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Do you spank or give time outs?

  1. roshall profile image80
    roshallposted 6 years ago

    Do you spank or give time outs?

  2. zoey24 profile image77
    zoey24posted 6 years ago

    I give Time outs and i find consistancy works best with my children. None of my children are disobediant and they know that No means No. I have never smacked my children as my biological parents were physicaly abusive to me as a child. I dont agree that 'Time Out' is a joke because it is proven to work and it certainly works for my boys. The reason smacking is so frowned upon now is because so many parents go too far with it, and i am not talking about smacking a childs hand when they are very naughty, i mean smacking a child repeatedly or 'with a object like the old days' which can actualy be very damaging to the child, is there not enough fear and violence in the world without bringing it into the home. This is a issue that people will never agree on.

  3. Adventure Colorad profile image82
    Adventure Coloradposted 6 years ago

    It depends on what was done.  I have three children, there are times when a time out is the right thing, and it works with some children than others.  I also believe there are times where a spanking is appropriate.  I agree with zoey24 that there will always be differening opinions on this.  I think the important part about spanking is that it needs to be done calmly and not as an immediate reaction.  It needs to be punishment, not retaliation.

  4. TCM Specialist profile image59
    TCM Specialistposted 6 years ago

    I never spanked my child, I didn't have to. A time out was all that was needed to keep him inline.

  5. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    I don't believe spanking is a healthy way to discipline a child because it is too easy to abuse.  When you break it down and say--I want you to behave in this way and if you don't I will physically cause you pain--it is barbaric.

    My daughters were well-behaved and we didn't spank.  We talked to them, we used humor, and we told them the way it was and if they needed to spend a few minutes in their bedroom, then we did that (I guess that is a time-out).

    When a child is disciplined with fear, you may get good behavior but not for the right reason, and not always when out of the sight of the disciplinarian.

  6. Jeff Berndt profile image87
    Jeff Berndtposted 6 years ago

    I don't use spanking because I find it to be hypocritical in many cases.

    --Don't hit your brother! *WHAP!*

    This does send a message to the kid, but I don't think it's a message you really want to send.

  7. onegoodwoman profile image75
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    It depended upon the offense.........

    coloring on the walls, a time out or sit down

    putting Dad's boots in the bathtub.............a time out

    pulling sisters hair...........a sit down

    playing in the street............a spanking!  I needed to be sure that I grabbed her attention...........there was NO room for a second chance.  That single act could have cost my child her life.

  8. KDF profile image77
    KDFposted 6 years ago

    Just wanted to state how supportive I am of all the parents that DONT spank. Great points made by the folks that mentioned how time outs were effective. It will never make sense to me how adults can justify smacking, spanking, or hitting their children. End of story@!

 
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