Parents of boys. Do you teach your son the act of chivalry?

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  1. missolive profile image94
    missoliveposted 8 years ago

    Parents of boys. Do you teach your son the act of chivalry?

    Is chivalry a lost form of etiquette?

  2. billybuc profile image88
    billybucposted 8 years ago

    My son is twenty-seven now and we just went to the store and held the door open for a woman entering behind him....yes, he was taught chivalry, as I was.

  3. Jessi10 profile image67
    Jessi10posted 8 years ago

    Teaching the act of chivalry is simply teaching boys manners. Boys learn how to act differently than girls, based on what parents teach them. As a parent of a boy, I simply teach my son whats expected of him (for his age) and what isn't.

  4. roxanne459 profile image84
    roxanne459posted 8 years ago

    Absolutely! I have two boys ages 9 and 11 and we teach them to open doors, stand when a lady leaves the table, no abnoxious body noises or bad language around ladies etc. They love they positive attention they get when use their manners so it isn't hard to enforce them at all.

  5. proudmamma profile image81
    proudmammaposted 8 years ago

    I don't know if I would call it chivalry or just manners and respect. When my sixteen year old had a girlfriend, I was very proud of him. I noticed he would open doors, and even pull out her chair for her. I was very impressed and beamed with PRIDE!

  6. CeLestialCameo profile image80
    CeLestialCameoposted 8 years ago

    I have to agree with what seems to be the general consensus here that chivalry is the same as just plain good manners and respect for others or at least a form of these concepts. My 16 year old is prone to saying "Excuse me", holding doors open for everyone when we are out and about and in general showing respect for others whether they reciprocate or not. Yes, I have certainly taught him that not just through my words, but via my actions. He certainly did not learn it from his father. Ha ha Those are just my thoughts. By the way, good for the other moms with answers here for teaching chivalry and good manners!

  7. petenali profile image83
    petenaliposted 8 years ago

    My two sons  fully understand chivalry, however what saddens me most is that on countless occasions they have held open doors for middle aged ladies at the mall without said ladies saying a word of thanks. Chivalry may well die completely if rudeness and ingratitude continue to escalate.

  8. fpherj48 profile image60
    fpherj48posted 8 years ago

    You are brave to give a platform to a PROUD mother of four adult sons.....I'm happy to be my obnoxious self when it comes to them........Their manners are all times and certainly "chivalry" is part of this.  I did focus on teaching them the importance of respect, and in the case of women, to be "gentlemen" and appreciate their value and nurturing nature. 
    I'll stop there or believe me, I'll go on for hours!  Nice question!

  9. teaches12345 profile image91
    teaches12345posted 8 years ago

    I taught my son to respect others and I am happy to say that he does this today willingly.  He has children now and he demonstrates and encourages them to follow his example.  He loves elderly people and knows that he can learn lots from their experience. He opens doors for others, remembers his Ps and Qs, etc. It's just nice to know that and see it in action.

  10. annart profile image89
    annartposted 8 years ago

    I'm so pleased to read the reactions to this question, though I must say that I'm surprised.  There seems to be a leaning in Britain which thinks that the equality of the sexes means men don't need to open doors etc. for women any more; this saddens me, though I hope it is still in the minority.  As others have said, it's down to manners and respect.  I'll hold the door open behind me for anyone, not let it shut in their face.  I'll open a door for a bloke if they're carrying something, or even if they're not, just to be nice and return the favour.  What do manners cost?  Nothing.  Or maybe they do - maybe a lack of manners costs us unkindness, disrespect, lowering of standards, to the extent that it may descend into rudeness or worse.  We all owe each other the respect of one human to another.  I am still one of those who believe that men are the stronger sex (and that doesn't mean better!) and I like it that way!  By the way, I don't have any sons but I'd teach them chivalry if I had - my grandson's a bit small yet (just 1!).

  11. profile image58
    Mobetposted 8 years ago

    First of all manners are very important and I am very happy to see everyones answers but you are not answering the question chivary is the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms I no this because my husband has taught this word and its meaning to united states soldiers for 20 years


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