How do you get your children to want to be friends with their siblings?
Our kids are real close in age. 7, 6 and soon to be 5 years old. So them being friends isn't too hard. They all play really well together. However, to help a little we always do stuff that the oldest one can help the youngest one with. She loves helping her little brother. We also "share" chores, cooking, playing, etc. I couldn't imagine how hard it would be to have a teenager and a toddler. That could be challenging.
My children are 8 years apart. My daughter mothered my son and they were and are very close. I stayed out of their disagreements as much as possible and let them work things out between them. I think that is an important element in a growing friendship. If siblings think they can manipulate parents it may be harder to develop a friendship. Also, I never EVER compared the two of them or acted as though I preferred one of their personalities or behaviors over the other. Oh, I teased each about being my favorite but we all knew it was a joke. I think that kept sibling rivalry down because it was absolutely USELESS with me. I loved them differently but equally if that makes sense.
Don't take sides with one child against the other. When appreciating one child do not forget to appreciate the other too for something he must have done in the past. Treat all children with equal love and affection and they will be friends.
Give them fun activities to do together that don't require Mom or Dad favoring the younger one or better one.
Take them to the park or playground where both kids can play together.
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It may not ever happen. My brother and I never got along growing up, even though we were very close in age. We were just different people, and I have learned to accept that. Now that we are adults, we tolerate each other's company to a point, but seldom see each other. Sometimes it just doesn't happen, and trust me, there is nothing the parent can do to influence whether or not two people (even their children) get along. It's all about personality and interest; who they are as a person, and try as you might, a parent has no control over who their children are as people.
by Elayne 4 years ago
I was born and raised in one area and then after getting married have lived most of my life far away from my siblings. It has been hard to keep the relationship going, although it really was never that close to begin with - how about yours?
by Wasteless Project 4 years ago
Do you think that children who grow up with siblings are happier?How much difference do siblings really make in a child's life? What are your own and your kids experiences?
by NiaG 2 years ago
Or if you had siblings did you wish you were an only child?
by Gemini Fox 5 years ago
If you are an only child, do you wish that you had been part of a large family OR . . .if you had many siblings, do you wish that you had been from a smaller family or an only child?
by Le_patty 11 months ago
Should Parents be their children friends, or just a parent?When does friendship with your children takes away your parenthood?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 12 months ago
To those who have 1 child, do you get intrusive, probing questions from relatives &other people?
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