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Baby constantly cries - do you believe in leaving them be (controlled crying)or

  1. Sam Elutilo profile image60
    Sam Elutiloposted 6 years ago

    Baby constantly cries - do you believe in leaving them be (controlled crying)or picking them up asap

    Some people are divided between letting them cry it out, or picking them up immediately when they cry.  The reason they want to be picked up repeatedly is purely for attention (not food, dirty nappy, colic etc)


  2. jacqui2011 profile image85
    jacqui2011posted 6 years ago

    I never picked any of my babies up as soon as they cried. They can become quite cunning and can go on to associate crying with being held and cuddled. As long as I was sure they weren't hungry or needing nappies changed, I let them cry for a little while. I didn't leave them crying for ages, it was for a minute or two. Sometimes they would stop crying after a few minutes and go back to sleep.

  3. Sheila Lee profile image60
    Sheila Leeposted 6 years ago

    I never picked up my baby right away. They will get used to it and expect it every time, especially if it is for attention. If it goes on for a period of time, then pick them up and see what their need is: food, diaper change, etc. But picking them up right away will only get them used to the attention and you'll have a difficult time breaking that cycle.

  4. Jackie Lynnley profile image89
    Jackie Lynnleyposted 6 years ago

    I believed in spanking children so I am not a spoiling parent and I know picking up can spoil and cause a habit but I could never let my children cry. I would rub their backs or bellies and feel them all over to see their stomach was hard possibly with gas or if any spot was sensitive to touch, such as pain. Cry is their only means of speaking and I think it always has to be taken seriously. So I say not don't pick them up but always try to stop the crying in other ways.

  5. JBBlack profile image60
    JBBlackposted 6 years ago

    Right away.  We couldn't stand our babies crying.  We always thought 9 months in 9 months out.

  6. mathira profile image84
    mathiraposted 6 years ago

    I will immediately pick up the baby as it gives them such emotional security.

  7. greatparenting profile image61
    greatparentingposted 6 years ago

    I think the answer is a hybrid of sorts. Give them a moment to see if the cry is just a passing phase but then, if it lasts, pick them up and give them comfort. Daytime hours you can hold and comfort for a while. Nighttime hours you'll want to comfort just a bit in order to get them to go back to sleep. Sometimes the crying is just a mystery. Once you've picked them up, changed them, burped them, sang to them and hugged them a bit more, you just have to let them cry it out. I don't think there's one right answer to this one. Do what feels right to you. Sometimes the parent is more upset about the crying than the baby is. Do what you can to make yourself feel better!

  8. brielise profile image60
    brieliseposted 6 years ago

    I think it depends on the situation. Yes, some babies cry purely for attention, but if they're crying constantly then there's a good chance something is actually wrong. I've babysat a spoiled baby and had to teach her to self-soothe, which I think is very important for a child's growth. At first she cried a lot, particularly at nap time, but after a while she stopped crying as much and generally seemed much happier. My niece on the other hand cried non-stop. My sister-in-law took her to their doctor who said she was just high maintenance and to just let her cry. Because it was more than that she didn't stop crying, and ultimately holding her didn't help either. It turned at she had major stomach issues and needed surgery. So while I am an advocate of self-soothing, I would say that if they're crying "constantly" it's probably more than just a desire for attention.