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Do you think stay at home Dads are "lazy"?

  1. gjfalcone profile image79
    gjfalconeposted 6 years ago

    Do you think stay at home Dads are "lazy"?

  2. Jesus was a hippy profile image61
    Jesus was a hippyposted 6 years ago

    Only if they are lazy I do. Otherwise I dont.

  3. greatparenting profile image61
    greatparentingposted 6 years ago

    No one who has ever been a stay-at-home parent would call another one lazy. That's where all the hardest and most important work is done, after all.

  4. kallini2010 profile image82
    kallini2010posted 6 years ago

    I think anyone who stays at home - is a hero.

    I am not employed, but I do not consider myself "stay at home mom" because I am working on my writing. 

    Being at home to me is being imprisoned.  Even if a dad stays at home BECAUSE his main responsibility is CHILDREN - it is a nightmare, all this home/house work, endless, unappreciated, maddening...


    Maybe some people are, but it all depends on a person, a situation, .... something...  and then

    we are not intrinsically lazy - we are not motivated and then we are simply depressed.

    I do believe in everyone being talented but trapped in the Asylum of Everyday Life.

    I would not think of people who stay at home as lazy.

    Laziness is a phenomenon that deserves the second and really GOOD LOOK.

    Why?  If you believe someone is lazy, ask him/her and yourself - Why?

    What is the root? What is the reason?

    Ask "a lazy person" - "Are you happy?"

  5. K. Burns Darling profile image83
    K. Burns Darlingposted 6 years ago

    In my lifetime, I have been both a working mom, and a stay-at-home mom, and a working-at-home-mom, in my corporate life, I worked five days a week, between forty and sixty hours a week; as a stay-at-home mom, I worked seven days a week, and I was on-duty twenty-four hours a day.  I was the day-care provider, the chief cook and bottle washer, the dietitian,  the grocery shopper,   the laundress, the housekeeper, the activities director, the chauffeur, the nurse, the tutor, the bookkeeper, the seamstress, the arbitrator, and the referee.  I coached my son's t-ball team, my daughter's soccer team, was a room-mom and a PTA board member. I worked harder as a stay-at-home mom than I had ever worked before, or since.  Do I think that an at-home dad is lazy?  He doesn't have the time.

  6. Hezmyjoy profile image60
    Hezmyjoyposted 6 years ago

    Actually, as much as I would like to think that it would be a great thing for the children as well as the mother of the children, I don't. I do think he is lazy. I keep thinking about the big picture and looking down the road at the son who sees his dad every day at home and having aspirations to do the same thing. The man grows up to find a wife and she asks him where does he see himself in 10 years and his answer is, at home with you. YIKES!

  7. NayNay2124 profile image75
    NayNay2124posted 6 years ago

    No, I do not. My husband stayed home for a while when my children were small and he did a fantastic job of taking care of the children and cleaning the house. He did everything I would have done if I stayed home.

  8. Happyboomernurse profile image86
    Happyboomernurseposted 6 years ago

    I think parenting is the hardest job in the world whether it's done by a stay at home mom or dad or two parents who are employed.
    I also believe that there are some domestic situations where the father is best suited tempermentally to stay home with the child, especially if the mother has a good paying job.
    In today's economy and tough job situation some families don't have much choice as to who is the main wage earner and who shoulders most of the parenting responsibilities.

  9. Faceless39 profile image94
    Faceless39posted 6 years ago

    Staying at home is one of the toughest jobs you can do, so no.  If he's pulling his weight (and not just drinking beer and watching TV), then he's probably got a pretty tough job and is not lazy at all.

  10. imichelle profile image75
    imichelleposted 6 years ago

    Depends.  Is he actually parenting and supporting the household from within, or is he sitting in the living room drinking beer and playing WoW all day? lol

    Being a stay-at-home parent can be a very fulfilling and a very challenging job. I don't see anything wrong with dads doing it, and I do not automatically believe it means they are "lazy".  Lazy is lazy, and stay at home parent does not necessarily equal lazy whether they are the mom or the dad.

  11. edhan profile image59
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    It depends on individual and cannot be bundled as a whole.

    There will always be some under the classification of 'lazy' while others as super home dads.

    Dads can be very handy as stay home person as he can do and help out in getting things fixed and handling situations when it is most desired.

    Whether stay home or working Dads, I do believe majority will be good rather than lazy.

  12. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    Not at all. Anyone who stays at home, making a home, taking care of kids or whatever is not lazy but as kallini2010 says - is a hero.

  13. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image96
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 6 years ago

    I'm single, no children.

    I think I'd make an outstanding stay at home dad for a hard working Lady!!!!

    You could call me lazy, you could wish in one hand and spit in the other and see which one filled up first....wouldn't bother me any.

    I'd do this internet thing and hang out with the kids!

  14. MarleneB profile image98
    MarleneBposted 6 years ago

    Oh my goodness, no! A stay at home parent, be it the mom or the dad should be glorified. It is a difficult job to raise children. While there is a lot of joy in raising children, there is a lot of hard work involved. Parents who stay at home to raise children are the hardest working people on the planet.

  15. FloraBreenRobison profile image58
    FloraBreenRobisonposted 6 years ago

    When there are younger than school age children in the home, the children either have a stay at home parent or end up being in daycare all day. If a family chooses to be  a one income family - or is forced to by lack of jobs - what does it matter which parent it is? Why cling to the stereotype that the woman's place is in the home and the man's place is at work? No, he is not lazy.

  16. Pascale1973 profile image78
    Pascale1973posted 6 years ago

    I agree with imichele, it all depends whether he's doing the house work or just staying at home.  For some reason it doesn't sit well with me, it's against nature.

  17. Cogerson profile image81
    Cogersonposted 6 years ago

    Well I have been a stay at home dad for over 4 years now.  Before that I did 21 years of managing grocery stores.  Including managing the busiest Food Lion in the entire country and having over 300 associates ....and I can tell you it is way more rewarding watching my two little girls grow up and seeing them develop on a every day basis...which is something that I missed with my older children.  But as for your question.  I might get some time between when the 5 year old goes to school and the 2 year old wakes up.  Could range between 15 minutes and a hour.....but other than that my day is cooking, cleaning, teaching, running errands, going to schools, followed by more cooking and cleaning.  Then around 9:00 PM they go to bed....and I get some free time with my wife....who is usually about to go to sleep by 10:00PM.  So I can do some HubPage writing between 10:00 PM and 2:00 AM....as I have to get some sleep before the cycle starts again.

  18. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 6 years ago

    L A Z Y ???!!!   As if raising and caring for children is EASY?  Stay-at-Home Dads are HEROS in my opinion.  Any Dad who loves his family enough to make this decision, is a wonderfully selfless individual.  When a couple makes the choice of WHO works outside the home and who stays with the children, it's obvious they are taking all things into consideration...BUT it's also apparent the kids come first, or they could just stick them in day care.  In my view, I find Dad's to have all the best attributes for "primary parenting,"   especially in the "patience" dept.

  19. adjkp25 profile image93
    adjkp25posted 6 years ago

    I don't think that stay at home dads are lazy at all.  My wife does most of her work from home while my normal job is a traditional 40 hour a week one.  She asked me years ago if I would switch roles if she ever made more money than me, I answered very quickly that I would be more than happy to.

    If the family structure is setup where one parent stays at home to take care of the children instead of dropping them off at day care I don't think it matters if it is the mom or the dad.