DO YOU THINK BEING A MOTHER OF SPECIAL NEED ADULT CHILDREN AND TRYING TO WORK IS IT EASY OR HARD?
WHO IS RUNNING THE SHOW THE CHILDREN OR THE PARENT WHEN
IS COMES ?
Although I am not a mother of a special need adult child, I can imagine it would not be a easy task with the added responsiblity of having a outside job.
I work with mothers of special needs children, I know it is a trying and tiresome tasks. If they children are well trained and are working it may be a less daunting task.
You will have to run the show, if you let them run the show you will be in serious trouble.
I think it would be hard for odvouis reasons parenting in its self is hard enough. I have a bother adult and speachle needs he requires round the clock attion i couldnt imagin having to work at the same time my repescts to you and your famliy
My child was diagnosed with autistic disorder 3 years ago, believe me when I say this- if you can find an appropriate caregiver for your child it may help you to get out of the house and go to work everyday. You can then be socially active with the people you work with on a daily basis and find it relieving to have someone to talk to when everything seems out of balance. It gives you and your child a much needed break so that you can both recoup from a long weekend. If you are going to work outside the home it will be easier on you if you set a schedule for your child as well as yourself and stick to it. I think it would be much harder to stay at home with the added stress than to take a "break" from it all by going to work.
It can be easy and hard. It all depends on you. You as the mother , run the show but with caution. You will learn from them as well.
honestly, this is one of my biggest fears about having kids. I am not sure I could handle a special needs kids. I would worry about who would provide for them when I was gone. I think it would be impossibly hard. I know that marriages often fall apart.
If the adult child cannot care for him or herself, then you still run the show. You have a responsibility to that child if he/she is still dependent on you, but that means you have to consider all his or her needs, including the financial ones.
If your money situation requires you to work, then it WILL be hard. But there are ways to make it easier--have a sitter, or work from home. See if local bus companies will allow you to bring your child to work with you--then you can get a job there.
See if your child can be a part of your work. On a bus, he or she can help with the passengers. If you babysit, he/she can help with the kids. Could he or she help with a cleaning job? If you become an Avon, Tastefully Simple, Tupperware, Mary Kay, or Discovery Toys Rep, he or she could help sort, hand things out, demonstrate products, etc.
I married my husband two years ago and we have a severly handicapped son who is 20. I was totally oblivious to caring for a special needs adult. I was single and have no children of my own before marrying my husband!
homas is very dependent on us, and is even fed through a mic-key button. For the first year I did not work or worked less than 10 hours a week. Now, I work full-time. StonePost is right. Working is wonderful. We have county-provided, home- health care that helps take care of Thomas after he goes to his day programs or when I am working, and it allows me to get out of the house and have friends. I get more done because we have a family schedule and stick to it. Best of all, the time I spend with Thomas is richer because I am less stressed, have more money to spend on him (LOL), and I am more patient than ever. Sometimes the home health care hours aren't enough and I have to get outside help, but now I can afford to do so. By all means, give working a chance.
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