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How to develop assertiveness skills?

  1. london_guide profile image76
    london_guideposted 7 years ago

    How to develop assertiveness skills?

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    Dandraposted 7 years ago

    Know that what most people think and say 98% of the time is utter garbage...and then be political.

  3. soni2006 profile image79
    soni2006posted 7 years ago

    Many times you must have found
    yourself in situations when people have said something disheartening or
    discouraging to you which you didn't like but you were just not able to say
    anything back to them, thinking they will feel bad and the feeling of... read more

  4. cashmere profile image82
    cashmereposted 7 years ago

    Practice being assertive rather than aggressive. Stand up for yourself no matter whom you get pitted against. Its not easy to not lose your temper and disagree with the other party when they are clearly not of the same opinion that you are.

  5. windresistant profile image57
    windresistantposted 7 years ago

    It is never easy to change any behavior. I suggest looking up Cognitive-Behavioral conditioning methods.

    Aside from that, try wearing clothes that make you feel powerful or professional (suits, nice slacks) and standing up straight and tall at all times. Keeping an open posture with your shoulders back and arms un-crossed is an assertive body language that will make others think you are sure of what you are saying, even if you aren't.

    While it is good to be assertive, remember that pissed off people still aren't going to listen. So, you need to listen to everything they say, and then assure them that you understand, and following that, convince them of your point of view. (Sometimes you'll need to confuse them to do this, but hey, you still 'win').

    I definitely recommend starting with the body language that will make you feel assertive.