I have to tell you the story before I tell you what's rediculous.
A close family friend of mine called us one day and told us that her husband of more than 25 years said he wanted a divorce (she had no clue anything was wrong). He did not ask for her retirement and he gave her alimony. We came to find out that he had cheated on her and ended up marrying the woman 2 months after the divorce was final. Now he came back and said he doesn't want to pay alimony and that he deserves her retirement pay.
Now to the rediculous part. The courts agree'd with him. He cheated on her, ended their marriage, marries a woman 2 months later and doesn't have to pay a cent and gets a big chunk of her retirement money. That is just horrifying.
Now to add, she is an absolutely gorgeous woman, who loved him with all her heart. She worked her butt off for him and he did this to her.
This is just completely wrong.
Well, we heard just one side of the story. Oh, and btw, it is ridiculous
haha I knew it looked wrong. Sorry, only one hour of sleep last night to add to a total of 6 for the past week.
What was the reason the judge gave for your friend having to give her retirement money to this guy?
The only reason was because he said that they had been married for a long time.
That's a pity.
I believe in karma - you reap what you so. Hopefully, in a few years time or sooner she will find happiness again. Meanwhile, her ex-hubby's wife would have probably left him.
My heart goes out to her...
Oh and when he got a divorce, he said that it wasn't because of her at all. He said he got bored. He also mentioned that he wanted kids, however, they couldn't and had to resort to implantation. After a few failed times, he gave up even though she was still willing. When we talked to him, he could say one bad thing about her. A month after the divorce, he asked her to come back but she said she wasn't ready to. Then he got married the next month. He also ended up marrying a woman that could be her twin.
I believe in 'what goes around... comes around', maybe in days to come his new wife finds a sexy, young man and they run off into the sunset... Oh and don't forget the divorce settlement!
Yeah I think she should but I think she's just done with this whole thing. It's been a complete shock and horrible disappointment. She says she just wants to move on and get on with her life.
Probably had to do with the community property laws of the state they divorced in.
Was she military? In most states, again due to community property laws, spouses usually get % of the retired pay per number of years together while on active duty. Doesn't matter who filed for divorce, who cheated, who worked or emotionally supported the most etc.
All I can say is, the b*stard got remarried to a very smart woman, as I'm sure she was behind the new-found interest in the retirement money.
Nope, noy military.
I do think the new wife was behind it.
From what I know, in most states (and in my state), once a court rules on alimony and other assets, the decision is final. Not sure why your friend lost her retirement plan (or 1/2 of it).
How long has it been since they got divorced? What state? In most states, like mine, once you're divorced and both parties sign off on the assets/alimony and are legally divorced, you can't come back and demand money later on. You signed away your rights. It's final.
Perhaps the divorce wasn't orchestrated correctly to begin with and this is why he was able to do this.
If this isn't to inquisitive... what are people doing to help her? I'm not sure what I would do besides be there...
They had their divorce finalized about a year ago. He somehow was able to get them to allow him to stop paying alimony, maybe because he's married now? I don't know. However, She had an email from him stated that he didn't want her retirement money and that he wouldn't come after it. When he went to court this time, he was stating that he did say he wanted the retirement. So he goes in lying and she has proof of it and it still didn't matter.
The only thing that we can do is be there. She was doing fine after he got married until he brought her back to court. She has a great job, a big new apartment and she had even started going out on dates. This just caused her pain all over again.
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