Lost the love of my life

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  1. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    23 years ago today I lost my hubby at the tender age of 36.  He is sorely missed.

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      fierycjposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Stay strong, Trish...keep going on...

    2. Eaglekiwi profile image77
      Eaglekiwiposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry to hear that Trish! ,bet hes proud of ya though and smiling down at everything ya do smile

    3. beautyrose profile image55
      beautyroseposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      oh sorry to hear that. You mean your husband died at age 36? still young. Or he left you?

    4. Sally's Trove profile image80
      Sally's Troveposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Special kisses and hugs to you today, my dearest friend.  You know he's up there in his boat, on some heavenly lake, sipping a cold beer, and smiling down on you and the kids.

    5. Bibowen profile image96
      Bibowenposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Last night I was just reading a letter that George Washington wrote to Henry Knox upon the loss of his third child. This letter was similar to others that Washington wrote to those of his acquaintance that lost a loved one to death. If it appears too abrupt in some aspects, forgive it (and me) but given I just read it and the influence it had on me, I thought I'd share it. In deference to him, Washington gave such stoic advice, yet he practiced what he preached and it seemed to work for him. His life was a testament of it:

      “From the friendship I have always borne you, and for the interest I have ever taken in whatever relates to your prosperity and happiness, I participated in the sorrows which I know you must have felt for your late heavy losses. But it is not for man to scan the wisdom of Providence. The best he can do, is to submit to its decrees. Reason, religion, and philosophy teaches us to do this, but ‘tis time alone that can ameliorate the pangs of humanity, and soften its woes.”

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    mtsi1098posted 9 years ago

    always sad to hear about a loss but i am proud of you for being able to keep going

  3. Gennifer profile image61
    Genniferposted 9 years ago

    So sorry... But try to be strong... Time cures (in the majority of cases)...

  4. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Thank you all.

    Beautyrose, he drowned in a boating accident.  sad

  5. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Thanks dearest friend,

    Yes, that's what I hope he's doing, just wish he was here instead though smile

  6. andromida profile image60
    andromidaposted 9 years ago

    Sorry to hear that.He must be waiting for you.thanks for sharing.

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    Louidam1posted 9 years ago

    Sorry to hear this.  Just know he is in a better place looking down at you everyday.  One day you two will be together again.

  8. Lisa HW profile image66
    Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

    No matter how many years pass, those anniversaries of the loss of someone we love always bring up a certain kind of thoughts of them and of losing them.

    We often get to celebrate the anniversaries of happy events, like births and weddings, with relatives and friends; but when it comes to anniversaries of awful, life-changing, events we can find that as the anniversary comes around other people aren't "in the same place" as we are (when it comes the meaning of the day).  So, I think it can seem as if everyone else in the person's life (who wasn't as close) has moved on, while those closest to that person always have some sense of loss (even when we've generally moved on).

    So, those relative few anniversaries of those most awful days in our lives can seem left without acknowledgment by anyone but us, particularly as time keep moving on.  I think that add to the melancholy of them.

    Anyway, it's always good for people to find some way to acknowledge those anniversaries for a number of reasons.  Anyone who has lost someone close, and who has seen a few decades pass, knows how short a time 23 years can actually seem sometimes.  People who have had similar losses understand what this day means to you.

  9. AsherKade profile image54
    AsherKadeposted 9 years ago

    I'll never forget losing my three kids in June 2000. I always do something super positive in their name(like read to kids at church or volunteer in the nursery)on the anniversary. I then force myself out  of bed and write something deep,moving, and most importantly positive that I would have loved to have said to them if they were here.I believe they can see me and hear me no matter where I am at. God is the ultimate email or cyber-hwy
    smile

  10. wrenfrost56 profile image79
    wrenfrost56posted 9 years ago

    What a terrible and tragic loss especially for someone so young, I hope you can find strength from the time you spent together. Take care.

  11. RooBee profile image87
    RooBeeposted 9 years ago

    Hi Trish. I'll be thinking of you today, my friend. Your story is one that touched me deeply and I so enjoy your writing and what you bring to this community. Thanks for soldiering on and giving so much to others.
    Through sharing the pain and insight from your loss, you have provided inspiration to many people - myself included- and I'm sure he looks over you with great pride and  fierce love.
    "There is no death. Only a change of worlds." Chief Sealth
    (((hugs to you)))

  12. blondepoet profile image66
    blondepoetposted 9 years ago

    http://chosetec.darkclan.net/origami/rose/rose.jpg
    A red rose for a beautiful lady

  13. frogdropping profile image85
    frogdroppingposted 9 years ago

    Trish - you've had many words of support and encouragement from hubbers and I hope they've helped, if only a little.

    As others have said - not an easy day and one that I sincerely hope you've got through without too much sadness ... and hopefully reflected on the great times you had and the love you must have shared.

    And Asher, I'm also incredibly sorry to hear of your terrible loss. You must be an incredibly strong individual.

  14. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Wow!  thank each and every one of you so much.

    Asher, my heart goes out to you.  That is one loss I cannot comprehend. 

    Let me just say I had an incredibly bad day at work today, and my guess is it's because my thoughts were elsewhere.

    My sincerest condolences to all who've lost loved ones.

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    wordscribe41posted 9 years ago

    trish, I'm so very sorry you were robbed of all those years with your love.  I'm sure you feel that way at times, or at least I think I would.  Thanks for sharing about your loss.  I can imagine how difficult each anniversary of his death is.

    Asher, I'm so very sorry to hear you lost your 3 kids.  As trish said, I cannot imagine a more intense loss and grieving process.  I hope time has helped you heal a bit and I respect how you honor your children.

  16. Uninvited Writer profile image81
    Uninvited Writerposted 9 years ago

    I'm very sorry for your loss. The pain may lessen after the years but it never goes away. I think it's good to remember the anniversaries though.

  17. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Thanks so much.  You folks are the best smile

  18. Shalini Kagal profile image60
    Shalini Kagalposted 9 years ago

    Trish - hugs! What a wonderful love to be sure that lasts through all the tears and the years!

    Asher - I'm truly sorry. It's a very special person who can be up and spreading all that love after that!

  19. Zsuzsy Bee profile image86
    Zsuzsy Beeposted 9 years ago

    Trish...my thoughts are with you. Hope you will have a better day today.
    kindest regards Zsuzsy

  20. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Thanks Shalini and Zsuzsy,

    Yes, he was and always will be the greatest love I've ever known.

    I am certainly hoping for a better day today smile

  21. trish1048 profile image73
    trish1048posted 9 years ago

    Uninvited Writer,

    Yes, you're right.  Remembering anniversaries simply is a way to renew the love you once had and to honor the person you lost.

    Thank you.

 
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