I give Time outs and i find consistancy works best with my children. None of my children are disobediant and they know that No means No. I have never smacked my children as my biological parents were physicaly abusive to me as a child. I dont agree that 'Time Out' is a joke because it is proven to work and it certainly works for my boys. The reason smacking is so frowned upon now is because so many parents go too far with it, and i am not talking about smacking a childs hand when they are very naughty, i mean smacking a child repeatedly or 'with a object like the old days' which can actualy be very damaging to the child, is there not enough fear and violence in the world without bringing it into the home. This is a issue that people will never agree on.
It depends on what was done. I have three children, there are times when a time out is the right thing, and it works with some children than others. I also believe there are times where a spanking is appropriate. I agree with zoey24 that there will always be differening opinions on this. I think the important part about spanking is that it needs to be done calmly and not as an immediate reaction. It needs to be punishment, not retaliation.
I never spanked my child, I didn't have to. A time out was all that was needed to keep him inline.
I don't believe spanking is a healthy way to discipline a child because it is too easy to abuse. When you break it down and say--I want you to behave in this way and if you don't I will physically cause you pain--it is barbaric.
My daughters were well-behaved and we didn't spank. We talked to them, we used humor, and we told them the way it was and if they needed to spend a few minutes in their bedroom, then we did that (I guess that is a time-out).
When a child is disciplined with fear, you may get good behavior but not for the right reason, and not always when out of the sight of the disciplinarian.
I don't use spanking because I find it to be hypocritical in many cases.
--Don't hit your brother! *WHAP!*
This does send a message to the kid, but I don't think it's a message you really want to send.
It depended upon the offense.........
coloring on the walls, a time out or sit down
putting Dad's boots in the bathtub.............a time out
pulling sisters hair...........a sit down
playing in the street............a spanking! I needed to be sure that I grabbed her attention...........there was NO room for a second chance. That single act could have cost my child her life.
Just wanted to state how supportive I am of all the parents that DONT spank. Great points made by the folks that mentioned how time outs were effective. It will never make sense to me how adults can justify smacking, spanking, or hitting their children. End of story@!
by crystaleyes 5 years ago
If your child does something wrong like hit you because you have not given in to his tantrum, what would you do? I have sometimes given a smack on his back for misbehavior.. is it fine or am i being a bad parent?
by Audrey Hunt 5 years ago
Do you believe in spanking children?
by Wendy Iturrizaga 6 years ago
Spanking as a form of disciplineThe are many parents who believe that corporal punishment is necessary for successful child rearing. Is that true? Or is spanking another form of child abuse?
by dejajolie 7 years ago
Ok, here's a sensitive topic I know. However, as someone who has endured several memorable spankings i.e belts, extension chords, and any other hard, sturdy pain inducing make-shift whip...yes Therapy is on the "to do list", don't judge me... I often ask myself, is it ok to spank. I do...
by Kristen Burns-Darling 5 years ago
Should a father spank his teenage child for making her step-mother mad?I know a 13 year old girl who's father spanked her with a belt for making her step-mother angry, and then told her that every time that the step-mother informed him that the girl had made her mad, he was going to do...
by Shil1978 7 years ago
Would you spank your child? Do you think it is right or produces results? Do you approve of it?
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