How would you discipline a child who continues to play "forbidden" video games a

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   breathe2travelposted 13 years ago

   How would you discipline a child who continues to play "forbidden" video games at friends' homes?

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   kittyjjposted 13 years ago

   I would say take away your child's privilege of going over to his/her friends houses, but allow him/her to hangout with friends in places other than their homes.

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   greatparentingposted 13 years ago

   First, your child must be pretty honest with you to admit that he/she is playing these games. If that's the case, acknowledge that honesty and don't punish the infraction or your child will learn that it may be better to lie to you than to admit something that might result in punishment. You can go over the reasons why you don't like these games and hope for the best. You should let the other parent know that you don't want your child to play these games and hope that he or she will respect your wishes. Finally, remember that you can't always be around your kid and sometimes you have to trust that they've taken the knowledge you've given them and will find their own way by trying out different things and coming back (we hope) to the values you hold dear.

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      breathe2travelposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      This was the third time in about 7 days.  We extended mercy, I suppose you could say.  He is on restriction for 4-5 days - where he has to be near a parent at all times.  His friends can come here, but he cannot go anywhere without a parent.

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   krillcoposted 13 years ago

   The counselor would first ask: 'Why are the games forbidden?' And then discuss how there is a narrow space between protection and over-protection; helping kids live in the world but not be of the world.

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      breathe2travelposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      We have covered that subject quite well, several times. Thanks for replying!

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