What do you do when you find out your child is the bully at school?

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  1. jpcmc profile image89
    jpcmcposted 7 years ago

    What do you do when you find out your child is the bully at school?

  2. zduckman profile image59
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    I would say that it is time to sit down and have a serious conversation with your child. Bullying can have VERY serious repercussions. Think Columbine. Sit them down with the Principal and make it known that this behavior will not be tolerated.

  3. shampa sadhya profile image70
    shampa sadhyaposted 7 years ago

    Thank God! I've not yet faced this situation and never wish to face it. Still, if such a situation occurs then being mother I'll definitely get worried but won't panic. I'll meet the teachers and his schoolmates to take the inputs regarding the matter. Then, I'll definitely give my child a chance to put up his point. After taking all the inputs I'll consult the school counsellor. If the counsellor's suggestion sounds positive I'll follow it and if there remains any scope to add some more positive method then I'll use my own accordingly. In this type of situation one thing is a must----No Harsh Punishment.
             Little bit of rebuking and soft tackling process will obviously guide the child in the right direction. Tremendous amount of scolding will amount to more and more negativity. I'll keep myself cool and calm then only the outcome will be positive for sure.

  4. aka-dj profile image77
    aka-djposted 7 years ago

    Beat the crap out of him! big_smile

    No? Not a good answer?

    I can't say. I had girls, and neither was a bully!
    Sorry, can't help you!

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    This is really a hard question.  Neither of my daughters were bullies, but I know it can be a problem.

    First and foremost I would sit down and talk with the child.  Usually bullying has a cause, whether life at home or some incidents of the bully being bullied in his life.

    Let him/her know you know what is going on and if it continues there will be huge consequences including homeschooling (that scares teens to death), loss of computer, or phone, or anything that the child has an interest in keeping.

    You can also tell him that if necessary to get this stopped you will attend school with him, right along side of him.  You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to get it stopped.

    Pick the child up from school. and drop them at the door right before class.  Do not allow the child to have extra time hanging out before school to cause or get into trouble.

    Talk with the teachers and principal and tell them you are aware of the problem and want to stop it and need their assistance.  Have them watch the child carefully so that you can be warned if there are any incidents of bullying--either against your child or him against others.  Don't rule out that he may be getting bullied himself.

    As the child improves, give them more freedom so that they see that their good behavior earns them freedom.

    And pray!

  6. reymysterio6-1-9 profile image51
    reymysterio6-1-9posted 7 years ago

    i would definitely ground him/her and take his/her games of until he/she releases how to behave like a proper child but what if somone was bulleing your child what would you do?

  7. profile image47
    Ourfamily2yoursposted 7 years ago

    Not a good feeling, however must bullies have been bullied at sometime and feel like this is their way to have control.  I would have a serious talk with them and ask then why they are doing it and how they would feel if someone treated him that way.  Maybe they are just feeling unloved, unwanted or singled out some way.  Get to the bottom of it, even if it means getting some counseling.  In today's world it is not a wise idea to keep letting it go on.


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