My parents were extremely relaxed, almost to the point of neglect. I believe this is because my mother lived under an iron fist when she grew up. I am trying to swing this pendulum back to the middle and be a parent who has rules and limitations, but overly strict. My kids have schedules, certain things they are expected to do and they are not allowed to just run wild, however I also know when to relax a bit and just let them maybe have that extra cookie once in awhile too.
It's always a learning and growing process, but I think having witnessed the extremes of parenting styles, I knew I wanted better for my children.