negative, I think
for me as well as most others?
It's a battle!
Being positive. When you are always positive you tend to get more back lashings by those who are constantly negative. They tend to be more critical and try to always burst your bubble.
It's all a habit. If you are in the habit of thinking negative thoughts, then being negative is easier. If you force yourself to think something positive each time you catch yourself being negative, then eventually you will find it easier to think more positively!
Oh, come on lizzieboo. You know the answer. Negative, of course. There's little work involved in pointing out problems.
There's a massive amount of work involved in accepting that there are problems and finding solutions.
I think it is more natural for the human mind to be negative. However, this doesn't make it easier, because it is much more pleasant to be positive. Being negative causes depression, and makes our very short little lives so unhappy. However, it seems harder to force ourselves to be positive, because we all have our problems, and the news seems to focus on the bad in the world.
Yes I also think that's true, but, when we force ourselves to be positive about things, it rubs off on other people, make sense? So, when we are surrounded by positive people we feel better. It becomes easier to feel positive. It can become a perpetual thing with a bit of effort.
But being negative is pleasurable at the time. It's only only unpleasant in hindsight, like gossip and getting drunk. An easy habit to get into.
I don't find being negative pleasurable ( except when I'm indulging in a little self pity, which I must confess happens from time to time ) When we have a negative attitude we stop searching for solutions to problems. But, I do completely accept and agree that it's an easy habit to slip into to.
I have conversations in which the subjects become more and more negative. I pick holes in types of people, complain about the weather etc . I see myself slipping towards a chasm of irretrievable statements which will keep me awake with cringing at night and yet I don't have the self-discipline to back-peddle.
It's all about self control. I'll have to work hard to cultivate it, but what a joy when I've mastered it! I must work to make the positive easier. Here's hoping,
Off topic I know so apology in advance, but don't you think that sometimes it might be critical thinking as opposed to negative thinking? Make sense?? I try really hard to be positive about things, but sometimes our experiences teach us to be a little skeptical. Who knows, maybe the solutions lie in identifying the problems and coming up with solutions. If that makes any sense at all. For a writer I'm rubbish at conveying what I'm thinking. How's that for negative thinking
Since when has being drunk been unpleasant, even with hindsight?
Ha ha. Maybe I need to drink to forget more.
Oh, come on, there must have been a time where the next day you thought, OMG, what did I do?
The question is easier on who? Negative by proxy is not easy to live with.
Negative, connected to money is the root of evil.
Although in the short term looking for the positive can feel like hard work, that’s really just conditioned thinking - or habit - that we’ve learned by copying adults around us when we were young.
I don’t think trying to force positive thinking works - at least not in my experience - and the reason is precisely because it feels such an effort that people give up. I’m actually in the middle of writing a hub on this very subject, which I will probably post tomorrow. For several years I’ve been using two processes that help to turn around negative thoughts and make it easier for positive thoughts to naturally appear. These methods do take a little work in themselves, but the great thing about them both is that you’re not always policing yourself, watching out for negativity or whatever. You just do the process and what happens happens - and the outcome is definitely an overall more positive outlook on life.
Being negative is much easier than being positive. However, staying negative is sure to bring great unhappiness and who really wants that??
It's easy to get stuck in a negative grove and it takes a lot of effort to pull yourself out. You just have to keep remembering WHY you are making the effort and stick with it.
Being negative has an effect on other people too. The impact that this outlook can have is one that most people try to avoid. I don't blame them!!!
Being positive can be hard work, but the rewards are more than worth it. Success is often missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work .
People with a negative attitude, on average, live shorter lives than those who are positive. So think on people...... What's it going to be??
Stay positive, allow a little self indulgent negativity from time to time,but don't let it rule your life.
Some say what is most important is your health.
Worth more than money or fame and the easiest thing to take for granted. After that what does
it matter? Appreciate.
A news item today explores the brain of an optimist.
So, it is likely that a pessimist may die younger but, they are at least, more realistic.
It's easier for people to see the bad(negative).
However, as an optimistic person, I always look for an upside inside anything negative.
Because, more often than not if you adopt the right frame of mind, you will find something to be positive about. Just takes that bit of effort, but well worth it.
Depends on your personality. You are by nature either a "Glass half full" or "Glass half empty" sort of person. I've always been the latter and negativity comes naturally to me.
Not quite sure where the money and root of all evil comes in to play with regard to this particular subject but I am a contradiction in that respect. I know it is - but I also know that money is the most important thing in the world... I have been there, in the situation and circumstances where you have literally nothing and believe me, you never forget that experience...
I've been there too Gordon, what a frightening experience. By nature I'm a glass half full person. I have to admit this had led to many disappointing and heart breaking events in my life, however, as Cagsil so eloquently puts it, they're all learning experiences. We live and learn.
I was surprised that the bbc news item suggests that 80% of people are natural optimists. I am one of the 20%, and am a glass totally empty kind of a person. I believe my own pesimistic view of life may have something to do with the fact that I do not believe in God. As most people do believe in God, this may explain their optimism.
I don't believe in God, I do believe in a greater good (probably makes no sense at all and I wouldn't expect it to) I actually do not believe our inclination towards negative or positive thoughts, has anything to do with our belief in a higher, greater good, but more about social integration and acceptance. How we feel we are perceived by others, a mirror if you like.
Or you can be the glass is always full type person cause it's half full of whatever liquid is in it and half full of air..technically speaking
Unfortunately, it was so quick for me to be negative. Perhaps something about my childhood and my family helped me become that way.
Good thing, I had been exposed to all these wonderful authors and self-help experts and even hubbers who give excellent tips on how to become positive.
Now, it's easy for me to flip to positive in 5 minutes! Yes, that's 5 minutes!
Psychologically what is tiring is the world differing from you expectations (an expectation gap). Thus, if your life is crap it is less tiring to be negative. But then there is that self-fulfilling prophecy thing....
Yes, I can see that (expectation gap) in relationships, career, life in general. But, don't you think that as we age we become more realistic in our expectations (because of experiences?) So, our thoughts are not always necessarily negative but realistic? Maybe we need to learn to separate the two? Which thoughts are negative, which are realistic?
It seems that the optimal state for mood is slightly over positive (slight tendency to expect better than you get). People on the realistic to pessimistic range are more likely to experience more depressed mood.
I think it is a trade off between how much time you spend happily expecting good thing, and how often you are disappointed....
Yes, I can see that too. But in some respects I also think this is realism as opposed to negativity or positivity. For example, the only thing that is certain, is that if you don't try you definitely don't get. Whereas, if you try there's a chance, but no guarantees.
by BIKTMIA 8 years ago
Biktmia, new to the board and interested in finding out your views about being positive. Do you feel it is rewarding inwardly to be positive or not. What makes you the happiest.
by David Stillwell 6 years ago
What advice can you give people to become more positive in spirit, life and action?
by Daniel Carter 8 years ago
I wrote a question to myself and posted in a couple of places to see it all the time. As I look at it, it's deeper than I supposed. The question is this:If you knew that being positive about your life experiences every day, and eliminating toxic people from your life would get you where you wanted...
by blessedp 5 years ago
Why is it easier to think the negative first, than the positive?Why can't it be the other way around?
by vicki simms 6 years ago
What effect do you think positive thinking has?
by maheshpatwal 5 years ago
How to get rid of negative thoughts.?Is there any way we can completely and permanently flush out the negativity from our lives?
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