great and awesome. With these said, the model of a good mother is the mother of the Lord Jesus. Thanks.

        1. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
          Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

          Thanks, Miebakagh57

          Would Mary hand Jesus her iPhone to watch weird cartoons quietly, so she can get her shopping done?

          I think it is so detrimental to occupy the child with screen devices rather than allow him to deal with himself in the real world.

          The answer is NO she would not.

          1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
            Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

            Hello, Kathryn, you are welcomed. Then Mary is a good model, right? Thank you.

            1. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
              Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

              well, of course ...  but then, in her day there were no cellphones or TV sets or cars or airplanes or electricity or trains or amusements parks or movie theaters or skating rinks or roller blades or skateboards or dirt bikes or motorcycles or  ... super duper smart phones ...

              well, she had it easy.

  2. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Actually, good motherhood is both an art and a science.

    It should not be a hit and miss matter.

    it needs to be studied and mastered.

    Women have a huge job if they choose to become mothers.

    Motherhood should be a choice and not an accident, unless one is willing to accept the responsibility 100%, (after an accidental conception).

    1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
      Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Hi, Kathryn, nothing could be further from this truth. I hope our women are listening? Thank you, and good day.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
        Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

        You agree or disagree? Nothing could be closer to the truth
        or further? (further means you disagree.)

        1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
          Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

          I agreed. Thank you, and have a nice time.

  3. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Q. What makes a wise and educated mother?

    This seems like a very hard, difficult and tedious topic to think about and discuss.

    Why, I wonder?

    1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
      Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Hi, the answer? Proverb 31. Thank you.

  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Sorry, gmwilliams, I (surely) have brought this topic to a standstill.
    sad

  5. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    In the first place, the science of human development is not widely studied or even known!

  6. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Yes, we have child development programs, but are they all-encompassing? Do they include the development of adolescence and early-adulthood?

    We have Child development/psychology and and we have Adult psychology.

    Perhaps, we need Child THROUGH Adult development/psychology.
    There seems to be a need for specialists in the field of Lifetime Human Development.

    Perhaps, a woman should be required to earn a certificate, if not a degree, in Lifetime Human Development before she becomes a mother.
     
    In other words, required of all females before they are 18.

    Then we will not have to settle for governmental and political solutions to the nation's problems.

  7. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Sadly, love is not enough.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Excellent thoughts, Kathryn.  Keep up the discussion.

  8. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks ago

    Really, gmwilliams?
    okaaay ....


    Strangely, a mother who loves too much ends up in the bad category!

    She spoils her child by catering to every whim. She views him as small and powerless and coddles him every step of the way. This treatment contributes to his laziness.

    A loving, over-protective mother instills fear into her child with her own fears. She's afraid he will pick up germs and protects him from every draft or person who coughs. She's afraid he will be unhappy and hates to see him cry, afraid she will hurt his frail feelings, afraid he will not love her if she scolds him. Afraid to say, "No!" for fear he will learn to say it back to her. And fails to set appropriate boundaries. Her fears are prompted by the love she has for her child, but sadly, she ends up making him sickly, anxious and depressed.

    An overly loving mom, reads to her child incessantly. She uses math and language flash cards from the time he is a month old to make him super-smart. She thinks this stimulation will give him an advantage, but it only ends up addicting him to her.

    On top of this treatment, she hands him a smart phone or iPad so he won't experience boredom. Little does she know that indulging a child in this way, prevents him from learning how to entertain himself and find/experience his own stimulation. No, his inner feedback is bypassed by the bombarding behavior of his oh-so-loving mother and the technology she hands him from the time he is a toddler, (if not before.) He never learns to think for himself and he never develops his own ability to be creative.

    Yes, instead of becoming healthy, robust, intelligent, clever and perceptive, he becomes 100% dependent upon her for his physical needs and mental stimulation.

    And all along, this mother thought she was simply showing love to her child. She starts to think twice about her mothering style as she becomes more and more exhausted, the older the child becomes.

    1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
      Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Hi, Kathryn, there is much truth in all these. My pleasure reading you.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image77
        Kathryn L Hillposted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

        Hi miebakagh57. Thank You.

        1. Miebakagh57 profile image49
          Miebakagh57posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

          Kathryn, not at all please.

 
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